#asexual problems

HAPPY IAD DAY EVERYONE!💜🤍🩶🖤

Since explaining my sexuality usually results in people asking all kinds of uncomfortable questions, I keep with me the definition card and let it do the job for me, and I tell them I wont explain any further, because personally, it’s not their businessI’m a proud Ace, but that doesn’t mean I have to openly tell people I just met about all the details about my sexuality. Asexual people can masturbate, have sex, watch porn, be sex repulsive, neutral or positive. That doesn’t mean we have to tell you extensively if we do or are any of these as soon we tell you we are Ace. Please respect us regardless of our place in the spectrum💜

if you're attractive, you just "haven't found the right partner"

if you're unattractive, you're just "coping"

if you're hetero, you're a "closeted gay"

if you're homo/bi, you're just an "attention seeker"

if you're sex positive or sex neutral, you're a "liar"

if you're sex negative, you're a "prude"

if you speak out about acespec issues, you're "entitled"

if you don't speak out about acespec issues, you're "invisible"

if you're cis, you're "not queer enough"

if you date the opposite gender, you're "not queer enough"

if you're trans, your asexuality "doesn't matter"

if you date the same gender, your asexuality "doesn't matter"

if you're SA'd, it's "your fault"

if you're a sex worker, you're "deceitful"

if you write about asexuality, you're "boring"

if you write smut, you're "fake"

if you try to find community, you're "attention seeking"

if you keep to yourself, you're "narcissistic"

And those aren't even the real life issues that asexual people face on a daily basis. We can't even talk about our real life because simply trying to exist online and trying to build communities is downright near impossible all on its own.

reading and writing smut? great, love it!

looking at nsfw art of The Characters? awesome, give me more!

I hate how I tell people I'm asexual and their reaction is "oh so you're just freaky but you don't act on it".

I'm asexual. I lack a sexuality. I lack desire, drive, libido, and attraction, although I acknowledge that only lack of attraction is necessary for asexuality. I do not want anything to do with sex, fictional or otherwise. I'm not a fucking "coach", I am not a sexual creature.

I hate how asexuality has become sexualized.