You know you would think that most Christians would be accepting of asexual/aroace people because Paul says that not getting married is a HIGHER calling but youre actually suuuper likely to get people who believe that sex & marriage are inoptional together, make that well known knowledge, then, aware of your disgust, pressure YOU to also get married and have children. The Bible says it is not good for man to be alone, thus God made Eve. The Bible never says that sex and marriage are a must, or that married people MUST have sex. Paul's verses in corinthians are tagetted to people who **want sex** and is clearly not addressing marriage where the two people went into it agreeing to not be physical. You can still have deep intimacy without sex. Marriage is more than just sex and children and if two people dont want sex and get married, theyre still married. If an allo and ace get together even, I feel its kinda more important to avoid sexually assaulting your spouse than to have unwanted sex- they should also you know, tell you beforehand that they dont want sex. But after that its on them to choose (I have been met with 'but what if your husband changes his mind and wants sex and kids later?' Shoot man I never thought of that! (I have) but uuuh kinda sounds like a him thing moreso than a me thing? Him changing his mind doesnt mean its suddenly okay for him to assault me nor make me feel guilty for not wanting sex and children). This is the kinda stuff you end up getting into when youre an ace Christian. We're told our whole lives sex is a bad thing then when we actually dont want to do it "Noooooo the hypothetical man you may never meet and marry has to have something to screwwww and it has to be youuuu nooooo, no! Just do it anyway because we care more about a fictional man's ability to procreate than your comfort and well being and also health because of your health conditions that make birth dangerous despite the fact that we are well aware of what they are, nooooo, be fruitful and multiply-" which btw "be fruitful and multiply" can refer to evangelizing (idk how you personally feel about that blog owner Im just trying basically to tell other ace christians they can still be biblical without being forced into uncomfortable traditional norms) and not just making babies. (Which, the best way to evangelize, my dear ace christian kids, I think, is to just be legitimate friends with people, being the best version of yourself that you can, and being respectful of other people and be willing to actually listen to them 👍 We do not yell, scream, manipulate or try to force anyone into anything, or tell people they are going to Hell <- I want to clarify what I define evangelizing to be bc I know how bad a taste it can leave in peoples mouths and dont wanna make op too uncomfortable with the topic to post it. Im not supporting hateful vile evil behavior, I think a lot of Christians have a lot of stuff wrong and behave poorly tbh)
But yeah the expirience of being asexual/sex repulsed/apothisexual and also a Christian is legitimately insane. Growing up, since no one was pressuring me to have sex and I was praised for my chastity, I had literally no idea the issue I was in for once I hit 18 and still expressed no interest in sex and expressed that if I ever got married itd be a sexless relationship. Literally people panicked when I mentioned the idea of a sexless marriage as if I would like. Trap some poor innocent man in a marriage he couldnt enjoy. Treated me as if I was an idiot that wouldn't express that desire super early on and try to find someone like me, or at least someone who didn't care or place that much value in sexual relationships. Its as if they thought Id naively never considered the possibilities. When youre an ace child growing up, you are so overwhelmingly aware of how sexualized the world around you is and thus how careful you need to be when looking for a partner to ensure youre with someone who isn't going to pull a 180 on your and try to guilt/coerce/assault you. The fact that people were more concerned with some nonexistent hypothetical mans sexual pleasure than ME was genuinely so hurtful. It felt like it came out of no where when Id previously been nothing but praised for my 'patience' and lack of interest in boys. I told someone when I was like late 17 about my stance so i dont necessarily think it was because I was 18 when it started and had just become an adult thus could get married, I think that was a coincidence, but its STILL what happened. Like literally just let me be ace in peace. If I get married Ill marry another ace person, or someone who can't have sex, or an allosexual christian that doesnt care about sex, regardless they'll know well enough in advance to make a good decision and if they marry me. They knew what they were doing. If they love me they wont want to sexually assault me. The conversation is infuriating.
