aphobia is not just harmful to asexual and aromantic people. it hurts everyone when society tells people they are not complete without a romantic partner. that they are arenât a whole person if they arenât in love and sexually desirable. people spend some of the most fulfilling parts of their lives feeling like theyâre wasting that time because they arenât in a relationship. they spend so much time looking for âthe oneâ. time that could be spent learning, travelling, building a found family. they miss out on meaningful relationships, on soulmates, because they are told that person canât be the most important person in their life. it devalues the support thatâs found in community, it devalues the love found in friendships, it devalues the importance for living for oneself.