Asexuals can never win because...
if you're attractive, you just "haven't found the right partner"
if you're unattractive, you're just "coping"
if you're hetero, you're a "closeted gay"
if you're homo/bi, you're just an "attention seeker"
if you're sex positive or sex neutral, you're a "liar"
if you're sex negative, you're a "prude"
if you speak out about acespec issues, you're "entitled"
if you don't speak out about acespec issues, you're "invisible"
if you're cis, you're "not queer enough"
if you date the opposite gender, you're "not queer enough"
if you're trans, your asexuality "doesn't matter"
if you date the same gender, your asexuality "doesn't matter"
if you're SA'd, it's "your fault"
if you're a sex worker, you're "deceitful"
if you write about asexuality, you're "boring"
if you write smut, you're "fake"
if you try to find community, you're "attention seeking"
if you keep to yourself, you're "narcissistic"
And those aren't even the real life issues that asexual people face on a daily basis. We can't even talk about our real life because simply trying to exist online and trying to build communities is downright near impossible all on its own.
I've been in the trenches for twelve years now, and I'm so tired.
