#caedromantic

You are still asexual even if you have SA trauma!

You are still aroace even if you have schizoid PD!

You are still aromantic even if you have NPD!

You are still afamilial even if you have ASPD!

You are still aplatonic even if you are autistic!

Disabled aspecs

Neurodivergent aspecs

Low/No empathy aspecs

Caedsexual/caedromantic aspecs

Sex/romance repulsed aspecs

Young aspecs

"Never Been In Love" by Will Jay

"Aromantic Moodboard" by Max Lizanich

"Crush Culture" by Conan Gray

"i think i wanna be alone" by mazie

"Zero Feelings" by Zoe Clark

"Turning Out" by AJR

"Please Don't Say You Love Me" by Gabrielle Aplin

"Not A Love Song" by bülow

"I Am Not a Robot" by MARINA

Other songs with aro-positive vibes

"Sports" by Beach Bunny

"Driving Myself Home" by Rose Betts

"despair" by leo

"my ted talk" by mxmtoon

"Kissaphobic" by Make Out Monday

"Rose" by The Weeknd (can be interpreted as platonic)

"FRIENDS" by Marshmello and Anne-Marie

"Dance Floor Anthem (I Don't Wanna Be In Love)" by Good Charlotte

"I'll Be There" by Walk Off The Earth

"You're My Best Friend" by Queen

as you all may know, im caedosexual. if you dont know what that means basically i am asexual due to trauma [there are aro/aroace versions of this label]. im not ashamed of this identity, but you know what i AM ashamed of ? THE FLAGS. THEYRE SO ASS. IM SO SICK AND TIRED AND I MADE A NEW ONE [GREEN AND BLUE VARIANTS FOR CAEDROMANTIC AND CAEDAROACE FOLKS RESPECTIVELY]

the colors also have meaning !!!!!!!!!

dark red - trauma red - grief and anger and all the feelings that come with being Traumatized lighter red - properly processing trauma and acceptance of caedo identity [when i slowly realized i was caedosexual i felt ashamed because i was "feeding into" the stereotype that ace people are "broken" or wtv. but if your asexuality/aromanticism is caused by trauma thats totally valid !!] white - healing from said trauma shades of purple/green/blue - the vast ace / aro / aroace spectrums. encompasses sex/romance favorable, indifferent and repulsed individuals, and everything in between

Saw this on Pinterst. Felt the need to share it.

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the prefix caed- or caedo- in caedromantic indicates that the person was alloromantic at some point, but traumatic experiences resulted in the person developing aromanticism. while the traumatic experiences can [and usually do] involve unhealthy romantic relationships, any form of trauma can result in a caedo- identity

for some reason caedos are really frowned upon? because to allos its like "ohh you just havent found the right person yet!" or "just go to therapy, itll fix that!" as if there was something to fix but when interacting in queer spaces its all "you have to be BORN aromantic to count" and "youre pushing stereotypes of us!!!"

while i do understand that aspec identities are often chalked off as mental illness or the person being "broken", caedromantics arent trying to perpetuate any stereotypes. caedromantic people just. exist. and it doesnt make us any less aromantic as someone who was born aromantic, or someone who developed aromanticism overtime, or any type of aromantic out there. i was so afraid of coming to terms with the fact that my aromanricism stemmed from trauma because i thought i was "proving arophobes right", and i hated myself for it for almost a year.

a good friend of mine once said genuine experiences cant feed into stereotypes because people live and experience the world in unique ways, and it coincidentally aligning with a stereotype in some way is simply unfortunate. and its true. to any caedoromantics out there, the source of your lack of attraction doesnt make it any less respectable or 'valid' [i dont like using that word but im out of ideas]

so yeah. the exclusion and injustice caedromantics face is arophobia.

this is arophobia

- you experience rare romantic attraction

- you experience rare sexual attraction

- you experience romantic/sexual attraction but do not desire a relationship

- you don't experience attraction but desire a relationship

- you feel tertiary attraction AND sexual/romantic attraction

- you used to be in relationships and had attraction, but don't anymore

- you have libido, enjoy sex, etc.

- you are completely repulsed

- your aro/ace identity/intensity fluctuates

- you don't know how to label yourself

- you don't want to label yourself

- you enjoy romantic/sexual content

- are aro/ace due to trauma

- are indifferent rather than repulsed

- you use multiple labels

- you feel romantic/sexual attraction, and fantasize about being with that person, but wouldn't actually date them or do things with them

- you are aro/ace but identify with another label off the aspec

- you crush on people, but it stops there and you don't wanna date!

- you fantasize about sex/romance, not just fictional but in real life, but once it's about to happen or it comes up, you don't actually want it

- desire a relationship but can't feel attraction

- can't differentiate between attractions

- can't differentiate between attractions due to being neurodivergent

- are on the aspec due to being neurodivergent

- you have 'contradictory' labels

- you feel non-tertiary attraction sometimes but don't use a label that describes that, just using plain old aro/ace instead! keeping it simple :3+<

- if you identity as aro/ace!!

Made this post bc of my aroace crisis and feeling kinda invalid/left out being grayromantic asexual but still experiencing rare romantic attraction (please ask for more to add to the list!)

THIS IS TO ALL MY ORCHIDROMANTICS/SEXUALS, GRAYROMANTIC/SEXUALS, CAEDROMANTIC/SEXUALS, APOTHIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, LITHROMANTIC/SEXUALS, MYRROMANTIC/SEXUALS, DESINOROMANTIC/SEXUALS, REQUISROMANTIC/SEXUAL, RECIPROMANTIC/SEXUAL, CUPIOROMANTIC/SEXUAL, ANGLED AROACES, IDEMROMANTIC/SEXUALS, NEBULAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, NOVIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, PLACIOROMANTIC/SEXUALS, FRAYROMANTIC/SEXUALS, DEMIROMANTIC/SEXUALS, ZINNIAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, ICULAROMANTIC/SEXUALS, AMIDS AND ANYONE ELSE WHO FEELS LEFT OUT.

AS AN ARO/ACE PERSON, IF YOU ARE ON THE SPECTRUM, STOP INVALIDATING PEOPLES' IDENTITIES. WE NEED ASPEC SOLIDARITY, NOT DISCOURSE. IM NOT SAYING "oh, just tolerate them! we have bigger problems than.." NO. ACCEPT THEM. SUPPORT THEM.

(Ily also just aroaces that are more recognized, but I want the people who feel left out to know they're loved)

OP rarely feels romantic attraction but only uses aroace to describe their identity! I used to use grayromantic but less labels :3