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i dont "struggle" with isolation, i'm actually soooooo super fucking good at it

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it's always sad when I see people with psychological disabilities (most often PDs) say things like "i don't feel attraction but i'm trying to" or "i can't love, how do i fix this?"

genuinely, if you don't feel attraction (of any sort! not just sexual), consider that you're A-spec!! being traumatized does not mean you cannot be A-spec, just like it doesn't mean you can't be gay or trans!

the idea that you need to "fix" your attraction to be "mentally healthy" is an anti-LGBT myth, although one that's unfortunately still common in regards to A-spec folks.

and even if you are actually allosexual/-romantic/-platonic and you'll (re)develop attraction as you recover, there is literally no good in forcing yourself to feel it; forcing intimacy is unhealthy, encourages self-loathing when you inevitably don't enjoy it, and leaves you incredibly vulnerable to abuse.

if you're going to feel attraction one day, it'll happen without pressure. if you're not going to experience attraction, no amount of pressure will make it happen. A-spec or not, you've gotta let yourself be in this regard.

#asexual #aromantic #aplatonic #personality disorder #I didn't mention them by name but I've seen this 'i don't feel attraction just because i have XYZ' mindset the most with...#schizoid personality disorder #antisocial personality disorder #narcissistic personality disorder #asexuality #aromanticism #aplatonicism #szpd #aspd #npd #actually antisocial #actually narcissistic #actually aspd #actually npd #aphobia #also. I didn't mention this in the main body of the post because this is a bit radical to a lot of people but orientation is fluid!#there are some people who felt attraction at some point in their life who are ace/aro/apl at this point #obligatory disclaimer that I am not saying you can willfully change your orientation or any form of conversion/corrective treatment is okay #but broader changes to your body and mind can affect your orientation #so there are genuinely some people who are A-spec in relation to their disability. like I doubt I'd be fictosexual if I weren't autistic #and I've gotten more aplatonic as I've gotten more narcissistic #is it possible your lack of attraction is 'unnatural' or temporary? yes. am I saying you need to identify as A-spec? no #BUT there's no harm in doing so while also being disabled regardless of if your capacity for attraction has shifted over time or not #I just really recommend considering how aphobia and allonormativity play a role in your belief that your lack of attraction is a 'symptom'#rather than taking it as fact. if you want to identify as A-spec. cool! welcome! if not. cool! have a nice day!#but don't tell yourself you're 'too mentally ill' for it because that's simply not how any form of queer identity works

Been seeing too many pop-psychology attachment theory posts that demonize avoidant attachment lately, so for the record:

You are not entitled to anyone else's time or affection.

People are allowed to leave you if they do not want a relationship with you.

People do not have to give you a reason that you approve of, or even a reason at all, to leave you if they do not want a relationship with you.

Your own co-dependency issues and attachment to someone else does not trump that person's ability to deny consent.

No-one is obligated to give you attention just because you want them to.

No-one is obligated to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in, even if the other person hasn't done anything wrong.

No-one is obligated to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in, even if the other person is mentally ill.

Attempting to force someone to stay through coercion, guilt tripping, or threats of suicide/self-harm is abusive.

#attachment theory #attachment issues #avoidant attachment #anxious attachment #schizoid personality disorder #szpd #cluster a #avoidant personality disorder #avpd #cluster c #mental health #mental illness #haze posts

disability pride month is july and im on vacation and have not checked tumblr in a week but here is some love for people with personality disorders <33 because yes they are disabling and it sucks. SO:

i love you people with npd

i love you people with bpd

i love you people with aspd

i love you people with hpd

i love you people with stpd

i love you people with szpd

i love you people with ppd

i love you people with avpd

i love you people with ocpd

i love you people with dpd

i love you people with personality disorders

i love you people who were told they feel nothing when they feel too much

i love you people with scary feelings

i love you if you call yourself a narcissist or just say you have npd

i love you people with disorders that make people flinch

i love you people with the big scary disorders

i love you people who spiral because they didn't text back in a few minutes

i love you people who feel safer when hidden behind a mask

i love you people who always mask and i love you people who don't mask and i love you people who can't mask

yall are amazing and i love you so much

you are deserving of love and appreciation and understanding even if you aren't "healed"

love, a pwPDs

#disability #actually disabled #bpd #disabled #disability pride #disability pride month #npd #aspd #hpd #stpd #szpd #ppd #avpd #ocpd #dpd #personality disorders #personality disorder #personality disorder positivity

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