Narc Rants

🌼NARC RANTS🌼

This is a blog space for our system to drop rants and other content related to our NPD.

We are an adult, therefore we will talk about adult things here.

There is no DNI list. Just be decent and respectful.

ABOUT US

System Name: The Void System

Name: Void

Pronouns: Void/It/He

Age: Adult

• DID system

• Narcissistic Personality Disorder

• Antisocial Personality Disorder traits

• Autistic

How people see me 6 months into a relationship once they realize I was being serious and I’m not “fixable”

A flag for those with NPD, ASPD, and SzPD, including those who just have traits of one or all

Colors taken from NPD and ASPD flags on the SzPD flag base

Alt flag:

For those whose SzPD is the most prominent, such as those who have SzPD with NPD traits and ASPD traits, but can be used by anyone with all three/all three traits

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Morgan from Big Mistakes has ASPD + ADHD

- impulsiveness and aggressiveness

- low empathy and high apathy

- enjoys breaking laws and doing substances

- prone to extreme boredom

- compulsively lies

- doesn’t get along well with anyone

- super cunty /pos

I’m gonna assume you’re talking about writing a character so tell me if I’m wrong lol. Even if you’re not talking about writing, this may be a helpful resource for people

What to avoid:

1. The handsome rich white cishet man trope. It’s so boring, this trope is overused and typically ableist. Not all people with NPD look perfect and have everything they want. People with NPD who are just spoiled and privileged are much rarer than those who endured some kind of childhood abuse or trauma. It’s also okay to make your character with NPD a woman, a poc, queer, trans, physically disabled, etc. As long as your person with NPD isn’t the ONLY woman, poc, queer person, etc in your story. Gregory House is a canonically narcissistic character and he may be a cis, (questionably) hetero, white man but at least he’s not perfectly handsome, super rich, dressed in fancy clothes, or able-bodied.

2. The only interesting thing about them is their anger issues, their music taste, or their vice. Give them a real personality. Being angry, liking a specific kind of music, or smoking or drinking a lot a lot are not interesting personality traits on their own, they’re just facets of a person. Dive deep into their childhood, their relationship with their family and friends, their exes, their quirks and mannerisms, their vocabulary or manner of speech, what kind of clothing they wear and how messy or organized their space is and WHY they dress that way or set up their space like that.

I’m gonna give you some genuine advice here, so if you don’t want advice, you don’t have to read my response

I get your perspective and I think you're right in the fact someone is primarily one or the other. But I think the research is severely lacking and the disorder is extremely misunderstood, to the point the current understanding is significantly oversimplified. So I do think it's possible not to fall super nearly into one of two categories, since I can't just completely overwrite all of the experience I've had or noticed in others.

I'm not the previous anon, but I find this topic really interesting so I wanted to weigh in.

Yeah, right. Until you start hating on victims of narcissistic abuse. You hate the ones speaking the truth! You’re trying to delete the light and the truth. Narcs will never win, this system is a loser for eternity. Making a blog for predators makes zero sense… what the fvck. Narcissism promotes confusion. Great job

as a person with NPD myself, I find this question important and convoluted. Because on the one hand, nobody should be allowed to get away with murder or rape or anything like that, regardless of why you did it. But on the other hand, smaller masking like pretending to care about someone who’s hurt when you don’t is also bad for you as a person

But people not only expect but often NEED at least the semblance of people caring for them, which makes it hard when “unmasking” is both good for you but also has the potential to hurt others. I have NPD but I still want friends, so I hug them when they’re sad and give them advice etc, because I like them being around me and know if I’m mean they’ll leave. But sometimes I just don’t have the mental capacity to pretend to care. If I’m in a really bad mood or something

so tldr. Do you think pwNPD or ASPD always, sometimes, or never owe it to their friends to fake empathy if they don’t have it? Is it different with strangers than friends? Why?

I think all people should try to hold some semblance of respect for others. But I don’t think people with low empathy should have to perform all conventional social gestures. There’s a fine line between being mean and being honest. If someone’s cat died and you don’t have the energy to pretend to care, you don’t need to put a ton of effort into comforting them. But that doesn’t mean you should say smth like “you’re pathetic, stop crying about it”.

What you do need to consider is reciprocal energy. If you constantly vent to someone and you never let them vent to you, you’ve created an unequal power dynamic that isn’t healthy, which may cause the other person to feel upset or resentful. Now, maybe this person always listens to you vent but you always give them great gifts or take them out to fun places. Now you have reciprocal energy because you both express your affection in a different way. This kind of plays into the concept of “love languages”, which I believe can be anything. I don’t think you should be forced to try to have reciprocal energy, but your relationships and friendships may fail if you’re unable to reciprocate in some fashion that works for you. Unequal dynamics typically don’t last long, even if they FEEL good to people with low empathy, high ego disorders. Some people don’t mind not having reciprocal energy, or even enjoy being the one to give while you receive. But keep in mind not all people are like that.