Contemporarily, “discipline” can be associated with punishment. It’s helpful to remember that there is another meaning that is more helpful: regular practice. The root of “discipline” comes from Koine (common) Greek meaning “to teach.” The word “disciple” (which can have a vey different association) is from the same root (Koine Greek is the dialect in which the Christian New Testament is written). A disciple, in a positive sense, is a teacher. Back to co-regulation from etymology: There’s a saying an escalated adult yelling at at an escalated and outwardly upset kid to “calm down” has never effectively worked. Rather, co-regulation by showing empathy and understanding and demonstrating a safe environment and state within the co-regulator can help a child return to a baseline (non-escalated) state where the cognitive/rational mind is back in play. This is when cosquences and accountability can start to be addressed. #Repost @monadelahooke ・・・ Co-regulation is a new parenting buzzword, but it's been a cornerstone in resilience literature and infant/toddler mental health for decades. Somewhere along the way, behavioral contingencies (rewards/consequences) became synonymous with discipline and raising children well. The science on resilience is clear, however: the way we help children become self-regulated (one day) and develop self-control, is through the beautiful process of co-regulation. I share all about how to do it in my latest book, Brain Body Parenting. #Coregulation #resilience #responsiveparenting #mindfulparenting #consciousparenting #earlychildhoodeducation #earlyintervention #paradigmshiftparenting #reparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/ClotqSqvVuR89L8-nULVxXYRtXkwH489rw-muw0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
