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“One of the more challenging, but necessary shifts in perspective, when adopting a responsive approach to parenting, is no longer believing that affection and compassion is a reward. That is conditional love. You are sending the message that “even though I know you are having a hard time I will not show you love because I am mad.” Chances are your child is mad too and you are asking them to calm down and show compassion and remorse, prior to you doing the same thing. As a parent we should model these behaviours, instead of expecting our children to demonstrate them for us before we are even able to achieve them ourselves.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #parenting #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #jmilburn #perspectivechange #affectionisnotareward #unconditionallove #unconditionallove❤️ https://www.instagram.com/p/CRj1mX5ngW1/?utm_medium=tumblr

#Repost @acc_ellijay • • • • • credit: @mrs.jstaff @babiesandbrains “This isn’t about blame. This is about awareness and understanding. We can acknowledge that a parenting practice harmed us, even if it was unintentional. Even if it was all they knew at the time. We may think, but I turned out okay. But there are residual effects of these parenting practices. There are little pieces of it left in the way that [we] manage [our] own emotions and the way that [we] express them to others. Recognizing that a generational parenting practice did not serve us, gives us the chance to break the cycle for the next generation, and gives us a chance to heal.” @babiesandbrains #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #consciousparenting #connectionparenting #respectfulparenting #unconditionalparenting #parenting #livingislearning #endchildism #stopspanking #notimeouts #parentingwithoutpunishment #kidsmentalhealthmatters #childadvocacy #kidsarepeopletoo #respectchildren #cyclebreakers #reparenting #innerchildhealing #unconditionalselflove #childadvocacycenter #acc_ellijay (at Maryland) https://www.instagram.com/p/CM3cF6HpzqC/?igshid=1u86an8ep9wsv

This is so important. And don’t even tell me that they are just trying to do their best. If the best you can do for your child is minimally care for them but remind them about it constantly, you are a toxic parent and that child deserves so much better than you. There needs to be an overhaul on how we view/parent our children, because we say that they are our future and then we turn around and treat them like miniature adults which they are not. A lot of parents are not patient with their children, expecting that they, a NEW LIFE on this planet, should sit still, be quiet, obey orders, and a multitude of other impossible standards to meet at their age. So often their problems go unheard, and they are forced to swallow whatever their thoughts are just to please the adults around them. Ugh, I could go on and on and I’m sure none of this is new to any of you, but these are real problems that affect our society and for people who wonder why some of us as adults are so fucked up, our childhoods are the key. The problem is that nobody wants to open the door and come in gently, so we are forced to deal with the baggage that was bestowed on us often on our own. My goal as a future parent is to respect my children, treat them as people because...well, they are, and not drill whatever my philosophy is about life, but inform them of all perspectives and let them come to their own conclusions. I want to raise my future children like this so they won’t have to worry about talking to me whenever they need advice on a subject, and so they won’t have all of the unnecessary baggage that I and so many others have had because of not being considered. I know it won’t be perfect, and I’m sure I’ll make mistakes along the way, but at least I’ll have the strength to work through them and listen to my children when problems arise and they won’t be scared to speak their truths to me or anyone else in their lives.

#Repost @gentleparenting_memes (@get_repost) ・・・ Such a powerful message that impacts everyone for life, as does the opposite message. Choose positivity. 💟 #childhoodmatters #YOUmatter #gentleparenting_memes [Quote: @janeparenting2 Original Image: @gumbootsbythesea - thank you! ] ------------------------------------------------ #NORMALIZEGENTLEPARENTING#NORMALISEGENTLEPARENTING#parenting#gentleparenting#peacefulparenting#parents#babies#toddlers#children#attachmentparenting#positiveparenting#peacefulparenting#respectfulparenting#naturalparenting#consciousparenting#parentingbook *Pls respect the work of the authors, photographers & creators, do not crop or edit memes when sharing. ©2017 Gentle Parenting Memes. 😍Gentle Parenting product link in my profile! 📚 -----------------------------------------------

#Repost @lrknost ・・・ "What if I told you that what the world needs right now is you - flawed, fumbling, wounded, trying-to-figure-it-all-out you? Because that's exactly what it needs, you know - more velveteen-real people who are a little worn and a little weary, but who bring a whole lot of warm and welcoming and wonderful to life." L.R.Knost #inHumanityLettersFromTheTrenches ---------------------------------------------------- Please respect the work of authors, photographers, and artists. You are welcome to share provided you include appropriate credit and do not crop out authors' names from quote memes. Thank you. :) #peacefulparenting #positiveparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #parenting #motherhood #fatherhood #children #toddlers #babies #breastfeeding #babywearing #cosleeping #life #kindness #christian #humanity #peace #books #coffee #neuroendocrine #cancer #NETcancer #cancerwarrior #quote #LRKnost www.littleheartsbooks.com . Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

Co-regulation and suppression When your child is feeling dysregulated, it can be difficult to figure out how to support them without minimizing, suppressing or overreacting. Being a calm presence means even when you aren’t sure when the upset will end and how, you stay calm and have faith in the process.    A phrase you may want to use could be…. “Do you want some help to calm down or do you just need to cry/scream for a bit?”   At this moment, you are demonstrating…  • Unconditional acceptance. • All emotions are ok. • I am not overwhelmed by your emotions, even if you are. • It’s ok to take your time to process your emotions. • It’s ok to accept help. • It’s ok to feel better again. • You don’t have to feel any shame or guilt for having big feelings. • Your emotions are yours to respond to, not your parents.  Read more about co-regulation and suppression in my latest e-book 👇 
Finding Your Calm: Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation This 186 page e-book combines my knowledge of child development, brain science and trauma to offer parents a unique resource that includes lots of exercises, reflections, insights and also… links to additional research, articles and videos that can help support your healing and learning journey. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealthawareness #postpartummentalhealth #momrage #dadmentalhealth #parentingsupport #selfcareformoms #selfcarefordads #healingjourney #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #attachmenttheory #parenthood #selflove #selfcompassion #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #ptsd #childhood #hypoarousal #hyperarousal #windowoftolerance #coregulation #selfregulation #holdingspace https://www.instagram.com/p/Cbm5JOxLKUV/?utm_medium=tumblr