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Why do people think “disobedience” is a sign of a lack of respect, when it comes to children? Do you obey all the commands of those you respect, without question? And if you do, is that respect? Or is it something closer to fear? And so if disobedience has nothing to do with “respect” and rather more to do with context… How does trying to increase someone’s respect level actually increase obedience? Well it doesn’t…. Especially with children… It’s not that children are not more likely to comply with the requests of those they respect. It’s that “respect” (obedience) is often expected (not earned), by adults and it’s also seen through an adult lens. The way you gain respect is by treating someone with respect. That means empathizing and having compassion for them when they do choose not to comply. Having respect for your child means giving them the space to have their voice heard and matter. But when we look at “respect” as equivalent to blind obedience, of course we will feel offended when our child disobeys us. They aren’t disrespectful…. That’s not disrespect. But we were taught it is… We were taught that disobedience is disrespect. Guess what happens next? We become emotionally triggered! We recall all those feelings of fear when our parents demanded respect and we explode! Without realizing that we are actually using fear to elicit compliance and then calling it respect… we can NEVER overcome the internal struggle that happens that leads us to that breaking point. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #childism #stopchildism #freekids #respectchildren #childled https://www.instagram.com/p/CVTWBaJrmJE/?utm_medium=tumblr

Whether your homeschooling, hybrid learning, e-learning or back to regular school, especially with all the big changes in society, children NEED to play. They, learn, they de-stress, they socialize, they use their bodies, and they create. “It’s not that a play-based curriculum chooses play over learning. They learn through play. The learning objectives are the same, the method is just more developmentally appropriate for young children. For children who struggle with focus, play based learning is usually optimal. In traditional schooling, they often spend so much of their energy trying to just sit in their chair and focus, that they tend not to learn as much.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #childdevelopmentspecialist #parenting #parent #childhood #playbasedlearning #childled #kindergarten Why? - In addition to learning all the route skills such as literacy, mathematics and STEM, children also learn communication skills, friendship skills, life skills and creativity. - Allows for a fully emersive learning experience. When all of our senses are engaged, while learning, the lessons resonate much deeper. - Works with the natural developmental stage of elementary school children and supports a variety of learning styles. - Instills a lifelong love of learning and a curiosity about the world. https://www.instagram.com/p/CNLJK1NHguI/?igshid=mq8x6wftxiej

“I’ve learned after three babies that there is very little you can do to control how much they wake up. All you can do is try to create a stress free environment for your child and yourself by using tools that support attachment and peace.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #attachment #attachmentparenting #secureattachment #childled #childledsleep #childdevelopment #babysleep #infantsleepsupport #infantsleep #peacefulnight #nightimeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CNpEbe2HjXZ/?igshid=1xpqvr71prstl

These strategies are part of Session 3 in the Toddler Workshop Series. Toddler resistance is healthy, typical…. And super inconvenient and challenging at times. There are lots of strategies you can use to reduce the chances of one of these moments ending up in a battle. Get the Toddler Workshop Series through the link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #toddlers #toddlerlife #childled #tantrums #toddlertantrums #givechoices #givegrace #toddlersofinstagram #parenthood #kid #momlife #children #memories #kids #parentlife #dadlife #mommylife #kidlife #childhood #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachment #attachmenttheory #parenthood #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #childhood https://www.instagram.com/p/CfjNlpcgpZQ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

These strategies are part of Session 3 in the Toddler Workshop Series. Toddler resistance is healthy, typical…. And super inconvenient and challenging at times. There are lots of strategies you can use to reduce the chances of one of these moments ending up in a battle. Get the Toddler Workshop Series through the link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #toddlers #toddlerlife #childled #tantrums #toddlertantrums #givechoices #givegrace #toddlersofinstagram #parenthood #kid #momlife #children #memories #kids #parentlife #dadlife #mommylife #kidlife #childhood #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachment #attachmenttheory #parenthood #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #childhood https://www.instagram.com/p/CbGZKwXLTOM/?utm_medium=tumblr

Natural Development of Empathy Empathy is learned but it’s learned through experiencing empathy, not being forced to empathize. In fact, one of the things that can hinder the natural development of empathy is when we try to get them to feel empathy, instead of letting their internal moral compass guide their actions. If we become their moral compass, they begin to believe their thoughts about empathy are wrong and without your guidance, their actions are bad and harmful. Rather, if we allow empathy to develop through natural observation and experience, as a child has the cognitive ability to grasp another persons point of view, they will begin to feel empathy (slow process starting around 3 and lasts until almost 8 yo for some). But if we step in everytime, telling them how to think, feel and act in every situation that requires empathy, they may never develop the skills themselves. Because it’s more about pleasing their parent, than actual empathy or remorse. They are learning what to do to keep the peace. They are not learning how to actually feel and express remorse, which is an internal process. @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #childled #childledlearning #compassion #humanity #kindness #bethechange #feeling #parenthood #forgiveness #motherhood #parents #growing #knowledge #parentlife #dadlife #children #feelings #givegrace #attachmenttheory #childhood #earlychildhood #parenting #allthefeelsareok #childdevelopment #loveyourkids #parentingwithlove #momlife #connectionovercorrection https://www.instagram.com/p/CZ6u0g6rNko/?utm_medium=tumblr

These strategies are part of Session 3 in the Toddler Workshop Series. Toddler resistance is healthy, typical…. And super inconvenient and challenging at times. There are lots of strategies you can use to reduce the chances of one of these moments ending up in a battle. Get the Toddler Workshop Series through the link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #toddlers #toddlerlife #childled #tantrums #toddlertantrums #givechoices #givegrace #toddlersofinstagram #parenthood #kid #momlife #children #memories #kids #parents #parentlife #dadlife #mommylife #kidlife #childhood https://www.instagram.com/p/CXuuAjRs6SA/?utm_medium=tumblr

Grumpy Tones I think we can all agree that when someone is feeling grumpy, their voice tone may convey that emotion. Their behaviour may convey that emotion. Often though, we see grumpiness as disrespectful or rude. And I get that because I also feel that twinge of pain when someone is grumpy. But how do you feel when you are grumpy? Aren’t you just trying to hold it together? Trying not to be rude, even though your grumpiness is making that hard? @responsive_parenting Children so often get accused of being rude or disrespectful when they are just feeling a bit grumpy. We then centre our own feelings, how their grumpiness is impacting our emotions, instead of focusing on the message… you’re child is grumpy; what can you do to support them? Why? Watch what happens when you approach grumpiness with empathy and kindness… it slowly starts to melt away. As our child feels more heard, validated and supported, they become less grumpy. Think about what makes you feel better when you’re feeling grumpy… @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #healingjourney #innerchild #childled #toddlerlife #toddlers #toddlerhood #toddleryears #toddlermom #toddlerdad #toddlerlearning #parentlife #parentinghelp #parentingsupport #childledlearning #tonepolicing #modelgrace #modelkindness https://www.instagram.com/p/CWv2dS3r1gb/?utm_medium=tumblr