#intergenerationaltrauma

#Repost @decolonizingtherapy with @repostsaveapp ・・・ Ancestral Connection cannot be “Caucafied.”  There are many ways to relate to your ancestors. Ancestral reverence refers to the ways of living and honoring the human dead. Ancestor rituals are practiced or events that bring the living and dead into a more heightened state of connectivity. The choice isn’t whether or not to be in relationship with them- but whether these relationships will be conscious and reciprocal. We don’t need to exploit ancestor work. We don’t need big ceremonies or initiations- although sometimes that is asked of us, and coming together in community is a celebration! Our loving and wise ancestors wish well for us. Our ancestors were human. There were struggles. There were biases. There was harm done and experienced. Pretending our people were perfect is idolatry. But our connection with some of them slowly and purposefully can allow for such joy. Such tenderness. The emotional Decolonial work asks for a liberated self and community. One where we listen and receive insights. From each other, ourselves, our small younger parts, our communities, and ancestor. Including the land as ancestor. Books and psych classes cannot teach ancestral healing. Instead, it WILL only be EXPERIENCED, RECEIVED, AND FELT because OUR ANCESTORS COULD NOT. Let us languish in this journey. Enjoy this journey. Get excited about this journey. There is no quick fix. There is nothing quick and easy about reclaiming more than 500 years of colonial conditioning. Leave '🐚’ in the comments + tell us… What’s 1 small way you connect with your ancestors daily? Who did you learn this from? #ancestraltrauma #raisingconsciousness #ancestralhealing #historicaltrauma #intergenerationaltrauma #generationaltrauma #healingtrauma #emotionalhealing #innerhealing #generationalhealing #black365 #emotionalfreedom #breakthecycle #healingjourney #emotionalwellness #blacklivesmatters #blackawareness #blackmentalhealth #traumatherapy #mentalhealthawareness #traumaawareness #griefsupport #griefawareness #emotionalwellbeing #blacktherapy #mentalwealth #ancestraltrauma #raisingconsciousness #energyhealing #ancestralheal https://www.instagram.com/p/CbvQjkONVn8/?utm_medium=tumblr

When you know better but aren’t doing better First I must acknowledge, simply knowing and recognizing coping skills and behaviours within ourselves that no longer serve us and/or may be harmful to ourselves or the people around us, is the the most important step in this journey. You are at the planning stages. You are thinking about trying a different path. You may have even decided to take that different path but you end up on the old path. Don’t worry; someday you will take a step down that path. It may only be one step, at first. You may start down the old path, stop, run back and try the new path. All of this IS “doing better.” As we do in our children, we need to celebrate our small steps. We need to recognize that so much of the work is internal. Just knowing what to do differently does not stop you from old patterns. When it comes to parenting, many of these patterns are set in your own childhood. You may but even realize you have these patterns, until you become a parent. Often these patterns are also triggering for the parent, further fueling the emotional burden of parenting because when they see themselves doing exactly what they promised they would never do, their confidence and self-worth as a parent can simply plummet. Usually I realize I was overwhelmed in some way and validating my feelings of overwhelm, forgiving myself, giving myself grace and making a plan to meet some of those unmet needs, has transformed my perception of these moments where reaction was my initial response. I discuss this in detail in the Guide to Survival Mode Plans, now only 5$’s The link is in my bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #healingjourney #parentanger #parentmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartummentalhealth #breakingcycles #intergenerationaltrauma #changingthenarrative #allthefeels #changeishard https://www.instagram.com/p/CWjwkkhr014/?utm_medium=tumblr

nor is it your duty to be your father’s magistrate.

And then you feel guilty like you're the one doing something wrong?

{ #soundbath } || source: dr.marielbuque