I need to watch less anime

Here is the fudgiest brownie in a mug recipe I’ve found

Here are some fun sites

Here is a master post of Adventure Time episodes and comics

Here is a master post of movies including Disney and Studio Ghibli

Here is a master post of other master posts to TV shows and movies

*tucks you in with fuzzy blanket* *pats your head*

Here’s an emergency compliment

Here you can play 2048

Here’s a playlist of Bob ross

Here’s a website to watch movie’s and shows for free

Here’s a website to watch documentaries for free

Here you can to nothing for two minutes

Here you can break something. It’s good for anger

Here’s a button to press to make everything okay

Here’s a site to cut something up (TRIGGER WARNING)

Here’s a site that makes you a website depending on a song you choose

Here’s a gay comic. It’s adorable

Here you can spend Bill Gate’s money

Here you can draw your own island

Here you can learn about patterns website’s use

Here you can get your life stats

Here you can listen to the Tucker Zone (Headphones needed)

Here you can see how fast you’re moving

Here you can see the progress of time

Here’s the butterfly project

Here’s a snickerdoodle mug cake

Here’s a link to some free audiobooks

Here’s something to read when you feel like a burden

Here’s a secret

Here’s my playlist of some sea shanties 

Here’s another secret

Here’s a link to some cool websites 

Here’s a blog that gives you recipes for when you’re low on spoons

Here’s 100,000 stars

Here you can control the weather (TW FLASHING IMAGES)

Here you can weave silk

Here you can make a castle of your own

Here you can make a kaleidoscope drawing

Here you can explore recursion

Here you can draw with pasta

Here you can draw logo’s from memory

Here you can play this is sand, here you draw cool sand designs

Here you can play The Organ Trail

Here’s a customizable white noise website

Here you can simulate gravity

Here you can create your own guardian of the galaxy

Here you can make your own galaxy

Here you can have images of people point to where your pointer is

Here you can paint someone’s nails

Here you can grow a garden across your screen (Audio included)

Here you can try out all kinds of mind illusions (Trigger Warning: Flashing Lights)

Here you can see how many miles you have scrolled

Here you can watch a website load forever, although you might be getting enough of this on Tumblr mobile

Here’s a rickroll

Here you can remind yourself that you’re awesome.

Here you can throw trash into a dustbin only for it to bounce right back out (Audio included)

Here you can make sand dunes using sand (Audio included)

Here you can listen to a gentle rainstorm

Here you can make snowflakes

Here is a Line Rider feature film with relaxing music

Here is the entire script to the Princess Bride (many don’t need it but it’s fun to read anyway)

Here is an abbreviated script for the entirety of Book 1 of A:TLA that I made out of anger at the film that definitely doesn’t exist

Here is a playlist of the top 10 most relaxing songs ranked according to science

BAM!

I’m out of ideas! XD

LOOOK ATT THIIIIS!!!!

LOOOOK ATTT THIIIISS!!!!

80

*O*

OH MY GOOD!!!!!

ThAT’S IT!!!!

Hitting my knee

climbing ON the furniture will disrupt the pattern of your footsteps and make it harder to hear where you are in the house

crawling will do the same and if you get caught crawling you can pretend you fell 

the floor near the wall can be really loud if the floorboards/carpet is old and not completely flush to the wall

If your house has snack packs (like gummy bears or crackers or chips), count them every day until you know the rhythm that they get consumed. (This took me a week and a half with my twin brother and sister). Then join the rhythm when you make your nightly visits. It will be that much harder to figure out it was you.

-a jar of peanut butter is long lasting and easy to hide under a bed or in a dresser drawer. I lived off of jars of peanut butter and boxes of saltine crackers I would buy on grocery trips with my mom.

-two words: Slipper Socks. These are the socks that have rubber designs on the bottom for grip. They make no noise, and also keep you steady on slicker surfaces like tile and wood. You can find them cheap at Walmart. They also keep your feet more protected if you’re outside.

-if you’re secure enough in your room to have a small food stash, make sure you’re not too obvious about it (duh) but also move its location every few days. I kept mine in a shoebox under my bed, then switched it to a backpack in my closet, then wedged between my bookshelf and wall, and I would cycle locations until i moved it permanently to a false-bottomed drawer I installed in my dresser when my father was gone for a weekend. I would NEVER put food directly into my stash after taking it. I would keep it in pockets of my clothes and between books until everyone went to sleep, then I’d stock and stow my stash for the next few days.

-get a water bottle with a filter in it. I used to be able to reach my bathroom from my bedroom door down the hall using a huge step or minor jump/leap. If I was afraid of being caught at night, I’d fill up the humidifier tank we kept under our sink while I took a short shower, and would refill my water that way. It might not be the best option, but I kept a small stockade of water under my bed for emergencies.

-if you can, smuggle your garbage out in your backpack or purse. Dispose of it at work/school. I got caught twice by carelessly throwing away packaging.

-if someone knows the situation you’re going through (close friend/partner/etc) see if there’s a way for them to get food or other supplies to you at school or work or what private time you may get. A hidden first aid kit literally saved parts of my body before and I owe it to a close friend.

-try learning the building’s natural rhythm. The house I grew up in would creak and settle heavily every night for 3-5 minutes. That was my shot, and I had to be QUICK. I still got caught a few times, but learning the patterns in our floors and walls, when they creaked, WHERE they creaked, kept me going. Eventually I was sprinting in slipper socks to the kitchen and back in less than 90 seconds.

-if you have stairs, or live upstairs. Sit as you go down them one at a time, or climb up them like an animal. It keeps you low/out of lots of motion sight, and also can reduce noise and creaking by distributing weight over more than 1-2 steps.

-You can use common hand sanitizer to remove the stains certain snack foods leave behind (coughs cheeto fingers) and a dry toothbrush can help scrub the color off your tongue. If you can get powdered toothpaste or toothpaste tabs to keep on hand, it makes a huge difference in sneakiness.

-I don’t recommend going for dried foods like granola or cereal unless you can sneak it to a secure place to get it. It’s too loud, it’s a gamble every time for something with less caloric intake than it’s worth if you get caught. Of course, there are times when that’s the only option!!

-if you’re taking milk, add water, but be SURE to shake/agitate the bottle to distribute the dairy fat with the water. I got into the habit of shaking milk jugs when I started sneaking it, and explained the habit as something I read in an old comic strip my father showed me. (Back when whole milk had a lot more cream fats and they’d separate, so shaking it would redistribute the cream.) I still shake milk jugs to this day.

-if your windows open or don’t have screens, eat leaning out an open window. Any food mess will be lost in the dirt. I was lucky I had bushes and birds outside that would catch my granola bar crumbs before anyone could notice.

-canned goods are tempting, but not worth it. It requires too many tools (can opener/strained sometimes/utensils/some need heat) stick to thinks like various nut butters (sunflower/peanut/almond), crackers, dried fruit, and easy to conceal food bars (nature valley/nutrigrain/etc.) dried ramen packets are good uncooked if you can stand the texture. Apple sauce and pudding cups are also easier to sneak and stash than one might think, and can be eaten with your fingers. The only canned foods I recommend are condensed soups and precooked pasta (spaghetti-o’s). You can easily mix them with a little bit of hot water from the tap and get something more sustaining than a handful of captain Crunch. The cans are cheap, sometimes recyclable, and drinking soup takes way less time than chewing solid food.

-if you menstruate, attempt to stash pads/tampons in a safe location. Sometimes shit happens. Pads can work as bandages in emergency situations. Sometimes shark week comes unexpectedly. If you can sneak a roll of toilet paper or paper towels, these are also life savers.

-plastic utensils from takeout containers can be hidden inside socks and will be worth their weight in gold when you least expect it. I bought myself a tiny plastic bowl from the dollar store and kept cheap trinkets in it on my desk so it didn’t seem like a bowl I was eating out of. You could try this with something like a mason jar, which is also useful for drinking out of or storing water.

-if you’re eating a crunchy or solid food, try soaking it in water. Mushy food can be repulsive in texture, but I could clock the sound of someone eating a nature valley oat bar from like 6 miles away. Dunking it in water (or using a secret bowl+water) can reduce noise, and also eating time since you don’t have to chew as much.

-keep a laundry bar or tide pen on you. Laundry bars are super useful, a little hard to find though. I washed a lot of stains out of my clothes with laundry bars in my bathroom sink as a kid. Not proud if it, but it kept me flying under the radar at school.

-clear rubber bands, plain twine or string, paper clips, and thumb tacks. Indescribably useful. I once rigged a system to open tricky cabinets and get objects from inside using two paper clips and a foot of plain string like a mock lasso system.

-if you’re pulling objects from tall cabinets, use your chest or stomach to cushion them. Let them fall into your torso and then into your hands cradled underneath. Not as loud, not as much grabbing, if someone sees it they can mistake it for it falling on you by the body language.

-get a bandana. Or four. Napkins, bandages, tool, and accessory all in one.

-get a tiny sewing kit. I’m talking 3 needles and a spool of thread tiny. Scissors if you can sneak it. See things into your clothes. Make hidden pockets or compartments. Threadbanger on YouTube did a video a few years ago about sneaking things into music festivals using tiny clothing mods, but they may be useful in sneaking money or medicine.

-on the topic of sneaking money. don’t take bills, take change. If your abusers don’t meticulously count their nickels and pennies, they’re an easy(ish) way to build up a tiny savings pool. I found nickels the least noticed coin I took, even more than pennies, and taking two every few nights from where they’d be tossed on our countertop soon built up to a semi-reliable fund I passed off to someone to get me food for my stash without having to sneak it from the kitchen. As soon as I became “independent” in my food storage, I was subjected to much less scrutiny. I managed to build up a solid 1-2 week ration supply after hoarding change.

-you can tape SD cards to the inside of book dust covers(the part that folds inside the actual cover of the book), if you have a sewing kit or zipper on it inside the stuffing of your pillow (trim a corner, stuff it inside, stitch it closed) or (this is final resort) VERY CAREFULLY remove the covering from your outlet and tape it to the wall stud before replacing the casing. I kept mine inside part of my wooden bed frame that I hollowed out using, you guessed it, take out silverware knives and 4 nights without sleep.

-THE FLOOR IS LAVA WAS KEY TRAINING FOR ME AS A CHILD. I learned to take pillows with me, climb on furniture to disrupt my flow of movement, toss a pillow down, and use that to cushion any rattle our living room could give off as I crept to the kitchen from the side entrance so my mom’s dog wouldn’t bark or alert anyone. I highly suggest crawling around on all fours like some sort of beast to stay out of sight.

-can you run your house blindfolded?? If you can’t. Maybe you should try to learn. I suffered some heavy eye traumas growing up and had a collective 3-4 months just IN THE DARK. Eyes bandaged, left alone. It was terrible, but damn if I couldn’t navigate the whole place silently, without any visual cues. This helps a lot with the whole moving around in the dark thing, too. Listening is obviously key.

-if your parents start getting suspicious, or you’re suspicious they’re getting suspicious, watch out for traps. String on the ground that gets shifted when you walk on it. Baby powder or flour left to track footprints or doors opening/closing. My dad was partial to wrapping a bungee cord around my doorknob and attaching it to the closet across the hallway. I wouldn’t be able to open my door enough to get out, or if I did, I risked ruining the structural integrity of the wrappings he did, and he would notice.

-learn to tie some knots. Strong ones. They’ll come in handy at one point or another.

•Keeping a $10 bill on the inside of my phone case for emergencies. My mother will search my wallet and bags but has not taken my phone case off when she takes my phone as of yet.

•stashing loose change I find in the soil of my potted plant. Very quiet hiding place for coins. All bills are quickly confiscated but coins I have managed to hold onto this way

•changing food stash locations constantly. A good stash I’ve found is buried in my mice seed mix. Small packages or granola bars can fit in there pretty easily and the wrappers are flushable (I know it’s bad to flush them but my trash is routinely searched)

• always deleting online traces in case of phone/computer search. This includes search history, forbidden apps, messages, pictures, notes, games, etc. I don’t know how many times I have deleted the tumblr app during the day only to re download it late at night to use it. My phone and computer are constantly confiscated and gone through with a fine tooth comb. I delete anything I might possibly get in trouble for after I use it and re download it when I need it again. Don’t delete all your browsing history though, they will notice if it’s suspiciously empty. Fill it with safe and approved stuff and remove anything you might get punished for.

•learning what each and every door in the house sounds like so I know who is where at all times without having to leave the room

•learning where those ‘sweet spots’ are in the house where you can notice anyone coming before they can see you or what you are doing

•always having a pre-approved cover. I use books and preaching videos as covers. I can hide a phone in a book or quickly switch apps to the one playing the video if surprised or discovered.

• always being aware of ‘the trail’. If I tell a friend something who tells their sibling who tells my sibling who tells my mom I get punished so basically tell no one and it won’t come back to bite you. This includes talking about tv shows/movies that are forbidden, forbidden foods/drinks, activities, apps, games, friends, political views, etc. Express an opinion and it’s bound to reach someone you don’t want it to.

•never take from your abuser’s personal stash of food or money. The family pantry is fair game to carefully pilfer from and so is loose change but never take from their personal purse/wallet, fridge, pantry, or stash. They WILL find out.

•beware of traps and manipulation . My mother will leave money and food unattended and wait for it to disappear. She will also act like she wants to do a good thing and help you out but in the end you will pay for it a hundred times over. Avoid this if at all possible.

-bring a large cup to pee in when it is not safe for you to leave your room or space. be sure to sneak it down a drain as soon as possible.

-other foods to stash away include trail mix, breakfast bars, fruits and veggies. a couple slices of bread and cheese aren’t as easily missed either.

-i have had luck taping paper money to the underside of our rug.

-be aware that you will likely carry the weight of this time with you for a long while. most of my nightmares still take place in my childhood home, where i haven’t lived in over five years.

-Avoid plastic and paper. They russle a lot, especially when you’re trying to be quiet. As stated above pillowcases are a godsend.

-If you can access the kitchen during the day (and not get caught doing this) move things you might need, granola on the shelf you can only just barely reach? Pull one bar out and slip it to the lowest shelf in the whole kitchen. Put it somewhere no one will check.

-The bottom of a trash can is NOT a good hiding spot. Tempting I know. I’ve hidden a secret stash under a trash bag. Played it off a few times as being a good kid and taking out the trash. But you would have to be the one to always take it out if you did this. Always. You can’t rely on ‘probablies’.

-Self aid. Go to your school nurse and ask for Band-Aids. School computer lab have alcohol pads so you can clean off the mouse? Take some. They will hurt and burn but a clean wound is so much better than an infected one.

-For those of you with allergies to the Staples (peanut butter, bread, cheese, the like) Beans are your new best friend. They suck but hey, they work.

-AVOID SWEETS. This sucks I know. But sweets leave more behind than a chocolate colored tongue, including a sweetened breath (I got busted so badly once even after scrubbing my tongue.)

And finally,

Most obvious hiding places are in the closet, under the bed, in the bottom of drawers and under rugs.

You can tape small items such as a metro card, prepaid phone, plastic bag of money, birth control or other medications, etc under a desk or even better: open the top drawer of your dresser and tape the item to the bottom of the dresser top. Make sure you can open and close it securely without jarring the item free.

You can also hide bills in an old DVD case if you are 100% SURE no one will open it.

If you can get your hands on some good concealer, use it to hide scars and bruises. Abusers will try to isolate you even more if you are a walking display of evidence. Don’t give them any excuse to not let you go to school.

On this same note, avoid making drastic changes to your appearance (dramatic change to hair cut/dye, tattoos or piercings or wearing any makeup/accessory/clothing that might be deemed “different” for you) Your abuser may perceive this as you acting out or seeking attention, and they do not want you to receive any kind of attention as it may give you an outlet to expose what is happening at home.

Don’t write things in codes that are obviously codes. Your abuser will not like this if they find it and you will be punished or forced to reveal the code but most likely both. If you can, make a code that would look like something else if found by someone. For example: If hiding say, your email password so you won’t forget, make a list of things beginning with each letter of the password. Draw pictures of your passwords. (Ex. Draw 4 red dogs, your password is RedDog4.)

Evernote is a great way to hide a digital diary/notebook/photos/contacts that you can delete from your device quickly before a phone search. If you fear you wont have time to delete before a search there is an option to hide your private notebooks so that you can only find them by searching their name and load up some class notes so if your abuser asks about the app you can say it’s for school.

This is a bit expensive but if you can manage it use an external hardrive for anything on your computer your abuser wouldn’t approve of, from photos and videos to games to creative and programming software, etc.

To walk completely silently, even barefoot, start on the outside of your foot and roll off your big toe. This takes practice though. Your bare feet will also be quieter if you have calluses on them, so you want to walk barefoot as much as possible.

One thing I did was getting well acquainted with the woods. If I needed to avoid people and couldn’t hide in my room, (the door doesn’t have a lock and the consequences would be SO BAD if I blocked it with something), I grab my bag, and try to avoid them + walk silently as I walked outside and hid deep in the woods where they couldn’t find me.

Never bring your phone (or any electronics) if you choose to escape to a friend’s house/the woods/etc. You don’t know what apps they hid on there, which could track your location.

When in the woods, I would bury my trash so if a family member decides to explore the woods one day/was actively trying to find where I kept hiding, they wouldn’t find traces.

About that bag I mentioned. I risked getting caught for this. I have it in my closet with the other bags so it wasn’t suspicious, but if I got the feeling they were suspicious about me, I hid all the stuff in the bag in different places temporarily. In the bag I keep a bottle of 90% isopropyl alcohol (disinfectant) that my aunt gave me as a joke, a small sewing kit (needle, string, scissors) that I stole the components of from my mom’s room, a knife that I also stole from my mom, and some granola bars.

You can hide things in boxes that appear to be sealed on your shelves. Choose a side, use the corner of your nail, or a small knife if you have one, to slit 3 edges of the plasic on the box on your chosen side. Carefully side the box open so as to not tear the plastic. If there is space, hide your item(s) in the space. If not, take some of the contents out and hide them elsewhere* until you can dispose of them where they won’t find them. Arrange the flap of plastic so it lines up properly (if box is cardboard or similar you can lick the edge of the plastic and place it down, it will stick moderately well and the fact it isn’t in tact will be less noticeable) and put box on shelf so that the cut side is against the back. (I have many time in the past taken a “sealed” box of playing cards and take the right amount of cards out so that after putting whatever I want in, it would weigh the same as a normal box of playing cards. This way if they pulled things off the self, unless they examined the playing card box carefully, it was unlikely that they would notice)

*if you have a coat/jacket with a liner, you can put holes in your pockets and stitch the liner to the jacket at the bottom so things you put in there will be at the bottom and it will seem like your pockets are empty. Don’t put anything bulky or potentially loud in, or your trick will be exposed immediately. Works great for papers though, and it’s one of the only ways to transport plastic wrappers without being loud. Not coins though.

Learn how to remove the screen from your window

Any social media or other restricted thing or anything they could use to stalk me if they found out I had it I use web for, my accounts are under different fake names with different email address I created with different fake names just for them, and my passwords are all long, secure, and MEMORIZED. And I delete my search history of any of those particular things.

I know how to give myself stitches. This has come in handy.

Leather = low grade armor. Wear it whenever you can. Then you can take a punch without it being quite so bad.

There’s a gate at the bottom of the stairs at my house that not only creaks, but the latch is LOUD. I climbed over the railing near the bottom instead, and then walked down the outsides of the last couple of steps.

How to climb over a railing silently: put hands on railing, swing one leg over so you’re sitting as if on a horse, and then carefully slide your already over leg down so it is touching the outside of the step and at the same time you swing your other leg over and carefully place that foot down.

If you close a door while holding the handle turned, like how you would if you were opening it, and use your other hand to guide it so it doesn’t hit the door frame, instead lining it up exactly where the latch needs to go, and then slowly rotate the handle back, it is near silent.

A fluffy sock jammed in the bottom handle-side corner of the door can keep the door from making noise as you walk around your room at night.

Hide things inside your pillows. Not just your pillow cases, but the pillows themselves. A lot of them have zippers where you can access the fluff, and you can hide things in the fluff. Stuffed animals sometimes have this too.

Semi-sheer, loose layers will be a lot less hellish and a lot less suspicious in warm weather but can still hide most older cuts/scars that are starting to become less garishly red.

If you close your eyes for 30 seconds before trying to navigate the dark your eyes will adjust and you will be able to see much better.

if you never turn a fan on you can tape ska stuff to the top of it, idk if it will hold if the fan turns on

Seriously

We’re here for you

always have an escape route mapped out

always have an escape bag, just in case. mine has an extra phone charger, my wallet, a sewing kit, a re-usable water bottle, extra underwear, toilet paper, headphones, a grocery bag, and a small blanket

if u can, try to get a pair of boots that are good for navigating wooded areas

study foraging. u never know how useful info about toxic and non-toxic plants can be

Oh and you can put things like crackers, pretzels, and cereal in clean socks (or just a small bag if you have one) if you can’t take the whole container. Just make sure to switch the socks around every now and then because crumbs are a bitch. 

- use private/anon browsing when searching shit you don’t want to get caught for, search appropriate stuff on main

- always have a friend you can claim you were texting if they ask why are you typing on your phone. Someone who has an extensive history with you and your fam and they trust

- always have a friend you can call and claim you were talking to instead of watching something/calling other people

-after work, I would “take cash out for lunch as they don’t take card” usually only $20 a week ish but managed to save a good $1k ish in the end with this tactic

- hiding notes in books, they don’t tend to get searched much. Choose books you haven’t read/don’t read often, it’s less likely they’ll be confiscated or removed from your room

- stand on wooden unmoving shit, nothing with wheels and nothing made of fake wood (can break) or moving metal

- if your door doesn’t lock, look up different ways so you can lock it (different doors = different ways)

- if your not allowed to close your door, make sure your bed isn’t in immediate view of said door way. Move it into a more sheltered area, same with anything valuable or vulnerable. Gives them less ideas

- move your desk/study area to somewhere where they can’t immediately see you.

- never have both head phones in, I don’t care if you can study better, don’t do it

- never wait for them to call you twice

my caretaker currently (dad died almost 7 years ago and his sister is “taking care” of me rn) is most likely the cause of several of my mental health issues.

If you’re struggling with emotional or other non-physical abuse:

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP

I know it’s hard, damn near impossible sometimes, but you have to stay steady. Figure something out in whatever safe space you have to try and bring yourself to a calmer state. Some abusers will use that against you. I know that my stepmom did.

STAY OUT OF THE WAY

I know this goes without saying, but emotional abusers often make it seem safe to be in a general space. Try and stay in your safe space, or at least near it. Try to use the above tips if you need something, but if you must, ask as politely as possible. Just try your hardest to keep in your lane and away from them.

I can’t think of anything else that I don’t see above, but just do us all a favor and try your best to not to do anything against yourself. We love you, and we’re here for you. There are people out there going through it, and people who’ve been there and made it out. We need you to join us, we need you on this earth, and we need you. Remember that there are ways to get out, and it may not happen immediately, and it may not be a good option right now, and it may not be for a while. You’ll probably have to hunker down and try to survive for a while, but you will be safe eventually. Abuse is not just physical, and not just blatant neglect. They may be doing enough to not be on the DCS radar, but just because they won’t be locked up, doesn’t mean its okay. It’s not normal to walk like the floor will eat you if you make a noise. Its not normal to have a mini panic attack every time you hear the door open, or to be nervous at a recognized pattern of footsteps. I know if you’re not getting the hell beat out of you that it isn’t abuse, but that is NOT a healthy way to see it.

DON’T EVER CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT ITS NORMAL, OR THAT YOUR STRUGLES WITH IT AREN’T VALID

• Use storage compartments. My parents got me these little like 2’x2’ plastic boxes that are like four inches deep but they’re sooo useful. I keep normal stuff in most of them to be inconspicuous and they are see through boxes, but they’re tinted so if I put things at the back of a box that I have stacked in between other boxes they won’t catch it. This is what I keep my main food stash in. I’m allowed candy in my room because they know I don’t eat it (I like to challenge myself to keep in for really long times without eating it, so they let me do that) and I use to just mix in other snacks in it too, but then those would be found and I would be questioned. So now I keep granola bars, nutrigrain bars, dried ramen noodles, little cookie packets, etc. in my little container in the top of my closet.

• My room is right beside the pantry so if the door to the stairs in closed I can sneak out of my room and get food. Never grab too much food at a time, and never have a rhythm of it cause that makes it the most noticeable. Occasionally, a couple times a month I’ll go into the pantry and just grab a couple things from a couple different boxes, I’ve been up quiet a stash this way. We keep snacks in there, we keep some canned food in there, we keep noodles and little cereal cups. We also keep instant oats which are great to have if you have access to a kettle or microwave at school then they’re very easy to make for a quick lunch. So are noodles which you can also eat plain, I normally do. If the instant oats are flavoured than their usually not too bad to eat dry, but it doesn’t seem like as much food and your kinda just eating flavoured powder, but it still works, especially for if you don’t have access to a kettle or microwave at school. Also, you can hoard lunches. If you don’t eat it at school (which I usually don’t) you can just bring it home in your backpack again and eat it later that night and then bring the container out in the morning. If it’s not leftovers or fresh food it can usually be hoarded and eaten later.

• Memorize the creaks of the house and everybody’s footsteps. With me living in the basement I can hear everything and can almost always tell exactly what somebody is doing and where they are in the house. Listen so you can hear if they are coming towards you or not.

• My dad has cameras set up around the house and outside the house everywhere. Ask as many questioned about them as you can and pay attention to the direction they point, if they ever have the cameras mirroring onto a tv screen or something, pay attention to the space that they show and look for ways you could get out of view of the cameras. I have learned that the camera in our living room is normally turned towards the side wall so I could sneak upstairs if I wanted to without being seen. The cameras on the main floor don’t actually record they just show real time because my mom isn’t comfortable with being recorded in her own house so I’m safe there. I also know that I cannot get around the cameras on the front porch or driveway, but I could get around the one in the front of the alley. Lucky for me he hasn’t set any up in the backyard yet or the back of the alley beside the house and he’s probably not going to anytime soon, because those are my escape routes. Try to learn as much as you can about the cameras.

• If you are wearing long pants and not ankle socks, you can hide things in your socks. And I know it’s gross but if you wear baggy clothes or long sweaters you can hide things in your underclothes, if it’s gonna be food I would advise that it be in some sort of wrapper though since you don’t want to leave the smell of food on your body and some foods can make you sticky. You can hide things like granola bars and even your phone but you have to make sure that they won’t slip out and fall if you move too much. This one’s great actually and I can hide things on my person even around my parents.

• This one was said before, but again, have a friend who you have a history with and if you’re caught typing on your phone just say you were texting them. It’s also easier if you do keep up a nonchalant conversation with them while on your phone so if they ask, you can show them the messages.

• Another one about phones, I try to act really nonchalant if my parents come by when I’m on my phone. I have some friends who do this too, but always keep your phone face down when their around or you don’t have your phone with you, if a notification comes up unexpectedly, they can’t see it right away. If they come by, try to start casual conversation or just start talking and casually turn it off and put your phone down beside you or on a counter face down, until you can go and close the tab or delete what you need to once they go. This will also make it seem like you are casually turning your attention away from the screen and towards them because they came up to you.

• Try to train yourself not to be jumpy, if you get caught doing something you shouldn’t and you jump or make a noise it’s a lot harder to deny that you weren’t doing something you weren’t supposed to. Expect that they will come in on you and you won’t jump as much if you’re a really jumpy person like me. Took me forever and I’m still really jumpy, but I used to be so bad that I’d fall on the floor and then you just seem even more guilty.

• Never hide too many things in the same spot, distribute everything, never trust your methods or hiding spots too much, and always be on edge.

• Make sure you always have an escape route. My room is in the basement so I have a tiny little window but I also have my desk under my window so I can lift myself up on it and hoist myself out my window if I want. My parents also have a lock on my window, but they did teach me how to unlock it in case of a fire. Make sure you know things like this. Also I am free to go the bathroom whenever, and my bathroom has an opening window with a screen. If you can do it without being too loud, or lock the bathroom if you can, window screens are usually really easy to take off, they have little black or white plastic pegs that cover the screw things and they stick out pretty far so you can pull it and it will disconnect from the wall, but you have to pull all of the pegs at the same time or pull on and lift the screen away from the wall and then pull the next and do the same. This can be pretty difficult though cause you have to keep holding the screen like a half inch away as you get the next peg and it without letting the first peg snap back. Then open the window and crawl out. My bathroom window leads straight into the garden in the backyard and my backyard is always locked but I can climb the gate to get to the alley**. I also make sure I always have empty bags just in case. I have two or three old school backpacks and an old duffel bag that I keep in closet and say they’re for trips and such.

• *Its always good to make sure you have long nails for stuff like this and other things, they don’t need to be super long, but if you have a habit of biting them, (I know this sounds stupid) try try try to not. I know it’s really hard to but if you notice yourself biting your nails just remind yourself not to.

• **Climbing gates is a really useful skill to have, whether they be wood or chain either way it’s really good to be able to do that. I used to walk home with a friend a lot and there was this one chain fence that we could jump for fun so I got a lot of practice out of that.

• It’s also good to try to keep your strength up if your not able eat much, like literally just doing sit-ups for a couple minutes on the floor is enough. I like to once it gets dark just try not to make noise. I like to do headstands for core strength but I have to be careful not to fall out of it and make a noise, I did once but luckily no one woke up, but I did get a pretty bad bruise on my knee from it. You have to be even more careful about this is you live on a hollow floor, but I live in the basement so it doesn’t make too too much noise if I fall over.

• If you can, stay at friends houses as often as you can, sleepovers and such. Even over multiple days. Sometimes they might let you come with them on trips, and if you get invited then your parents might let you. I have a friend and he regularly goes house jumping at some of his friends which I know isn’t ideal but he’s still away from his parents. If you’re going to use this don’t try to make it seem too obvious that you’re always trying to be at friends houses. It’s not even that uncommon for people to stay at other houses often, I have a friend and their at other friends houses or have friends over almost every weekend.

• My parents actually stopped checking my phone when I turned 14 but I still don’t keep anything incriminating on my home screens and I just keep that stuff in my app library. Like Tumblr, Pinterest, Discord, Wattpad, some games, etc.

Sometimes you just have to admit that they are abusive, sometimes it hard. My parents are very manipulative and at least slightly mentally abusive and it took me forever to admit that to myself because for the longest I just said “their just really strict, they say they love me, they’ve helped me with things before, their really not that bad” but then any time I would bring that up with a friend they’d be like “wow, your mom must suck” and I would be surprised that their parents aren’t the same because of how much they would talk about how strict their mom is. I have a friend who legit says that my mom scares her and I just, had to pause because all of my friends have always loved my mom, but this friend gave me like a whole to perspective to look at things from.

If you’re being mentally abused, try not to let yourself get too disclosed. Allow yourself to feel emotions still, allow yourself moments of happiness whenever you can, if you disclose yourself fully it will take a really long time to come back from that and open up and feel again when you get out. Which you will, it’s not an if you get out, it’s a when you do. And I know it might not feel like it, but you will.

Speaking of, The only thing I’d ever recommend going into the fridge for is drinks. Go for something that won’t taste too different if watered down, like juice, and replace the amount you drank with water. Only do this occasionally, and make sure someone allowed to drink it has some before you do it again, that way the ratio stays balanced and the drink wont magically become 75% water.

Always, always, always have an emergency route. Though it’s extremely important to have a route out of the house and off the property, like @rainbow-frogz said they have, have somewhere to go. I cannot begin to count the amount of times I’ve had to leave my house quickly, and the only reason I wasn’t caught was because of where I went afterwards.

If allowed, during the day explore. Know which streets and locations your abuser would think to check, search or happen through, and avoid them. Avoid any and all main road, highways, freeways, or major streets. Stick to backroads, avoid alleys. Alleys are dangerous and you could run into more than you can handle in one. Your life and your safety are not worth that level of discretion. Ever.

Learn about your abusers vehicle(s). Make, Model, license if you can. That way, should you ever be on the run from them, you can accurately be on the offensive.

TRUST YOUR GUT. Always trust your gut. If something in you says “that’s not right” or “stay away from that” you stay tf away. If something in you tells you to be cautious, or tell you you should go for something, do so with extreme caution. Listening to what you know will help will keep you alive

Say you absolutely must call 999 on your abuser, obviously you don’t want them to hear you ask for help. Call 999, and when they answer, press 55. Idk why the US doesn’t have a silent help number, but if you live in the UK it could be helpful.

Two-Spirit

Two-Spirit is a term created by Indigenous peoples of North America in 1990 to bring together the diverse gender identities and sexualities that exist within their cultures.

It is not a single gender. Each nation has its own traditions, names, and ways of understanding these experiences.

For many communities, Two-Spirit people held important social, cultural, and spiritual roles before European colonization.

The term should not be used by non-Indigenous people, as it is specifically connected to the cultures and experiences of the Indigenous peoples of North America.

Irawhiti (Māori)

Irawhiti is a Māori-language term used by some people to describe transgender or gender-diverse experiences.

The term is part of the contemporary revitalization of Māori language and culture, allowing Indigenous people to describe their identities through their own cultural frameworks.

Although it may be translated as "transgender" in some contexts, Irawhiti carries meanings connected to Māori cultural realities and should not be understood simply as a copy of Western gender categories. ( Flag design by Irauí on Tumblr. ) @irawhiti

takatāpui (Māori)

Takatāpui is a Māori term used by Indigenous LGBTQIA+ people in New Zealand.

Historically, the word referred to an intimate relationship between people of the same sex.

Today, many Māori people use the term to express both their Indigenous identity and their gender or sexual diversity.

More than a specific sexual orientation or gender identity, Takatāpui connects a person to their culture, ancestry, and community.

The term is part of the Māori cultural revitalization movement and demonstrates that gender and sexual diversity can be understood through Indigenous perspectives, not only through Western categories. ( Flag design by Irauí on Tumblr. ) @irawhiti

Māhū (Kanaka Maōli)

Māhū is a traditional Hawaiian cultural identity associated with people who embody both masculine and feminine qualities.

Historically, māhū people held important roles as educators, keepers of knowledge, healers, and transmitters of cultural traditions.

The arrival of colonization and Christian missions attempted to erase these identities, but many Native Hawaiians continue to preserve and revitalize the māhū identity today.

Māhū is not simply the Hawaiian equivalent of "transgender" or "nonbinary." It is a distinct cultural identity deeply connected to Hawaiian history, culture, and spirituality.

Tibira/ Tybyra

Tibira is a historical figure documented during the colonial period.

According to interpretations by Indigenous researchers and collectives, Tibira may be understood as a man who had relationships with other men, or as a person who lived with a feminine gender identity or expression, challenging the norms imposed by colonizers.

Their story is remembered as an example that gender and sexual diversity already existed among Indigenous peoples long before colonization. ( Made by me )

Çacoaimbeguira

Accounts of the Tupinambá people mention the çacoaimbeguiras.

According to interpretations by Indigenous researchers and collectives, they may be understood as women who had relationships with other women, or as people who lived with a masculine gender identity or expression outside the norms imposed by colonization.

on the other hand...

ask-omnipony:

I don’t really believe this mumbo jumbo

I mean it’s a goddamn hat.

Right..?

The white rose, it symbolizes the unique beauty of all the women who wish not to be with a nice guy such as myse-

I wonder if this works with other kinds of hat…

Nothing ventured, nothing gained…

WHEEEN THE MOON HITS YOUR EYE LIKE A BIG PIZZA PIE THAT’S AMORREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

oh boy…….

Luckily, this nonsense doesn’t work on girls.

Observe…

And it can’t possibly work on motorcycle helmets.

I must test it.

Nothing happening so far…

What in the world?

Oh why not? This should be interesting.

Here we go!

Were all mad here in Underland!

What the hell! Never Again!

… Actually …

Alright, I gotta try this!

Can’t be that bad!

….

LOL

i wonder if it works for flower crowns?

here goes nothin-

w HAT THE

DID I JUST-

Okay Clearly something is up.

Hmm… I wonder

I’m sure nothing could possibly…

I wonder what happens when you wear 8 of these at once…

an influential piece from

an art period…

Craig from Craig of the Creek. Really all of Craig of the Creek was marvelous. It didn't get the Fandom Cartoon Treatment because of a main Black character (yes, that is why and y'all know it), but that's almost a good thing because tbh COTC is genuinely good watching, even as an adult, and I'd have hated to see it demeaned to discourse.

It is clear that the writers- nonblack, by the way!- really did their research, and that the actors all really put their hearts into their characters and deliveries. I actually felt like I was seeing a Black family thrive under good conditions and gentle parenting, with amazing relationships between Craig and his parents. I saw a Black little boy allowed to be himself, allowed to be intelligent, enthusiastic, loved, allowed to be imperfect, sarcastic, overdramatic, allowed to be a CHILD.

And it manages to represent so many other people! You had canon lesbians and gays that were treated normally, you had hella different cultural backgrounds, you had deaf and disabled characters, it was all just... So good.

COTC was the one damn cartoon that SHOULD have been saved with the CN for real. It didn't get to finish properly and you can see that it got raced through 😭