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From a DID system to you, you are not ableist!

You are not faking!

You are not doing this for clout, exposure, fame, or anything!

I believe you, you are so valid!

Endogenic systems are wonderful! 

Phone calls can be nerve-wracking enough and scheduling doctor’s appointments can make them seem even worse. But we’ve all got to do it at some point so here’s a brief guide on how to get through it.

Check you have the correct phone number. Either ask a relative who is registered at the same practice or have a look online. Now we don’t need to worry about having the wrong number.

Take a deep breath before calling. It’s just the reception team who are going to answer the phone. Often they are friendly and they are there to assist you. They deal with lots of different requests each day and a simple appointment schedule will be no problem.

Keep breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth when the phone is ringing. I find the ringing tone is one of the worst parts but you’ll get through soon so don’t panic and don’t put the phone down. Sometimes it can take a while to get through to reception because it can be busy. If you’re waiting for 10 or more minutes, put the phone down and promise to try again in 30 minutes time.

When the person answers the phone, all you need to say first is “Could I book a doctor’s appointment please?”. Read that sentence to them if you like. All you need to do is let the person on the other end of the line know what you need.

The person on the phone will now ask you some questions such as “what day/date would you like?”, “what time?”, “What’s your date of birth?”, “What’s your name?” and “Which doctor would you like to see?” These questions are to make sure they’re scheduling in the right person. If it helps you, right down the answers on a sheet of paper first so you don’t forget or get your words tangled.

If you need to see a specific doctor or nurse, all you need to say is “Could I book an appointment with Doctor/Nurse [enter name here]”. There person on the phone should then be able to provide you with some date and time options and you can pick the one that’s best for you.

If the person on the end of the phone asks you what the appointment is for, then you can make it as vague or as specific as you like. Some examples could be: “I need to get my prescription” or “I need a check-up” or “I need to re-evaluate my current medication with the doctor”. The people on reception hear a lot in a day. They are not judging you, they just want to make sure you’re going to the right person for the right thing.

Once you have your appointment agreed, write it down somewhere straight away. Preferably write it down on a piece of paper in front of you then when you come off the phone put a reminder in your phone calendar.

Thank the person on the other end of the line. It’s always nice to feel appreciated!

Median systems are valid

Traumagenic systems are valid

Tulpa/thoughtform systems are valid

BPD people whose personalities are so vastly different and dissociative that they are close to being systems are valid

All systems are valid

Change can be scary. It can be difficult, overwhelming, and affect our mental, physical, and emotional health in all sorts of ways. Whatever you’re feeling right now, you definitely don’t have to feel it alone. Below is a list of resources and self-care tips to help make life a little bit easier. And if you don’t need them right now, pass ‘em along to a friend who might.

Got more tips? Reblog and add your favorites to the bottom, or make your own post and tag it #postitforward so we all know where to look.

Resources

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Available 24/7 at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

Crisis Text Line: Free, 24/7 support for anyone in crisis. Text START to 741741.

IMALIVE: Chat confidentially with a volunteer trained in crisis intervention.

7 Cups of Tea: Speak anonymously with a trained active listener.

NAMI: Dedicated to improving the lives of anyone living with mental illness. Free to chat at 1-800-950-6264.

Trans Lifeline: Dedicated to the well being of transgender people. USA: 1-877-565-8860. Canada: 1-877-330-6366.

The Trevor Project (@thetrevorproject): Confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ young people. Available 24/7 at 1-866-488-7386.

The GLBT National Help Center: Provides LGBTQ people with free and confidential peer support at 1-888-843-4564. Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-7743.

It Gets Better Project (@itgetsbetterproject): Communicating to LGBTQ youth around the world that it gets better.

To Write Love On Her Arms (@twloha): Dedicated to helping people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide.

American Psychological Association: A resource for finding mental health care in your area.

NEDA: Help and support for people struggling with eating disorders. You can call 1-800-931-2237 or chat with them online.

Self-Care Tips

Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

Remember to be kind to others and yourself.

Drink plenty of water and don’t forget to eat.

Get enough sleep.

Have a movie or TV marathon.

Read a good book. Start a new series.

Read the #positivity and #postitforward tags on Tumblr.

Draw something or color in a picture.

Take a bath or long shower.

Write your thoughts down in a journal.

Turn your feelings into art. Make crafts.

Bake or cook something you like.

Go for a walk. Have a dance.

Watch a funny video.

Light your favorite candle(s).

Listen to your favorite music.

Take deep breaths. Try meditation.

Talk to a friend, a loved one, or someone you trust.

Make a list of things that bring you happiness. (This really works!)

Maybe they can’t take it

Maybe they can’t talk

Maybe phone conversations scare the crap out of them for no reason at all

Just! Spare them the “if it’s important and I’m not calling back I’m a shit person” or “if it’s not important then I can call them whenever or resolve this via text”

Just….. help an anxious person prepare……… it feels really stupid but it has a very simple solution

Who’s the youngest alter or headmate?

Endogenics aren’t trying to invade other’s spaces. The only similarity they share with traumagenics are that they share their body with other people-that’s it. 

They’re not trying to appropriate others’ illnesses.

They aren’t trying to invalidate trauma survivors.

They’re just trying to live their life in peace without being attacked by others.

When endogenics advocate for plurality, they’re not trying to say “oh we’re just like traumagenics.”

They’re trying to make it to where we can all live in peace without us shouting invalidation at one another.

When I look into the future, I want to see people accepting plurality, whether it’s trauma-based or not. I want to see plurals being themselves without fear of persecution or judgement for simply “being different.”

…but anyway, point is, endogenics aren’t trying to hurt or invalidate anyone. I can see why people would think that, but it’s not true.

I know there’s going to be some tasteful comments, since this is controversial, and since this is tumblr, but I don’t care. I’m posting it anyway because it’s important and needs to be said. So if I don’t immediately reply to your comment, it’s not because I’m ignoring you, it’s because I’m probably mentally preparing myself for discourse.

{you don’t have to be 100% sure you’re asexual to be welcome in the community}

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