We exist.

The beginning of a new series of Casual Explanations: “Understanding Dissociated Parts”! My hope is to explain how to critically examine dissociated parts–the ways they present, communicate, and more, in order to help others understand their own systems.

First up is the basics of understanding Part Appearances! Please note that not all parts have an internal appearance–it is simply one possible form of expression/communication! Not having an internal appearance does not make a part (or system) any less valid!

When considering why parts have the appearances they do, think about role models, people you’ve known in the past, characters from different media–anything is fair game. Often they may pick and choose different traits from different places, to express different beliefs. Their inspiration may surprise you!

(sources: The Haunted Self, and Coping With Trauma-Related Dissociation)

You aren't fake for being non-traumagenic or having non-traumagenic headmates, and you aren't invading the community by existing here

Hey guys, I just wanted to put out there that a subreddit was made called r/DIDCringe. A lot of them are taken from tiktok and a few things not. A lot of it is making fun of people claiming to be systems or having DID and posts related to it under the idea that “they probably do not actually have DID.”

Please be careful and if you are sensitive to self doubt or bullying or anything like that, stay away from it.

I feel that a lot of them are singlets / people without DID that don’t understand the damage they are doing or what is and isn’t real about DID responding to posts that seem to glorify / romanticize the disorder.

I am going to attempt to talk to the person who started it to see if I can get it taken down or closed or something, and if anyone else wants to try to help educate them, feel free, but please, if anything else

Be careful

Be safe

DID is a serious issue and while people making it a quirk is a problem in the community, this is not the way to handle it or an okay way to handle it. 

Please share this, reblog this, get the word out. 

I got this from a reblog on another system blog so please, pass it around.

most of them were like “everyone told me I should become a nurse or a pediatrician” and “people assume that I don’t know what I’m doing” you know, your average sexist bs

one of the women’s last name was starboard (yeah I know great name) and she was talking about how even though now she was one of the most accomplished surgeons at the hospital, the male scrub techs (read: guys who didn’t go to fucking medical school) and some of the male doctors call her starbitch in the OR because they (scrub techs mostly, strangely enough) try to suggest different ways to care for the patient and she always tells them no you didn’t go to med school and I did and so they would go out of their way to get the male doctors to treat the patient differently and then she would have to argue with him to prove what she was doing es right but sometimes the male doctor would come and take over the case anyway and this went on for a while

but then the hospital statistics changed bc this woman was literally being prevented from treating her patients bc the men were interfering and so the administrative head heard about this (she was female) and she was like y’all better stop or y’all better start looking for new jobs and then starboard was allowed to work on her patients and got the scrub techs replaced and all of the sudden, the patients were suddenly doing much better during and after surgery.

when she told this story she was like “people still call me a bitch, and maybe I am because I won’t let them walk all over me, but when you’ve got something to do, when you’ve got a life to save, you have to ignore their bullshit so that you can save someone’s fuckin life. Sexism should never stop you from accomplishing that”

- Dr. Harry Benjamin

Spoiler alert: there IS no “normal.” There is: common, typical, etc. Normal is a judgment and a social control mechanism. 

“Okay.”

“… I’m… sorry?”

“Well I mean you should be, you’ve been acting like an ass this whole time, but whatever, okay. I’ll join you.”

“You– wha?”

“Well I already can’t use my powers to rescue a kitten from a tree without being eyeball deep in Should Supers Be Government Regulated discourse. And selective media coverage that makes me look like a prick. And have you seen the memes? I’m done.”

“I–”

“And I got a tooth knocked out in a fight last week but I don’t get dental coverage for this gig. Or, you know. Income of any kind, livable or not. But you own a multi-billion dollar evil corporation so I assume there’s benefits?”

“Yes. There’s… yes.”

“So whatever, I’m in. Evil’s my middle name, or something. What’s our plan?”

“…”

“Do you… what, do you not have a plan?”

“Honestly no, I really didn’t think you’d be on board, I– I’m not sure how to proceed from here.”

“Talk it out over drinks on you?”