🎀 Emma Says 🎀

Honestly it’s because I do this for the love of the game. Sissy captions are a passion for me, they’re something I love, something I also used to consume (although ever since I’ve started making my own, I don’t really enjoy them the same way I used to, which is kind of sad)

Anyway that’s why. It’s just more fun if it’s a hobby, no matter how big my blog gets 🥰

Thanks again, everyone, for being with me on this journey. I don’t know how long it’ll last. Honestly I’m a little surprised it’s lasted this long. When I first got started I didn’t know if I’d be any good at this. I probably would have stopped if I didn’t get some encouragement early on from the iconic @karlie-xoxo that kept me going

Well, that’s complicated. It’s true that classic Pavlovian conditioning is a thing. If you get pleasure while you’re exposed to a certain kind of stimulus, your brain will unconsciously begin to respond more positively to that stimulus on its own.

Here’s the obligatory part where I have to point out that I’m not saying you can change your sexuality. People have taken me to task in the past when they think I might have implied that. The last thing I’m doing is advocating for conversion therapy when I’m talking about this stuff. But like, it’s kind of part of the fetish, you know? Idk what to tell you. I’m not going to explain more because it ruins it, to the point where I almost didn’t respond to this question. We’re all just having a good time here, okay?

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, I’ll repeat myself and say a totally straight man isn’t going to become gay if he cums to men enough. That’s just silly. But you can, let’s say, encourage certain impulses that are already in your brain if you go about it intelligently. So how do we do that?

I’m not going to explain all the Pavlov stuff, which most intelligent people should already know about anyway. But the basic idea is, you give yourself positive reinforcement for the stimulus you want to build positive associations with. Make sense? Good, let’s apply it to what we want to do.

So the basic outline is just like you said, let men make you cum. But what does that mean, exactly?

First, a lot of sissies will cum to pictures or videos of cocks. I don’t think that’s the way to go. A closeup of a cock depersonalizes things. It’s just a disembodied sexual organ. It might be a hot take, but I don’t think it’s necessarily “gay” for a man to cum to cocks. A hard cock means sex, it’s an unmistakable symbol of sexuality. So to some degree it’s sexual to everyone, even if most straight men will have some repulsion towards it.

No, what you really want to do is just what you said, have MEN make you cum. It’s great if the men are naked, and it’s great if you can see their dicks. But you should be able to see the entire man, not just his crotch. You want to build associations with men, and that means entire men, not just body parts. Switch it up too! Maybe sometimes fully clothed men: focus on their handsome faces. Maybe sometimes partially unclothed men… ugh, their powerful chests and arms 🥵

Second, don’t just rub one out in a hurry. Take your time, make the entire experience as pleasurable as possible: dress up, put on some music, light a nice scented candle, get comfy. Let all your senses be happy while you’re looking at men sexually. They all send messages to your brain that your brain will remember for the future.

Normally I wouldn’t say it’s ideal to masturbate like a man, but while you’re doing this just masturbate however is easiest and most comfortable to you. If that means stroking your sad little dicklet, it’s okay during this process. You just want to feel good.

It’s better if there’s some emotional connection behind it. Have you just finished watching a romcom? Hopefully you were aggressively empathetic for the female lead and falling for the male lead along with her character. Try masturbating to him while thinking about your feelings during the movie. Pretend you’re the female lead. Get your heart into it. Remember what we talked about, the more ways it makes you feel good the better, and emotions are SO powerful.

Let him make you feel good!

You’re going to want to do this over and over. It’s not just an activity, it’s a whole process. Do it as often as you can, commit to it as much as you can, and it will work better.

You’ll see a sexy man and your brain will start to think, oh, that’s the kind of person that makes us feel good sexually. And that’s exactly what you want.

There’s another side to this. You want to feed the man = sexual pleasure association, but you want to starve the one that sexualizes women at the same time. This is important for a couple of reasons. First, if you ONLY get sexual gratification from men, it’s easier for your brain to make that connection. If you’re still orgasming to women, however, it’s harder for your brain to connect its pleasure to men because it doesn’t always come from men. Second, we don’t want to look at women sexually anyway, do we sweetie?

So you should absolutely not be looking at women when you’re having your little sexy time or it just ruins everything. We don’t want your brain to get confused here, we want to keep the message very simple and straightforward. Men are for sex, women aren’t.

Solo male videos and female POV videos are fun, but there are so many pics of hot guys, clothed and unclothed, that you can look at too. Just make sure there aren’t any women.

But that’s not all! I want you to watch as much content with women as possible in a NON-sexual context. Women women women all the time, not being sexy, just being normal. I’ve talked a lot about makeup tutorials, but it can just be any women doing regular stuff. When you’re seeing whatever content you consume, your brain should expect to see women.

That makes it even more pronounced that when you’re making your little cummies, there are no women to be seen. You’re used to seeing a woman talking to you, women talking to each other, women going about their business. But when you get sexual gratification, there are no women anywhere and that only reinforces that sexual pleasure comes from men.

You can also incorporate negative reinforcement into your routine, but that can get kinda dark and so I’ll leave that to your imagination because we’re all sugar and spice and everything nice here 😇

Take it into everyday life too! In some ways this is the most important part. Start to look at men you see in the world as potential sexual partners, potential boyfriends. Evaluate them on their looks, their bodies. Conversely, if you find yourself having any sexual thoughts about a woman, gently remind yourself, “no, that’s not right for me.”

Do this for a long time, regularly, and stick to it. Then who knows, maybe you won’t even need the help anymore? 😉