#positivelyplural

[Plain text: Just grieve them.]

Disclaimer: No experience is universal. Your(&) mileage may vary.

Warning: discussion of in-system death, dormancy, system resets, egocide/suicide, fusion, and similar losses. mention of medical/psychiatric abuse, pluralphobia / pluralmisia. mention of spirituality and religion.

[Plain text: Disclaimer: No experience is universal. Your(&) mileage may vary.

Warning: discussion of in-system death, dormancy, system resets, egocide/suicide, fusion, and similar losses. mention of medical/psychiatric abuse, pluralphobia / pluralmisia. mention of spirituality and religion. End plain text.]

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Whether or not you(&) believe headmates can die, whether or not they'll return (and it's very uncertain in many cases), you(&) are allowed to grieve those your collective have lost.

You(&) are allowed to see dormancy, resets, ego deaths, in-system egocide/suicide, walk-outs, or fusion as true death. Or see them as just a temporary loss. You(&) don't need our permission, really, but if you need to hear it: you're(&) allowed to hold funerals or other memorial services for them either way.

If you're(&) religious/spiritual, you're allowed to do what rituals can bring you(&) peace. Shiva, libations, prayers, spells, whatever you need, however long it takes. In-system, out-system, or both is perfectly okay. Grief is grief.

You are allowed to make vent art. Write fic if they're sourced (fiction or fact alike). Write a song. Make a plushie of them. Make moodboards or scrapbooks to remember them. Or express your feelings however you like.

Whether the cause is a traumatic outer-world life event, forced fusion via medical/psychiatric abuse, an intra- or exo- event (meaning in-system or in other worlds, for walk-ins, soulbonds, etc.), or even a random occurrence, you're still allowed to treat it as you see fit. Including treating it as death.

You(&) do not deserve judgment if you(&) experience negative effects from the loss of (a) systemmate(s). Example: depressed, lose concentration, have mood swings, miss appointments, can't work or go to school, struggle to eat and shower, have physical pain, get fired, drop out, etc..

You(&) don't have to have proof that people, parts, etc. in your systems are Permanently Missing (finding proof isn't possible a lot of the time, anyway). You(&) can still make an in-system support group for those who are bereaved, or visit a physical/online support group to help everyone. And no, you(&) don't have to tell the physical/online support group that it's an in-system event. Please stay safe and protect your(&) privacy.

Yes, even if they can be revived. Even if you're(&) able to drag disappearing brain-roommates from a mental/metaphysical/etc. afterlife, or rebuild them like in science fiction, you're(&) still allowed to be sad, angry, etc. about the pain this event has brought you(&).

Your(&) trauma from in-system losses is valid. Even if other people deny it. Including the psychiatric system or your(&) own psychiatrists. You(&) deserve to acknowledge this trauma.

You(&) don't have to fully be sure of the technicalities. You don't have to justify it to other people. Not even your(&) partners and/or therapists if you(&) have either/both. No one should dictate how you(&) work through grief except you(&). Everyone copes differently. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to live through this.

Letting yourselves go through the process of grieving - letting yourselves feel instead of denying those emotions - may very well help you(&).

Take care of yourselves, if you(&) can. But if you(&) struggle, that's okay. Grief isn't easy. Don't rush. You're(&) not a lesser person for not being able to cope "perfectly". There is no right way to grieve, and no timeline or milestones you(&) must achieve.

This has been a pretty big push in the alterhuman community, but hasn't quite reached the plural community yet. So

Systems: Write about your experiences! Post them!

It doesn't have to be good or coherent, but we want to see more experiences that aren't just bland, blanket positivity posts or term coining with zero substance. Some of our favorite writings we've read have had poor grammar and disjointed paragraphs!

Reasons to write about your experiences:

It can make people who have that experience both realize they're not alone and learn ways they can explore that experience

It can be education for people who don't experience that so they can learn what it's like

It gives more potential for citation for those who are making more comprehensive resources

They can be used several years down the line to track trends and events within the plural community

Also want to combat anti-endos? Write about your experiences. Humanize yourself (for lack of a better term). Create solidarity with others and encourage them to be out about themselves. Don't let psychiatric texts, syscourse rants, and simple definitions be the only information about your group!

We'll tack on what we're interested in seeing, but feel free to reblog and add anything too:

Guides! Guides on how your system does things, or guides that can help other systems

How plurality intersects with other disabilities or neurodivergence

Headspace tours, art about your headspace, collages

The effects drugs or medication has on your system

Non-traditional roles, or even how traditional roles do their day to day tasks

Different types of plurality intersecting (i.e. systems who fit more than one of DID, endogenic multiplicity, medianhood, soulbonding, etc)

Spirituality and religion intersecting with plurality

But regardless of how your psychosis manifests and does or does not affect / intertwine with your system, you are not a freak.

You are not fake.

You are no less than any other system.

You are no less than any other person.

System Experience #5 - System littles / syskids going wild with the credit card

- Mod Primarina + Mod Pent.