Diverse =/= Ulterior Motive(s)
Let's be clear: someone who's *really* trying to manipulate or use or just get something from you isn't going to limit themselves to monetary means of persuasion or be consistent with it for years and years for EVERYONE else they remotely care about too, in all likelihood.
So, simply because it's atypical (or monetary) doesn't automatically mean it's manipulation (the definition of which, for me, includes intent). Neurodivergent and autistic people in particular tend to show genuine affection in different ways, but I've found that *some* people will assume it isn't genuine because the presentation of affection is unusual or the gesture itself is unusual, or unfamiliar to them.
Neurodivergent people are more likely to under or overperform in these areas, which can be off-putting for those unused to such expressions or lack thereof— however, it is "normal" for them, and may not mean what you think it does.
Consider whether they do the same thing with others, and whether the amount they are giving is consistent with the amount they give others who have a similar relationship with them, rather than if the amount is "normal"— abnormal does NOT equate to bad intentions or meaning, and discussing rather than assuming saves everyone a lot of grief.
"Manipulation requires intent."
Meaning, the vast majority of autistic people are not manipulating you, and have no idea you assume this or why you might.
















