#reciprocity

Pattern-finding is my superpower. Lately, I’ve been reflecting a lot about people I have intentionally let go of in my life. When I look back, they fit into a certain pattern I am actively unlearning. I think we need to be honest with ourselves about what certain relationships do to our nervous system, our energy, our peace, and our self-worth. I can have compassion for why people behave the way…

I see you holding your phone 90 degree angel to your lap or purse. I see you trying not to look me in the eye. 👁️ I see you drop your phone the second I raise mine that either “blocks your view” or appears to video taping you (reciprocity ?)

Racism & Disrespect.

They come in forms that can be assume harmless behavior. Its not

Its bad enough that in any/every public space I cant relax or just be because I have to be on alert for

White people

Asian people

Arab people

Non Black Muslims

Latino people

Videotaping and taking pictures without my consent.

It worse that I have to that same level of alertness 🚨 in a space of Black People because members of my people haven’t learned to give the respect they would have slapped👋🏾 the 🔥 📱 out of the persons hand for being disrespectful.

Equally as bad are those whom preach CONSENT for social interactions, sexual & non sexual, but conveniently don’t count this as one. 😒

I SEE YOU

I too, will slap a bitch. The artsy eclectic aesthetic & personality is worth protecting that I don’t allow you to do that.

But we also encounter situations where fairness is profoundly lacking. How, for example, can we ensure fairness between a person born into abject poverty and one born into the opulence of incredible wealth? We might try to introduce laws and programs to reconcile these realities with our idea of fairness, but such efforts are typically too small and limited relative to the scale of the injustice.

The simple fact is that we are forced to live with a degree of injustice as long as the systems that produce and maintain injustices continue to exist. Our lives will not be fair, despite our belief that they should be.

Invitation, invitation, and invitation. That couple whom you care so much about—who live in a nearby town—never return the favour: you’re always the one hosting dinner for them at your house. Good conversation, yes, but this one-sided situation is getting on your spouse’s nerves. For you, however, it’s the enjoyment that counts.

instead, it's been replaced with "you must build relationships with people who actively do and say harmful things, and engage in harmful practices."