your aroace gal

I was the "I don't care as long as you don't show that to children" type of h0m0ph0bic

One of the last cases I remember myself posting homophobic comments was when the news of a possible Frozen 2 had started circulating around internet and almost everyone wanted Elsa to be a canon lesbian.

15 year old me was "worried about little kids". I commented something like, 'We can't do that. Kids have always been taught that the prince gets the princess. What if they ask questions?'

Unlike many haters nowadays, I had the good luck of encountering a kind lady, who saw my comment and patiently explained that kids can be taught everything, that diversity is a good thing and all. She didn't critize me, or use harsh words. If she had been rude to me, like allies are often to haters, I might have grown bitter and never discovered my true self. I'll never forget you, nice woman!

But, what truly transformed me into a raging ally was the #loveislove. I had seen the hashtag many times before. But one day, I saw it on a post and just kind of stared at it in awe. I remember thinking, "I'm an idiot. I'm a a-hole. Who do I think I am??? Hating people that are in love? Wanting to stop them from being in love?? Aren't I always going on about how love is the most sublime feeling and everything? How are queer people any different?"

After that, I educated myself. I started reading on LGBTQ+ community, learning things I never knew I never knew (reference intended) and becoming a true ally and supporter.

It didn't take much time after that to learn that I wasn't just an ally. I was part of the community, of this huge family that I had been protecting. My people, where I felt truly accepted and understood.

Finding out I was in the ace and aro spectrum was the biggest step towards accepting and cherishing myself for who I am. And I hope that I can be as much help to questioning kids as I want to be.

So yes, I'm aroace and proud! My pronouns are whatever you guys feel like calling me, even nor/mal. (In your face, haters)

I will not tolerate any type of hate or invalidation towards anyone. My blog is a safe space for everyone, no matter how "convoluted" your gender or orientation might be. Allos are pleaded not to be offended by my often hostile-looking posts. Just because I'm sex-repulsed, doesn't mean you're not valid. I love you all!

Long story short, someone replied to a comment of mine with "maybe they have seggs every night". (You don't need the context, just that.)

To which I replied with, "every night? yikes"

Now a person replied to that with, "why yikes?"

And I said, "well that's gotta hurt, right? give you rashes or smth?"

And they were like, "nope. what kind of seggs have you had that gave you a rash?"

Naturally, I responded with, "oh no, I'm asexual so no smex for me, I was just making an assumption that sounds logical to me"

And this as*hole of a person says, "plenty of asexuals have seggs, don't use that excuse"

Which bewildered me to no bounds. I said, "huh? Yeah I already know that some asexuals have seggs? That's not the point here"

After that, it was basically me and them going back and forth the same bullsh¡t, other people joining in.

That first person kept saying that I shouldn't say "I'm sex-repulsed because I'm ace", when I never said that. And even if I did, so what? I would've probably had seggs if I hadn't found out I'm asexual so there's definitely a correlation there.