#aro community

The first thing you should do anon is tell them you dont like being called "cute". it doesnt matter if they do have a crush on you or not, its making you uncomfortable and thats a boundary that sounds like it needs to be set. You shouldnt be forced to feel uncomfortable because of your friend.

Dandelion aro flag

dark teal- loveless aros; aros who experience absolutely no attraction, love, or desire for intimacy; this includes labels such as apothioromantics, romance repulsed aros, etc

green- loveful aros & the aromantic spectrum; aros who are somewhere on the spectrum between aromanticism and alloromanticism; aros who experience love and/or desire intimacy in any form to any degree. includes labels like demiromantics, greyromantics, cupioromantics, etc

yellow- unity and understanding within the aromantic community, acceptance of aromanticism as a spectrum; acknowledgement that being loveless is just as valid as being loveful, and that one's capacity for love and attraction doesn't affect their ability to be a complete and fulfilled person

I guess it never occurred to me that I could be because I've never been repulsed at the thought of romance. I enjoy content containing it and may consider trying it out in the future myself. But now that I think about it, I don't care much for it in regards to myself. It doesn't appeal to me outside of the interest in knowing what it must be like or whether it really is like how people describe it. (Thought I was bi or pan because I didn't care much for gender either uhh)

On top of that the feeling I used to think could be romantic attraction is kinda what I feel for most of my close friends. I do feel a bit doubtful about using the label though. Since I am just never able to tell exactly what I'm feeling, I feel like I can never be sure, no matter how much it fits my experience.

But anyways besides that, it also annoys me how romance centric people usually are. I can't be seen with a friend of the opposite gender without being asked if we're dating, and some of my friends who already know the nature of our relationship act like romance is the obvious end goal. "Yeah, you two are not together... yet"

I don't mind much since it's bound to happen but they are so persistent with it. I don't want that to somehow come between our friendship. Hope it isn't wrong to be affectionate with any of my friends platonically geez man...

All in all (what is this? an essay?), I've had my fun with self discovery ngl. Still very confusing I have to admit but we'll see.

When they made me

They forgot to give me a little screw, and

My machine insides have been

Falling out of function

For years, eventually spinning out

Over themselves and tangling

Metal with metal and

Soldering to each other with heat and

Becoming one with one another,

Leaving me

Unusable.