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SO I got positive feedback for my trendercore promptlist idea so I’m deciding to go with it!

Introducing Trendervember!

Make a different oc based on the day’s prompt, for the month of November.

You can draw, write, use moodboards, use zepeto, dollmakers, ect! You can even just give some positivity/info posts if you don’t like to make OCs.

I know a lot of us are spoonies, so let it be known that you aren’t required to do all the days! Only do the days that you want to do.

Remember to tag as #trendervember so I can see!! :3

Promptlist caption under the cut:

I’d definitely like to do videos on psychological and queer topics, and I might get @pechaberi to talk about political and sociological topics with me as well. I do intend to make the videos well-researched and at least somewhat scripted as well.

For visuals, I’d like to do either animatics and/or speed draws depending on the topic and my mood.

Like, not to talk about my junk, but my bottom dysphoria was ridiculous before I was exposed to images of men who looked like me, and now it’s kinda… become a less essential component of my transition and my security in my identity as a man, you feel? And even seeing trans women kind of helped disconnect those parts from masculinity in my brain in a way that’s made it easier to accept what I’ve got going on.

Like fat positivity - all the talk around breasts exists with the implicit assumption that people are skinny. Seeing and talking about fat people really changes assumptions of what chests ‘usually’ look like.

Like positivity for black and brown bodies - seeing cis women with broad shoulders and flat hips and chests and huge muscles, with broad faces and strong jaws and skinny lips, or cis men with petite figures and slight builds and curvy butts and thighs, with round faces and delicate features and long eyelashes…really highlights how very specific the image people have of ‘regular bodies’ is.

Like the movements about accepting your body instead of liking it too - people feel freer not to judge what they like and what they want to change, and instead focus on what they want to do with their bodies, and I think that eases up on a lot of the changing-to-match-expectations which can make dysphoria a lot worse, whether or not it’s even happening consciously.

A young woman is imprisoned in a castle by a monstrously formed prince. The servants of the castle hope for them to fall in love, and when the spell is broken they assume their prayers have been answered. They are all surprised, but nonetheless pleased, when it is revealed to them that the young woman and prince are the truest of friends, and nothing more.

They say the kingdom is ruled by an evil queen, a woman who is incapable of loving. She is unmarried, she has no consorts, and she wishes for no partner. She is the wretched queen, the heartless queen. She must hate her daughter, for her daughter is beautiful, and women are incapable of liking another woman who’s prettier than themselves. It must be for this reason that the princess was sent away, not for how she was attacked by a man in the woods. They say the kingdom is ruled by an evil queen because she cannot love. The queen loves her daughter, and that is enough for them both.

There lives a prince who is forced to choose a bride at the ball. He meets many beautiful women, but find none which he loves. He spies one in a gorgeous gown and wonder in her eyes, and he dances with her all night long. The kingdom is sure he has found his bride. When the clock strikes midnight he tells her how he will never love a woman, or a man, in the way he is expected to. The beautiful woman smiles and tells him she expects nothing from him. The next morning the prince and the beautiful woman are missing, having run off together to see the world. They leave their shoes behind in their haste.

- how much body hair you’ll naturally grow (hint: a whole lot more)

- your muscle mass. you’ll gain muscle taking T, especially in the shoulders and you’ll lose body fat in the hips. it’s different to everyone how the body fat is redistributed but taking T is the best time to get in an exercise routine because you’ll gain muscle a lot faster. 

- your clit might get bigger within like the first two weeks. get ready for that because I wasn’t

- you could get mood swings when you first start because it’s Puberty: The Sequel

- within 3 months you’ll notice your voice begin to drop

-hunger and hot flashes. Hunger and Hot Flashes

- you may notice that a lot of anxiety is going away! that’s because testosterone (may possibly, this one is just my experience) can help mellow you out, and also some aspects of your dysphoria (high pitched voice, periods) are going away

What taking testosterone WON’T change:

-your aggression. you are not going to turn into some out-of-control rage beast. if you are, then you probably need to talk to your doctor about it. T can give you mood swings because of, like I said, you are going through puberty again, but it’s not going to make you an angry person. 

-your personality. i say this all the time, but deciding to transition does not equal deciding to be a brand new person. you are still you! in fact, transition means that you are becoming more you than ever! adding testosterone to your body is just something that you decided you’ve been missing to help you grow into the great person that you are!

-your overall health. of course, there are concerns when taking a new hormone, but if you look at the health risks, it’s mostly risks that cisgender men typically have. Increased heart issues? That’s a cisman thing. And the increased risk for problems in your ovaries/uterus? I mean, yeah, people who naturally produce the levels of testosterone that we are going for usually don’t have ovaries. So that one makes sense, you know?

Moral of the story is we need to stop scaring people who are taking hormones! Yes, it’s a big step and an important decision, but it’s has nothing to do with changing who you are on the inside. In the end, you are still who you are, just with a few different features! 

The stereotype that transgender men are sweet, soft boys before T and then afterwards are hairy, aggressive men is problematic and very tiring. 

It doesn’t take much to erase a trans person

the day begins with them feeling optimistic, looking in the mirror and saying, “hey, i feel handsome today!!”. the word “handsome” is highlighted in green they are wearing a green t-shirt of the same shade as the highlighted word, black shorts and a white cap. 

as the day progresses, they are repeatedly misgendered by various people who call them “sis” and “ma’am” and use she/her pronouns. after each incident, their green shirt fades a bit more into grey. eventually the shirt is completely grey. 

Amantonormativity was coined by feminist academic Elizabeth Brake in her book “Minimising Marriage” to refer to:

the assumptions that a central, exclusive, amorous relationship is normal for humans, in that it is a universally shared goal, and that such a relationship is normative, in that it should be aimed at in preference to other relationship types. (Source)

Amatornormativity doesn’t just affect asexual and aromantic people. Whilst it’s often asexual and aromantic people you see talking about amatonormativity (because we become hyper aware of it due to how it affects us), it actually impacts the lives of people of all orientations, including LGBT+ people.

Amatonormativity in practice is…

The assumption that all single people are unhappy with their status and looking not to be single.

“Coming of age” milestones often revolving around romantic accomplishments (first kiss, first crush, first love, marriage, etc).

Non romantic partnerships (sexual or platonic) being looked down upon.

A sort of relationship hierarchy where marriage is at the top and everything else falls somewhere below it.

The expectation for romantic partners to be more important than jobs, hobbies or other commitments in a person’s life. And the belief that people who choose to pursue the former are selfish.

People who are not seeking exclusive romantic relationships being seen as less mature, stable, trustworthy or settled.

The structuring of laws and society on the basis that eventually everyone will be in a committed romantic partnership (marriage).

The toxic idea of a “friendzone” (which of course, overlaps with misogyny), where friendship with a woman is seen as “second prize” to a relationship with her.

People settling for someone they’re not really happy with or compatible with just to fulfil the desire or expectation to have a partner.

Non-aromantic asexual people trying to normalise their orientation by saying they can still “fall in love” or “have relationships” “just like anyone else”.

Asexual people or people who don’t feel attraction to anyone feeling pressured to seek out and enter into relationships.

And much more…

First off, lets get a few things out of the way:

Lets have a civil conversation, please, because I don’t want to start a goddamn flame war when I could have other things to do. I bet you do as well, so lets not hurl insults at each other and make each other feel like shit.

OK, on with the thing:

First thing: You NEED dysphoria to be trans. It is a proven fact, and I’m sorry, but wishing you were trans won’t magically make you trans. (Why do you want to be trans anyway? It’s not that fun, trust me).

Second: Gender fluidity is. Not. Real. It has been proven that gender itself cannot change frequently (or at all, for that matter). Whatever gender you get is what you get, and there is no changing it OR being anything other than male, female, or in rare cases non-binary. Xe/Xir pronouns and all other neopronouns aren’t real, like how the hell is genders like that supposed to exist? It is just not feasible.

Third: Speaking of neopronouns, they are SO SO SO disrespectful to the trans community and what they face every day. Like I said earlier, being trans is anything but fun, but it is even worse when trans trenders start looking for attention and create so much drama and so many things that aren’t even real that it makes the real trans people in need of help look like jokes! Resources are being taken by people who aren’t even trans and its damaging every real trans person and it is not! Funny!! It’s not cool to be trans. It’s not some cool fad you can join whenever you feel like it. I hate the fact that people think it is.

Please back up your evidence for being trans, as you claim, and not having dysphoria. Prove that gender fluidity is real and defend your choice. Fuckin, do anything, man. I just want to make this world better for everyone.

And what you are doing is not helping.