#detransitioning

The Road To H*ll Is Paved With Good Intentions...

I share this because I care.

It is so frustrating that there is like only *one* (1) detrans place on the internet that isn't a flaming tire fire (r/actual_detrans). And detrans men who are, like, actually men and not just repressing because of external factors are rare even in detrans communities. (I mean I'm not exactly actually a man but I'm certainly not repressing. I guess I sorta used to repressing the other way.)

I don't know if I'm 'really' 'a' 'detransitioner', but reading their experiences was a lot of help in making sense of my own experiences. Though the thing that helped the most was probably just getting used to the idea and realizing it's not the end of the world and doesn't even necessarily imply you made a mistake.

'Cause interestingly, a lot of detrans people actually don't regret their transition? Don't get me wrong, a whole lot do regret it, but many feel they needed to do the exploration, or feel more comfortable with the lingering physical changes than their original body.

That's partially where I'm at I think? I think I do prefer our body on E, and I don't really regret transitioning in the first place, but I do regret suppressing the niggling warning signs because it would be very complicated and inconvenient if they were real. I mean, we already learned that lesson with the original trans stuff! I should've known better!

Of course, that precipitated learning *again* with the new plural stuff. I really hope we're done with this lesson now.

And that plural thing makes this much more complicated because I can't actually just detransition and massively screw Melanie over. We're stuck coming to some kinda of balance.

(Another thing I learned deepdiving detrans stuff: detrans women mostly have a lot of the same neuroses as trans women. That would probably have been pretty affirming for Melanie to learn a few years ago, though now she's basically over most of that.)

"I Was A Trans Kid, I Started Medical Transition At 14 Years Old..Then I Detransitioned "

A very important video about detransitioners trying to get a chance to be heard but the Trans community won't listen.