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where's that post that's like "instead of saying 'aro characters can still date' let's say 'aro characters who date are still aro'"... aro characters in qprs are still aro and that's gonna affect the relationship in way more ways than just the name
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It does bug me that the majority opinion in this fandom seems to be "absolutely no putting Mirabelle in sexual situations, she's sex repulsed" but also "it's fun and cute if she hits every romantic milestone ☝️ as long as you call it a QPR". It feels like sex repulsion is being held on a pedestal that romance repulsion isn't, which is unfair either way you look at it.
Personally, I don't think we should build a ten foot wall around both topics — if you know me, you know my passion as a fandom creator is exploring the complex ramifications of being a-spec in sexual/romantic situations, for better or for worse. But like, you gotta be aware that that's what you're doing. "Mirabelle is happy to settle down with Siffrin and Isabeau and all sleep in one big bed and raise children with them and be committed life partners, as long as it's not called romance" is not something I'm inherently opposed to exploring, because that is a real experience that it's possible for a romance-repulsed aro to have, but I think it should be held on the same level as "Mirabelle is happy to [details I shan't go into on main], as long as it's not called sex".
The former may feel a lot more normal, but you see how that's the exact problem, right? The latter may feel more icky, but if that ick is rooted in respect for enthusiastic consent and a character's stated disinterest, why do you value those less in a nonsexual context?
Like I said, I'm not actually entirely opposed to either scenario. (I understand why some people hate them both, but I think it's possible and rewarding to pull them off in deeply a-spec ways.) And it's fine to personally enjoy one and be way more put off by the other. But there's not really any big canonical difference in how Mirabelle treats one versus the other; she lists sex right alongside activities like bonding and having kids when discussing her frustration that she's expected to find a person to do all of this with. So why is it generally considered unobjectionable to write Mirabelle raising kids, but an absolute nonstarter to write her having sex? When the overall fandom norms skew so obviously like this it's clear that some larger social norms must be at play.
So it is worth giving it some dedicated thought and deciding your opinion on these topics, instead of just going off of what feels distasteful vs what feels cute, or going along with other people's opinions. Even if you end up still wanting to write the same stories, your consideration will make your execution of these ideas stronger and less amatonormative. (And even if you're just reading other people's stories, it's important to consider the assumptions within them lest you mindlessly internalize them.) There's no one right answer, but you still gotta ask yourself the questions. Fighting amatonormativity is an active choice that we all gotta keep looking for opportunities to make. 😤
I have the feeling tumblr is gonna hate on mamdani
Which is stupid because hes like
✦ That trans man who's transandrophobic and believes that being aroace means completely lacking romantic and sexual attraction. I don't think he's really someone we can trust ngl.
Loveless aros deserve a voice and I am in complete agreement you shouldn't have to "make up for" being aro by feeling love in other ways but the growing subsection of the community that act as though being aro inherently means being loveless and that the two terms should be taken as one and the same do get on my nerves sometimes I will not lie
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Asexuality and aromanticism being a spectrum make them even less queer. “What if a cishet didn’t feel romantic attraction as often as other cishets” well then I simply wouldn’t care
Do you realize how garbage it is to base What Is Queer & What Isn't off of that logic?
Many multisexual people have spectrums of attraction. Like, some are more attracted to transgender people than cisgender people, are more attracted to feminine genders than masculine genders, or have different standards of attraction for different genders.
Would you look at that, another queer spectrum?
And, while we're at it: queer has many definitions, absolutely, and one of them is "anything that goes against societal norms of gender and sexuality" (how do you be "less queer" with that as a definition, by the way?)
Also, not every culture prioritizes putting a word to every feeling, but neither to have nor to not have is a bad thing. Labels are very individualistic, and can be adopted by anybody who feels seen by them, even if they are cisgender and/or heterosexual. In fact, we need more cishet people to feel comfortable being non-conforming. Fuck "Us Versus Them."
Y'know, anon, I think you should really commit to the "simply wouldn't care" bit. I think that would do you some good. If you agree with Joanne K. Rowling that asexuals and aromantics are fake, then... go? away? 👋
Because you know what you sound like?
Hey guys, I simply do not care for bananas! I don't understand why they are a fruit when they are so gross, and to me, a fruit is tasty!
It would be so nice if every few years queer tumblr didn’t do a, “this queer identity is more privileged than the rest of us and shouldn’t talk about their issues/shouldn’t even be in the community,” about another identity.
Since I’ve been here it’s been: nonbinary people, bisexual people, asexual and aromantic people, polyamorous people, pansexual people, people who only use the word queer for their identity, trans men/mascs, and intersex people. At least. I might’ve missed something.
We’re stronger together. We all need space to discuss our experiences and all deserve not to be spoken over.
Aroaces do not speak for everyone in the Acommunity.
Aroaces are not the most marginalized group. Pushing this narrative of inclusion has reached the extent of erasure for more marginalized aspec identities.
Pushing this narrative of “lithromantic is included under aro” or “aro includes lithromantic” makes me feel like I’m not being heard as a lithro, who uses the lithro label + flag and doesn’t feel included. I feel like aroaces are trying to erase my identity and replace it with the aro label. “Aro awareness”-only doesn’t result in more awareness or visibility for my lithro label. Infact, “speaking over” lithros/arospecs/aspecs who don’t use the aro/aroace label, is a problem. It invalidates people and results in more exclusive awareness for the aro + aroace labels, and none for labels that desperately need awareness, like lithromantic, frayromantic, and fraysexual.
