an excerpt | read the full thread by eliza mondegreen
Let’s be clear about this: *No* healthy, open, supportive community seeks to terrify and control its members like this on such flimsy pretexts. These are the marks of a manipulative group exercising destructive influence over its most vulnerable members.
A healthy, open, supportive trans community would not look or sound like the trans community we’ve got. It would be honest about the risks trans people face, rather than wildly inflating those risks to instill fear.
It would foster resilience and self-sufficiency in gender-questioning youth, rather than telling kids that anyone who disagrees with their worldview hates them or that exposure to misgendering or dead-naming can lead to suicide.
A healthy, open trans community would accept that transition doesn’t work for everybody and that there are legitimate reasons to detransition and exit the community.
A healthy, open, supportive trans community would invite ethical research into transition outcomes and alternatives—rather than trying to shut down inquiry—because trans-identifying people deserve the best care available, not just the most ideologically-compliant ‘care.’
And a healthy, open, supportive trans community would encourage young people to explore their questions and doubts openly—recognizing transition as a serious undertaking—without fear of censure or expulsion from the group.
These toxic dynamics aren’t contained within the community either, spilling out into the public sphere whenever any issue that touches gender identity is discussed.
You deserve better than this. You are not wrong for having questions, doubts, or concerns.
thinking about detransition? you are not alone