Tulipe

INTRODUCTION

Hot take but I don’t think when a system is asked to take accountability it’s always the systems fault. First of alters are always there for a reason they form from when we are in a stressful situation or need care/protect/gatekeep etc etc. a lot of the times I’ve been called out for my system “acting out” was whenever my “interact with caution” alter would be fronting or the ones that you’re not allowed to talk to at all. But despite this boundary people would still provoke or try to talk to that specific alter despite us as a system recommending not to do that for that exact reason. Now I don’t say what my alter did www right (insulted my friends threatened and harassed people) but if our boundaries could’ve just been respected and you wouldn’t of have provoked such an aggressive alter this whole thing could’ve been avoided. See,now I don’t say it’s an excuse but it’s rare that alters act out for no reason. Most of the time it’s because they feel threatened or scared so they behave strangely or act out. For me personally our alters like that can be normal as long as you treat them normally or are very cautious with them. Whenever people tell me “x alter did —-“ my first question is on what happened. I doubt my avenger alter would’ve harassed someone for fun! I mean their whole role is being an avenger. Besides they are normal to people outside the system if they don’t feel scared so whenever I get reports like that I honestly can’t feel like I am in the wrong for it. You provoked, talked, scared and aggressive/sensitive alter and they responded badly. What did you expect honestly?

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I don’t forgive people for their comfort I forgive them for my comfort.