Iām probably going to get hate for this, but iām tired of seeing people with ASPD romanticizing "free cruelty".
Letās be real: having ASPD doesnāt force you to be cruel for no reason.
āIf you have ASPD and youāre a complete asshole, then youāre just an asshole.
The disorder might explain why you don't feel guilt or why youāre impulsive, but it doesn't hold a gun to your head and make you go out of your way to ruin someoneās day.
Conscience and conduct are two different things. Plenty of people with this diagnosis manage to exist without being toxic, if you can't, thatās a personality flaw, not a symptom.
Iām just tired of seeing people use their lack of empathy as a justification for being a bottom-tier human being.
I know itās hard sometime. I deal with the same impulses, the same problems. But having those urges isnāt the same as acting on them. Not feeling empathy doesnāt remove the ability to recognize harm and choose not to cause it especially when its just free and without reasons.
Cognitive empathy exists for a reason, you can understand that an action is shitty without needing to feel the other person's pain.
If you choose to be a jerk because you think your diagnosis justifies it, youāre just proving everyoneās worst stereotypes right.
Lack of empathy isnāt a free pass. If you understand something is harmful and do it anyway, thatās a choice. You can have zero feelings and still have enough logic to not be a nightmare to everyone around you.
One is a neurodivergence, the other is a choice.