Radical and Mathematical

Executive dysfunction comes from a lack of available dopamine. Common advice is wrong. You need to provide your own dopamine before you can start. Otherwise you're trying to run your car on empty.

"But what if I still don't do it" well you already weren't getting it done anyway. Now you have a little treat. Try again later.

You deserve kindness and care even when you aren't being productive.

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TRAs: "Everyone is an authority on their own gender"

TRAs: "Misgendering is literal violence"

"... And so while it is of course to be hoped that angry grammarians will come round to the idea that saying ‘he and she’ (or even, God forbid, ‘she and he’) instead of just ‘he’ may not be the worst thing that has ever happened to them, the truth is that getting rid of the generic masculine would only be half the battle: male bias is so firmly embedded in our psyche that even genuinely gender-neutral words are read as male. A 2015 study identified the top five words used to refer to people in human–computer interaction papers published in 2014 and found that they are all apparently gender neutral: user, participant, person, designer and researcher.39 Well done, human–computer interaction academics! But there is (of course) a catch. When study participants were instructed to think about one of these words for ten seconds and then draw an image of it, it turned out that these apparently gender-neutral words were not perceived as equally likely to be male or female. For male participants, only ‘designer’ was interpreted as male less than 80% of the time (it was still almost 70% male). A researcher was more likely to be depicted as of no gender than as a female. Women were slightly less gender-biased, but on the whole were still more likely to read gender-neutral words as male, with only ‘person’ and ‘participant’ (both read by about 80% of male participants as male) being about 50/50."

then i really though about it, and i had a huge revelation: whether conscious or subconscious, her brain has identified a pattern that the men around her are hairy but the women aren't. my body hair isn't normal to her because i'm a girl. she is three years old.

this is how gender roles and beauty standards continue on to new generations. children are very perceptive and very curious, and they notice everything. they internalize the patterns around them from a very early age, despite not understanding why just yet.

i explained to her that the hair on my legs grows just like the hair on her head. that it's a normal part of growing up for boys and girls. while she doesn't understand the concept of shaving yet, i wanted her to know that it's normal to have hairy legs.

rejecting these stereotypes is so much bigger than just yourself. little girls will see you and learn that girls can exist in many different forms. it's not just leg hair—it's a teaching moment, an act of protest, a threat to beauty standards that perpetuate female subjugation.

don't get me started on male gaze vs female gaze being basically the same things in different colour palettes...