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The brain automatically and unconsciously reads confidence, posture, tone, and self presentation as signals of status and competence, so when you consistently shrink yourself, people’s perception of your authority shrinks with it

I don’t know why you might water yourself down. Maybe to be liked. Maybe to avoid jealousy. Maybe to keep the peace. We’ve all done it at some point. The moment you dilute yourself, you teach people how to perceive you

You don’t need to be quieter, less ambitious, less opinionated, less intelligent, less attractive or less anything to make other people comfortable. The right people are not threatened by your fullness

Always remember that men are the gold diggers, the resource hoarders, and they do NOT care about you. They will happily watch a woman work herself to the grave, grow sick, work through the sickness, and sell priceless belongings and continue using her.

This sounds like a simple purpose. But remember who we lesbians are, and how radical are the simplest things we do. The fact that we love women is our most radical act. Loyal members of our misogynistic society hate women. As lesbians we know and live a subversive truth, that women create happiness and satisfaction for each other independent of men. Our society regards this as an outrage. The existence of lesbian couples--many even with children--demonstrates that women create stable, productive, supportive families without a thought to men and their needs. This fact challenges a fundamental doctrine of our society, that women exist to serve men. Lesbian existence is thus sacrilege."