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no babe i find your strange and creepy and perverted vibe to be very cute actually

You gotta be really publicly passionate about things if you want your friends to text you. Bc people will forget to text you because they’re human. But if you’re really openly the friend who loves identifying ants your friends will think of you when they see ants. And they’ll text you “what ant is this [blurry photo]”. And then they’ll ask you how you’ve been and we should get coffee sometime. But if they don’t know what you love they’ll never know what you like

And then when the ant convention is in town they’ll be like dude… we should go to the ant convention. But they would never think to go if they didn’t know u loved ants

And sometimes you need to ask them to go to the ant convention. But you Will not get anywhere hiding your passions

it has always been a dream of mine to relax

i have permanently lost the abity to go to sleep before midnight

if you do not have a library card, you should go get one at the earliest opportunity.

if you do not have a library card, you should go get one at the earliest opportunity.

partnered sexual activity should be mutually beneficial, mutually wanted, and mutually pleasurable. it should be free from harm and abuse. it should provide a feeling of satisfaction, joy, companionship, and relaxation. it should not feel like something to overcome, something to master, something to deliver, something to perform, or something to recover from. it should be done with someone worth being vulnerable and trusting with, it should be worth having that connection carry with you for the rest of your life. your sexual partners may come and go, you may not love them, or you may think you did, or you might just want to act on very intense feelings in the moment that are special then but in the light of day evaporates, and that's okay that's life, life is messy and untidy. But you'll remember this person, and you will share with them this memory, even if you fall out of touch, and so they should be worthy to you. Your body, your life, your memories, your pleasure, your future, your bared self...these should be special to share, this should be an important decision. don't let bad people trick you into thinking it's just a transaction and nothing more. don't let people use you as masturbation. you gain nothing from that.

I love the idea, but the bar is too high. If this is the feeling I had to wait for to ever have sex, I'd never have had sex at all. Sex is wonderful, but it's just a human process. Don't treat it as the panacea of all human connection.

mutually beneficial, mutually wanted, and mutually pleasurable is too high a bar to clear???

omfg you DO have a connection carry with you the rest of your life, even if you don't cherish the memory or care that deeply about it. Because you share the memory AT ALL, even a vague memory of it. Are we not human, do we not live in a society?? what's the alternative, don't give a shit about sex and have traumatic sex and then carry those wounds around forever instead? If it's a high bar to clear, so be it.

Everything you have ever experienced stays with you to some extent. Yes, for the rest of your life. All OP is saying is that every time you have sex should be one of the good ones.

don't forget lateral and rotational movement too.