#binitian

It is one thing if a non-binary person personally labels their relationship as such. However, the active neglect of non-binary specific labels is exorsexist, especially since sapphic/yuri is predominantly used to refer to feminine relationships and achillean/yaoi is predominantly used to refer to masculine relationships. (This is not to say sapphic and achillean can't refer to other gender types, but theres no denying the binary-centric history these terms hold within the community.)

Fandom spaces are even worse with this, treating all non-binary relationships as just sapphic-lite and achillean-lite.

If you are in a fandom, and you have a character with a non-binary ship, please promote non-binary language.

At the very least, please mix in non-binary language with your binary-centric terms (ie; a non-binary person who is dating a binary man, and prefers to be called a husband, while using terms such as toric or adonic for their relationship.)

Here are some terms used in the same way sapphic/yuri and achillean/yaoi are:

-Diamoric (A relationship that involves a non-binary person in some shape or form) -Trixic (NBLW) and Maedic (WLNB) -Toric (NBLM) and Adonic (MLNB) -Enbian (NBLNB) and Binitian (Binary Loving Non-binary)

Here are some terms used in the same way lesbian and uranian are:

-Feminamoric (non-binary person primarily attracted to women.) -Viramoric (non-binary person primarily attracted to men.) -Ceteramoric (non-binary person primarily attracted to other non-binary people.) -Tria (binary person primarily attracted to non-binary people. This could be any type of non-binary person, or specific types of non-binary people). Can be spelled alternatively based on attraction (ie; triasexual, triaromantic, triaplatonic, etc.)

Here are some terms used for dating/marriage:

-Bach/Bachlorex/Bachloree/Bachloren/Bachlorum (unmarried) -Partner/Joyfriend/Datefriend/Enbyfriend/Enfriend (dating) -Fiance/Nearlywed/Betrothed/Celebrant (engaged) -Marrier/Newlywed/Bridegroom/Brigroom/Gide (getting married) -Spouse/Wifeband/Huswife/Wifen/Husen/Wifet/Huset/Esso/Essie (married/spouse)

And while we're here, stop calling non-binary people "they/thems." Non-binary people do not all collectively use they/them pronouns, we can also use he/him, she/her, it/its, neopronouns, multiple pronouns, or even no pronouns. Our genders do not deserve to be boiled down to infantilizing language like "my little they."

When referring to a singular person, use the words non-binary person, enby, or enban.

[PT: Gendered attraction terms]

(Check out Check out sex & gender terms here [link], relationship orientations here [link], and attraction types, aspec identities, & other orientations here [link.])

Here are some umbrella terms that apply to both mono and m-spec attraction (ie; "sapphic" could refer to a mono lesbian or a m-spec person):

Sapphic: Attraction to women (and potentially enben) that is queerfeminine or genderqueer in nature. Often used to discuss WLW, but can also describe NBLW/WLNB and even MLW/WLM (if the man involved is genderqueer in some nature.) Achillean: Attraction to men (and potentially enben) that is queermasculine or genderqueer in nature. Often used to discuss MLM, but can also describe NBLM/MLNB and even (genderqueer) MLW/WLM. Trixic: Enben who are attracted to women (and potentially other enben). Often used to discuss NBLW, but can also describe NBLNB or NBLGqM (GqM = genderqueer man.) Toric: Enben who are attracted to men (and potentially other enben). Often used to discuss NBLM, but can also describe NBLNB or NBLGqW (GqW = genderqueer woman.) Enbian: Enben who are attracted to other enben. Often used to discuss NBLNB, but can also describe NBLGqW or NBLGqM. Maedic: Women who are attracted to enben. Often used to discuss WLNB, but can also describe WLGqW or WLGqM. Adonic: Men who are attracted to enben. Often used to discuss MLNB, but can also describe MLGqW or MLGqM. Binitian: A binary person attraction to enben; an umbrella term for maedic and adonic. Diamoric: An umbrella term for any relationship or attraction that involves an enban. This includes trixic, toric, enbian, maedic, adonic, or binitian attraction/relationships, and some sapphic, achillean, julietian, romeric, and duaric attraction/relationships. Julietian: Women who are attracted to men (and potentially enben.) Often used to discuss WLM, but can also describe WLNB or WLGqW. Romeric: Men who are attracted to women (and potentially enben.) Often used to discuss MLW, but can also describe MLNB or MLGqM. Duaric: An umbrella term for julietian and romeric.

Here are some more specific terms:

Straight/Hetero-: A person who primarily experiences duaric attraction. May also be spelled as Strayt when being used by an enban/genderqueer person. Lesbian: A person who primarily experiences sapphic attraction. Uranian/Turian/Veldian: A person who primarily experiences achillean attraction. Feminamoric: A person who primarily experiences trixic attraction. Viramoric: A person who primarily experiences toric attraction. Contraic: An enben who is primarily attracted to genders they consider to be different from their own. Symmaic: An enben who is primarily attracted to genders they consider to be similar to their own. Tria-: A person who primarily experiences enbian or binitian attraction. A non-binary or genderqueer tria person may use the term Ceteramoric as well/instead. Lunaric: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to feminine enben. Solaric: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to masculine enben. Saturnic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to androgynous enben. Neustellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to neutral enben. Nullstellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to null enben. Ageninic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to genderless enben. Spacialic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to xenine enben. Oustellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to outherine enben. Apstellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to aporine enben. Multiellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to multigender enben. Fluidellic is a subset of multiellic, describing a person primarily attracted to fluid/flux enben. Mono-: A person who is attracted to one type of gender (ie; a person who is attracted to only women.) Mspec/M-spec/The Multiattractional Spectrum: An umbrella term for people who are attracted to more than one type of gender. Bi-: A person who is attracted to two or more types of genders. Ambi- describes a bi person who is attracted to both similar and dissimilar genders. Dyo/Di- describes a bi person who is attracted to exclusively two types of genders (ie; a person who is only attracted to maveriques and women.) Bin- describes a bi person who is only attracted to the binary genders. Ply-/Poly-/Poli-: A person who is attracted to three or more types of genders, but not all types of genders. Neptunic: A ply person who is attracted to all genders except for masculine ones. Uranic: A ply person who is attracted to all genders except for feminine ones. Trixenamoric: A ply person who is attracted to all genders except for binary men. Torenamoric: A ply person who is attracted to all genders except for binary women. Omni-: A person who is attracted to all types of genders, but has gender preferences, presentation preferences, and/or is attracted to different genders in different ways. Fin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present feminine qualities. Min-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present masculine qualities. Lin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present androgynous qualities. Nin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present neutral or null qualities. Agin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present agenrine qualities. Ouin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present outherine qualities. Pan-: A person who is attracted to all types of genders and has no gender or presentation preferences. They may have physical preferences (ie; preferring muscular people, preferring green eyes, etc), but gender plays no role in their attraction. Abro-: A person whose orientation is fluid or fluctuates (for example, they may be fin one day and uranic the next.) How often it changes varies from person to person. Mutoic- describes a person whose orientation changes under specific circumstances (ie; a person who is usually apstellic, but shifts to lesbian during the summer.)

Special mentions:

Intersex BIPOC, we love you. Whether you have a penile trait, urethral trait, ambiguous genitals, agenital trait, reproductive trait, hormonal trait, and/or chromosomal variation - we love you.

Transsex and altersex BIPOC - we love you.

Genderqueer, transgender, non-binary, and anonbinary BIPOC - we love you. Whether your identity is feminine, masculine, androgynous, neutral, null, xenine, outherine, aporine, or a combination - you are stunning and valuable in your own unique way.

BIPOC with cultural genders or sexes - we love you. Your gender or sex deserves to be viewed through its own cultural lens, and to be acknowledged beyond a "gotcha" to transphobes & intersexists.

Sapphic, achillean, binitian, diamoric, m-spec, and a-spec BIPOC - we love you.

BIPOC who experience queerplatonic, alterous, objectum, or auto-spec attraction - we love you.

Nibitic: being nblb or blnb (nibian or binitian). An umbrella term for attractions, relationships and anything involving binary and nonbinary individuals.

It could be also labelled as binic, nibic, binitic or nibitian. You could be also both at once (bln nlb), as julerics can be duaric and amberians equaric. 

I feel like it's important to use enby centric terms, but I don't think it's fair to claim people are being exorsexist when calling their otps as lesbian/gay. If someone is erasing an enby character's identity by claiming they're a man/woman, then THAT'S exorsexist, but not the terms lesbian/gay by themselves.

I especially find it harmful as I am a gay enby, and I've been told many times before that I shouldn't call myself gay because I'm non-binary. And people don't listen to me when I say I'm gay BECAUSE I'm non-binary. I don't want to be pushed out of terms and communities that I've always been in and always use just because other people don't like enbies being associated with gay/lesbian/sapphic/achillian.

"I feel like it's important to use enby centric terms, but I don't think it's fair to claim people are being exorsexist when calling their otps as lesbian/gay."

I literally said in the post itself to please just mix in some non-binary language more often. The post itself is titled "labelling every non-binary relationship as sapphic/yuri and achillean/yaoi is exorsexist." Not that it's exorsexist in every scenario, just that it is exorsexist to do it to all non-binary relationships.

I think non-binary lesbians/sapphics, non-binary uranians/achilleans, and non-binary straights/duarics are amazing and deserve a space in the community. It is true that a lot of people bash on lesbian/sapphic, uranian/achillean, and straight/duaric non-binary people, and I find that extremely frustrating.

It is exorsexist to tell non-binary people how to identify.

But there's a contradictory standard - a standard of "don't identify as lesbian/sapphic, uranian/achillean, or straight/duaric if you are non-binary" and also "stop making new terms, just use the ones that are already around, they include you!"

The issue isn't having representation of lesbian, sapphic, achillean, uranian, straight, and duaric non-binary characters. The issue isn't having characters who use those identities. That was never my claim.

The issue is that fandom spaces ONLY use those terms, and NEVER acknowledge non-binary specific terms. They also treat all non-binary characters as explicitly feminine or masculine, and thus have an ultra-simplified view of how such identities (lesbian/sapphic/uranian/achillean/straight/duaric) affect non-binary people at large, and how they are unique to enben.

They shove every non-binary character into the same boxes and same identities, and never consider the idea that many enben feel uncomfortable being labelled in ways that are predominately woman-dominated and man-dominated.

This is exorsexism. All non-binary tags are filled to the brim with binary-centric language and binary-centric cross posting. They are often also filled with chasers who fetishize enben.

I don't care if you (general you, not you OP) are attracted to non-binary people and personally identify as sapphic or achillean.

Stop flooding NBLNB, NBLW/WLNB, and NBLM/MLNB tags with sapphic and achillean crossposting.

Usually the stuff you are crossposting is barely inclusive of non-binary people, talking about "women/girl/girlfriend" and "men/boy/boyfriend", and the only sign that it's inclusive of non-binary people is in the tags. An afterthought.

(Link to the post in question.)

Yes, exactly. It's prime exorsexism.

In the same way that fandoms and online spaces say "aromantics can date!" and "asexuals can have sex!" to erase arospec and acespec identities, they also say "non-binary people can be sapphic/achillean/lesbian/uranian!"