#autospec

The opposite of queer is conformant. We are so sick of people saying "cishet" when they mean conformant.

A person could be...

-Intersex and cishet.

-Transcis/Cistrans/Trisgender and hetero (ie; some intersex people, some multigender people, etc.)

-Cishet and genderqueer.

-A-spec (anae-spec, afam-spec, apl-spec, asen-spec, ace-spec, aro-spec, aroace-spec, etc) and cishet.

-Cis and heteroflexible.

-Cishet and objectum.

-Cishet and auto-spec.

-Cishet with nontraditional attraction (queerplatonic, alterous, waveric, etc.)

[PT: Ectonormativity]

Ectonormativity is a subset of amatonormativity, centering around the social concept that every person must have attraction and/or relationships with a person outside of their physical self; the idea that autospec and in-system relationships/attraction are either problematic or not a "real" relationship. Common examples of ectonormativity include: -Referring to autospec or in-sys relationships/attraction as "selfcest", implicating that it is comparable to incestophilia, when they are not the same thing [link.] -Telling autospec people that they are "narcissistic" (also overlapping with saneism towards NPD) and "egotistical". -Telling autospec people that they "will never be satisfied with themselves." -Telling autospec people that its "just self-confidence/self-love, not a real orientation, and they're just trying to be special." -Making fun of autospecs for self-dates, self-marriages, etc, with no external partner to make it appear "normal." -Making fun of plurals for dates, marriages, etc, where only the shared body is present, with no external partner to make it appear "normal." -Diminishing the personhood of one or all of the sysmates involved in a relationship, claiming that all the sysmates are a singular being (which is both pluralphobic fakeclaiming and also anti-autospec.)

[ID: Join the sunset paraphile servers! /End ID]

Hello paraphile community! So, I made a post a few days back [link] about this, and have started up two servers - an 18+ server and a SFW (not age specified) server, both for paraphiles!

For the SFW server, sex can only be vaguely referenced or only discussed for educational (sex ed) purposes.

It is open to all types of paraphiles, so long as they are:

-Inclusive to nonsexual paraphilias (ie; romantic, queerplatonic, alterous, etc paraphilias.) -Anti radqueer/radfem (Note: This server is not anti harmless transIDs, like "transbrunette", get fun with it, idc as long as you're not using transIDs as an excuse to be racist/ableist/appropriating people's trauma.) -Pro endo -Pro alterhuman -LGBTQIA+ inclusionist -Anti censorship and anti psychiatric abuse of paraphiles (ie; conversion therapy) -Anti abuse and anti contact for paraphilias that could cause impactful harm or breach consent (including anti-contact for incest) -Intolerant to bigotry (including anti-religious and anti-masculine sentiments) -Intolerant to misuse of disabled language (narcissist, sociopath/psychopath, psychotic, brain damaged, brain dead, conflation of empathy/sympathy to kindness, etc) -Pro choice -Anti-Trump, anti-Elon Musk, anti JK Rowling, anti-USA/anti-Israel/anti-Russia (the government, not the people)

The server is not on discord as I have a lot of important things on discord and my life would be a disaster if I got IP banned on there. So instead, it is on Element.

For those who don't know what Element is - on web, it is app.element.io. On mobile, it is Element Classic. The logo is green with four white spikes forming a circular logo. It is more or less a discord clone.

And the best part about element is that if you dont want to see content for a room, you're not forced to join it! Its not like Discord where when you join, you are a part of every room, and have to mute each room individually. You choose which rooms you want to join when you initially join (and can opt in or out at any time!)

For both the 18+ and SFW servers, we have channels for:

-General chatting, tips & coping mechanisms, questions, coining & flags, vents -Objectophilia/Objectum (conceptums welcome too!) -Fictophilia/fictospec -Autophilia/autospec -Hierophilia (attraction/arousal to religious or spiritual things - godspousers, you can chat it up here!) -Partialism & genital centric paraphilias -Paraphilias for scent, bodily substances, or hygiene -Fashion-centric paraphilias -Weight & eating paraphilias -Size difference paraphilias -Transformation & body modification paraphilias -Breeding/pregnancy/oviposition paraphilias -BDSM -Bigotry/bioessentialism fantasies (obviously not in support of real oppression) -Ageplay -Chronophilias -Zoophilia -Petplay & anthrozoophilia -Teratophilia (monsterlovers & monsterfuckers, this is for you!) -Necrophilia -Violence-centric paraphilias -Acrotomophilia & apotemnophilia (inclusive of those with BIID) -Medical-centric paraphilias -Biastophilia/Noncon/Dubcon -Exhibitionism & voyeurism -Somnophilia -Incest -Fauxcest -Other paraphilias these channels dont cover -Combos of paraphilias

I won't be making it public as to avoid harassment and trolls, so to join, you'll need a private invite. And please let me know if you want to be a moderator! The moderator team is very small right now.

If you wish to be a part of it (as a moderator or otherwise), please DM me! (I will check over your account briefly, but I will not expose who joined. Our DMs will be 100% private.)

Even if you dont personally plan to join, any reblogs from anyone would mean a lot!