Providence Life Coaching and Reiki Counseling

We tend to describe emotions as positive or negative, but there is no such thing as positive emotions or negative emotions. All emotions are needed and part of being a healthy human. We may have emotions we don’t like, but that does not mean they are negative or that we should avoid them. Continue reading There Is No Such Thing As Positive or Negative Emotions

Indie Reader Book Review by Edward Sung IR Rating: 4.7 Raw, compassionate, and perceptive, Michael Swerdloff’s memoir RAISED BY WOLVES, POSSIBLY MONSTERS is a vital excavation of toxic masculinity’s rot—and an urgent call for individual and cultural transformation. October 9, 2024 Continue reading Indie Reader Book Review – RAISED BY WOLVES, POSSIBLY MONSTERS

This is a simple and clear article on mistakes couples make during conflict. We all make mistakes in our relationships with everyone in our lives. Making mistakes is not a problem; choosing not to learn and grow is. Three Common Mistakes Couples Make During Conflict If you want to stop arguing all the time, avoid these mistakes Andrew G. Marshall Est. reading time: 4 min. They trudged into my…

When somebody is going through a crisis, many people respond by trying to fix their problem and solve it without considering the person and their current experience. Typically, the person in crisis is not ready to “fix” the situation. First, they need some attention. A crisis can activate the nervous system, which makes it hard to self-regulate. Co-regulation can be a wonderful gift to anyone…

Habit stacking is an excellent way to add new habits to patterns and habits that already exist. I have done this by using several habits that I wanted to add to my daily life. The first time I utilized habit stacking it did not have a name yet, or at least I wasn’t aware it had a name. I really wanted to become consistent about flossing nightly before bed. This was not a hard routine to add a…

We are re-creating a Men’s Group for Support & Growth on Zoom. We will meet on the Fourth Monday of the month from 5:30-7:00 pm! Our first meeting will be Monday, January 27, 5:30-7:00 pm. What Is Our Men’s Group Doing? We are a Men’s Group discussing our honest feelings on relationships, drugs, love, sex, money, work, and life in general. We’ll pick a topic, trade stories, have a moderated…

A simple but effective way to save your relationship by Prince EA. The practice takes more than thirty seconds, but it is still quick and impactful. Practicing being present and breathing together can support opportunities for connection, trust, and safety. Touch can create even deeper connection and intimacy. I invite you to watch this short video on saving your relationship through healthy…

Healthy Masculinity Where is healthy masculinity in the news? Headlines today are filled with men abusing women – from Sean “Diddy” Combs to the Frenchman accused of raping his wife and allowing other men to do so. These stories beg these questions: Can men be reformed and changed? What role can men play in making the world safe for women?   Author MICHAEL SWERDLOFF, who received training from…

Life is often about the little things, especially in relationships. People want to know they matter and are important to us, and little things go a long way toward achieving that goal. How do you respond when the people in your life make bids and connection attempts toward you at random times throughout your days? Do you move closer or further in those moments? How does it feel when you move…

We are all aware of the potential costs of isolation—at least, we were before we became entrenched in digital connections. Human connections are suffering as more people feel increased isolation. I look forward to your comments and experiences on isolation from the article below posted on The Gottman Institute. Continue reading Isolation in the Digital Era: The Power of Human Relationships

How do we learn about making love? A book, our parents, porn, movies, TV, social media? How about porcupines? This is a hilarious and insightful video and article about relationships, sex, and making love. I will not add anything; please enjoy the video and reflection on making love. Continue reading What Porcupines Can Teach Us About Making Love

Reiki counseling is a system my teacher designed for working with people through challenging and deep-seated issues. What makes it so effective is the combination of the loving and supportive energy of Reiki, helping somebody move to a slow enough brain rhythm that their inner resistance becomes less of an obstacle. Reiki also creates a safe enough container for us to work on issues that…

What are the signs you’ve done your shadow work? None of them constantly quote famous authors, Gurus, and teachers. None of them tell anybody who listens or reads that they must do their shadow work. None of them use their spiritual knowledge as a marketing technique for economic success. None of them believe that they know the singular “right way” to lead a spiritually guided life. None of them…

Most couples struggle with conflict resolution. They may call it communication, anger issues, conflict avoidance, contempt, manipulation, narcissism, trauma response, triggers, etc., but we are often talking about conflict resolution. “What is conflict? Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationship. After all, two people can’t be expected to agree on everything, all the time. The key is…