Hi!

If you've been following Wesal's posts (@shahdgazza) or have been receiving the updates from the fundraiser I created for Farah, then you will know that she hasn't been doing well.

Farah requires daily potassium supplements due to kidney problems, supplements that have not been available lately. So Wesal has had to ration the ones she could get her hands on and buy as much potassium-rich food as she could find, which hasn't been sufficient. Potassium deficiency is extremely dangerous and can lead to cardiac arrest.

Recently, the family has also been dealing with fleas that bite, causing wounds that Farah's bad health couldn't handle. In particular, the wounds on her legs became open sores with bacterial infection.

Today Wesal tells me she's had to take Farah to hospital.

She told me:

"I went to the hospital to have the inflamed layer of the ulcers peeled off. Farah's body became severely inflamed, and the doctors decided that the accumulated bacterial nodules needed to be cleaned. The ulcer was very painful to scrape, but I have to treat my child. Her blood pressure was low, 90/45. My daughter almost died today. I paid $300 to the private clinic."

They also had to buy antibiotics to treat the infection. Today they spent the whole day in the hospital, going from one department to the next. As Farah is autistic, this was very confusing and distressing for her, and for her parents as well, who feel helpless.

Video content warning - The doctor/nurse is taking Farah's blood!

Please provide some hope for Farah and her family!

Share this post and add your well wishes, and donate if you are able. Farah's fundraiser has been verified by gazavetters, #451!

This is a very stressful and scary time for Farah's family. Let's show them that we haven't forgotten about them!

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Today I return carrying what little hope remains, and I pray that this hope will not be lost. I ask God to bless every hand extended in kindness, and to reward all those who stand with us with the best of rewards ... 💔💔💔

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He was admitted to the hospital today, and his condition is critical. We are terrified and running out of time. We cannot afford the treatment and medication he needs every day. Without it, his life is in real danger. I’m begging you please, don’t ignore this. Help us in any way you can.

Even a small contribution or sharing this post could save his life.

Please… we truly need you right now. 🙏💔 :::

heteronormativity is, by definition, the societal belief that heterosexuality is the default, most normal sexuality and thus superior to all others. it is the belief that the only acceptable type of couple is one hypermasculine, dominant man in an exclusive relationship with a hyperfeminine, submissive woman (and that woman "belongs to" him, like property.) heteronormativity is the rotting, cancerous foundation upon which homophobia and transphobia are built, and it is EXTREMELY problematic.

in a vacuum, a ship fitting the "hypermasculine, dominant man in an exclusive relationship with a hyperfeminine, submissive woman" archetype is not inherently problematic. however, we do not live in a vacuum; we are products of a culture that is quite often violently homophobic and transphobic. even if we ourselves are queer, we all have a subconscious bias towards heteronormativity. that's why it's so important that we do the work of challenging ourselves, our instinctual responses to media we like, and thoughtfully examining our behaviors for that subconscious bias.

that bias, like any bias, can sometimes manifest in the kinds of ships people engage in. often times, people who aren't doing that work will force ships into fitting that archetype because it is the most familiar to them, or because they believe (either subconsciously or consciously) it's the best or most normal kind of ship.

this isn't a tendency unique to Shadamy shippers, but it does get noticed a lot more with Shadamy in particular, i think. personally, i have noticed that SOME (not all!) Shadamy shippers will sand down the edges of both characters to force them into the "broken bad boy/soft girl who fixes him" trope, which can be incredibly misogynistic. people have a right to be critical of these trends where they crop up, especially if the people doing it are showing bigotry or biases in other ways.

like any ship, it just depends on how it's handled. if it's done well, in a way respectful to both characters and mindful of bias, Shadamy can be very cute! i have lukewarm feelings about it personally, but i totally see the appeal. hell, i have many friends who adore the ship, and i'm always excited to see what they make for it.

when it comes to this kind of thing, it's important to try to remember this simple truth: criticism does not always mean something is inherently immoral or problematic. it just means the person being critical is hoping to spark constructive dialogue. often they're sharing their critiques because they feel it can be done better and want to contribute in some way.

obviously if someone is being nasty purely to start fights and hurt other people, they're in the wrong and probably worth blocking. that is radically different from people sharing their criticism or talking about what they don't like about a ship on a public forum. when you call it "bitching" and rudely tell them to shut up in a public space just because you don't agree, YOU are being the asshole.

Please help my daughter's sweetheart alleviate her suffering.

Because of the tent life and the spread of infectious diseases and many epidemics, she deserves a better life like other children; she has the right to play and study.

We cannot afford to buy medicine due to our difficult living conditions. Please save my daughter; every donation makes a difference in Habiba's life.

Every morning, Adam and Habiba dream of going to school, but due to serious financial difficulties, I can no longer afford their education.

Education is their only hope for a better future. Any support or even sharing this message could help keep their dreams alive.

Thank you for caring 🤍

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The doctor said she needs a course of treatment costing 850 € to improve her health and restore her consciousness.

Please help me, don't leave me alone.😭

I don't want to lose my wife; I've already lost my mother and older brother, and I can't bear to lose anyone else in my family. I feel like I'm living in a terrible nightmare. Please help me.

My eyes won't stop crying. My little baby needs his mother's embrace. Please stand with me to raise the money to buy her a course of treatment.

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Why is everyone ignoring me? What kind of cruel world is this? 💔

Why are you leaving me alone while my wife is fighting for her life? I write these words with tears and a heart full of pain. 😭😭

Where is the humanity and compassion for a woman dying because of lack of treatment?

These may be my last words or the last time I write a post about my wife and my family, so I will not forgive anyone who sees this post and does not support me with a single word and ignores me.💔😭😭

Please, I beg you, don't ignore me. Donate before it's too late. I don't want my wife to die.

Why are you leaving me alone while my wife is fighting for her life? 😭😭

Americans:

From Wikipedia: A graham cracker is a sweet flavored cracker made with graham flour.

The next ingredient (which is also extremely traditionally American but slightly more variable) is typically Hershey's chocolate, but you could probably swap this out in the UK with any plain chocolate bar.

Last ingredient is big marshmallows, the kind you do the chubby bunny challenge with, like the size of your thumb and twice as thick.

A proper s'more, the most traditional possible variety, involves to graham cracker squares, two slab segments of Hershey's chocolate, and one to two marshmallows depending on your preference for filling and gooeyness. You put a slab of chocolate on one of the graham cracker squares. Your marshmallows should be toasted, usually over a campfire but if you're doing them at home over a gas stove burner is fine, but the fire part is critical. You can toast them to whatever degree you like, some people like them nice and golden brown but still kind of firm in the middle, me personally? I want that bitch to CATCH ON FIRE, I want it gooey and sticky as hell in the middle, crispy and burnt on the outside. Slap that motherfucker on your graham cracker and chocolate square, top with the other one so your marshmallow and chocolate are sandwiched together by graham cracker on the outside. You do this with your freshly toasted marshmallow because ideally it will be hot enough to start to melt the chocolate so it sticks to the marshmallow and the graham cracker and, combined with the gooey marshmallow, it keeps the whole thing together, and for that reason some people will let them sit for a hot second to let the melting process happen (especially if like me you have chocolate on BOTH graham cracker squares, not just one, because you're a sugar fiend), but if you are a young child you do not have that degree of patience and you eat that shit immediately, unmelted chocolate and all. Consume your summer camp delight like a tiny club sandwich, get gooey sticky marshmallow and chocolate all over your hands, and enjoy.

The first is that you don't pull the marshmallow off the roasting stick and somehow put it on the chocolate. Your staging area will look something like this, with the graham crackers and chocolate already set out (though not usually on the fire like this, for us it was always someone's lap or a picnic table or something)

And when your marshmallow has reached appropriate roasting perfection, you use the graham crackers to slide it off the stick.

and ideally, as a CHILD you are using a literal stick. Like you walked around and spent time looking for The Perfect Stick off the ground while the adults set up the fire. It has to be thin enough the marshmallow will fit, sturdy enough that it won't bow, long enough that you won't burn yourself roasting your marshmallow. And preferably doesn't have a lot of bark that's sloughing off, OR so much bar sloughing off you can peel it all back and get to the clean stick under it. If you're smart, you might stick the tip into the fire first to "wash" it/burn off anything that was still lingering, but. well, most kids don't.

When you bite in, the marshmallow and chocolate SHOULD ooze out all over you. If you don't kinda look like this eating it, you've probably done it wrong:

You find a spot, not above all the logs where everyone sticks their marshmallows by default, but at the heart of the fire. Ideally between a couple logs already glowing gold. Something like here:

Below the leaping flame. Near the logs. There's probably only one or two spots good enough for this on any given fire, but that's okay because everyone else is up above. They will get their marshmallows faster. They will be either firm or burned or both. That's not your goal.

Rotate the marshmallow slowly. Ideally come in at an angle so the part closest to the flame is the side, not the tip. The spot closest to the fire is the spot that turns a crispy golden brown, and you want that everywhere, on the tip and around the circle.

You keep going, slowly turning, for several minutes. Several people will rotate in and out of the higher sections, getting their fast delight. Eventually, your marshmallow will start sagging badly, risking falling. Maybe it does fall and got start over. But eventually it will be golden brown all over, and so liquid it no longer clings to the stick. It is ready, finally.

You say "who hasn't gotten one yet?" And deposit it onto their waiting graham crackers and chocolate. You've made an excellent marshmallow. It isn't for you. Get another while you're over by the bags and go back to the heart of the fire.

That's your evening. One, slow, perfect marshmallow at a time, given to whomever still wants s'more. You're making art for children to stuff into their mouths cheerfully. You're watching the movement of the fire and the heat of the logs, like you would if you were maintaining it — maybe you would be, maybe you were the one who built it — but right now that's not the goal. Let someone else put more logs on, while you take only the one stick and find the best spot for it to live.

You will, eventually, finish a marshmallow and find that nobody moves to accept it. Maybe they're all eating right now, or maybe they've gone through so many they're hesitating. Eat your masterpiece then. Enjoy it, the hardest and most perfect result from a fun and beautiful moment. Go back in for another, until you've run out of marshmallows and the fire is too low or until even you are done with s'mores, until you have made enough.