The Starplet System

we'd really want her to know

I wrote a post once that I really wanted to link here and I can't find it, I'm going to have to try again

Don't beat around it, I see so many posts that suggest being coy, testing the waters, and then letting the therapist come to the conclusion

Don't do that

I agree to an extent about testing the waters.

If you're concerned about whether your therapist is knowledgeable or a believer, ask them:

DO ASK: Do you have any experience with dissociation and dissociative disorders?

If you're uncomfortable with their response, find a different therapist

Easier said than done, but if you're not comfortable, don't tell them, wait

DO ASK: can you tell me about your experience and thoughts?

Again, if you're uncomfortable, wait

FEEL FREE TO COMPLETELY RE-INTERVIEW YOUR THERAPIST

Do it

DO ASK: What are your thoughts around healing? Do you think fusion is required? What does a road map of treatment look like going forward?

Once you've decided you're comfortable telling this person, just tell them

Your therapist isn't an idiot, they're waiting for you to say it as much as you're waiting for them to say it

The best way to have a clear, concise conversation is to get on the same page

If you're being coy and, "sometimes I feel like different people," Do you know how many things that could be? Do you know how many things that could mean?

Tell them: I am plural, I think I have a CDD, I have DID, I'm questioning, just be straight up

This is terrifying

I know, you've heard so many stories of people being forcefully committed, the horrors of psych wards--

That's not going to happen, especially if you've done your due diligence to find out where your therapist stands

That only happens when you're a clear danger to yourself or others

You're sitting in a therapist's office having a calm conversation

You're safe

And because I know the fear is going to sit in your head, if this DOES happen, stay calm

Stay calm, don't panic, once you're processed (if they even do process you, because why is this calm person being committed) you'll be able to make phone calls, call anyone and everyone, and get a number for a malpractice lawyer

The calmer you are, the more money you're going to get, because obviously you're not supposed to be there

STORY TIME

I was having a bad, bad time with one of my medications, it turned out I was allergic but I wouldn't learn that until weeks after this

I went to the hospital to get an emergency psych consult about coming off my medication immediately (many medications can't be stopped cold turkey)

The doctor that took my file had seen me before and was homophobic, I left his office part way through my session because he refused to call my abuser my "partner", instead continually referring to her as my "friend"

This doctor, without seeing me again, had me sanctioned and involuntarily admitted

STAY CALM

I was not calm

I worked the next morning, I'm a smoker and I was not allowed one last cigarette after finding out 3 hours into my visit that I was no longer allowed to leave the ward I was currently in

I panicked

I will never forget him finally coming to see me, late that night, and me crying, telling him I couldn't be there, I had to work, my job, and him SMIRKING at me and saying,

"Are you sure? Look at you right now."

Don't let them put you in that corner

In the end, this actually didn't affect much of anything, the nurses are usually pretty good at spotting these things

They calmed me down, gave me something to help me sleep, and in the morning, I made all my calls. My partner had called one of my old friends from my legal years, and by lunch, I had a meeting face to face with the same doctor

I explained we had a lawyer, that I was clearly not a danger, and that I needed to leave

And I was walked out of the hospital ten minutes later with new prescriptions and follow-up appointments with other psychiatrists

My file was later faxed to my GP and there was no information on my very brief hospital admittance

My doctor pursued a complaint, but I don't know what happened with it

If your doctor wanted to admit you, you'd already be admitted

You know who DIDN'T have me sanctioned?

My therapist, when I straight up told her I had DID

I promise, it's okay to tell them

i'd also like to chime in with the holy grail of nuance, i hope that's okay. :3

i've lived in poverty for a very very long time. i've also lived in a very rural area in a red state in the US until recently. i know that sometimes the selection of therapists is just... you can only have one therapist because there's only one in town that takes your insurance/that you can afford, or even sometimes there's just flat out only one in town and they're kind of shitty.

i also have OCPD with AVPD traits. sometimes it's very hard to be direct. those AVPD traits make it easier and make it feel safer to beat around the bush sometimes.

my main solution for this (personally) is to tell the therapist by email after you re-interview them. make it clear in writing in the same email that you're not a danger to yourself or others while hiding behind the perceived safety of the screen if you must.

ALSO. if it would not be safe to treat your DID with that therapist, it's okay to keep it from them until your situation improves and work on something else the therapist specializes in instead.

you don't have to risk retraumatizing yourself with improperly done IFS, parts work, DBT, or EMDR if your therapist is more suited to, say, autism or ADHD or psychosis.

Colin Ross, a psychiatrist. who many pro endos, endos, and of course. soapie, love to use this guy as "proof" that endogenics exist has MULTIPLE fraud charges against him. as well as gross negligence as well as practicing fraudulent medicine. Ross is responsible for four wrongful deaths at the St. Boniface Hospital and another death at the university of Manitoba.

this wacko has also used brainwashing techniques and fully believes he can shoot lasers out of his eyes with a pair of swimming goggles.

(oh and sophie, a email from Ross does not count as "proof" for endogenics actually existing.

i want to make one of these posts because as i'm re-emerging myself in the system community, im encountering the fact that ramcoa is a lot more talked about than it once was. which is great in some aspects and not so great in others. some of these things are things even people in the survivor community need to understand.

- **RAMCOA IS NOT JUST PROGRAMMING** programming is a part of ramcoa, if you're a programming survivor, you are inherently a ramcoa survivor, but being a ramcoa survivor DOES NOT mean you're a programming survivor. programming is inherently a kind of organized abuse, but you don't have to be programmed to be a ramcoa survivor. - **YOU'RE MORE LIKELY TO DEVELOP DID IF YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH RAMCOA** this is just objectively not true information, considering the vast majority of individuals who experience ramcoa are not children. many people who have experienced ramcoa will develop PTSD/CPTSD or something like OSDD-2 as the result, rather than DID or OSDD-1. - **ALL GROUPS ARE CONNECTED** again, objectively not true information. cults have different purposes, organizations have different purposes, and all of them are working toward an individualized goal, even if it's akin to a religious group or other organization that already exists. they can be connected to one another, like a cult being connected to a trafficking ring, but that doesn't mean all groups around the world in every country are connected by a common factor. - **IF YOU AREN'T POLYFRAGMENTED, YOU CAN'T BE PROGRAMMED** this is false. not all children dissociated to a high enough capacity for the programming to be successful, and some don't even develop DID from attempted programming.

**GROUPS KIDNAP RANDOM CHILDREN**

Sorry I’m very very confused- I’ve had some people say RAMCOA is being programmed into a system, and your blog (+others) says it is an extreme of abuse? (I am not saying neither of these are false, I’m just deeply confused)

No pressure to answer!

RAMCOA is an acronym that stands for Ritual Abuse, Mind Control, and Organized Abuse. It is not exclusively “mind control” programming.

Which, mind control programming is really just intentionally severely conditioning someone via torture and manipulation tactics. I know mind control sounds like a magical sci fi fantasy, but when you break it down in therapy speak, it is just severe intentional conditioning, using triggers and cues to get certain parts of a system out and conditioning them to have certain beliefs or tasks via torture. Not all people who go through mind control programming develop a system, and even adults who go through this often develop a different kind of dissociative disorder called OSDD-2. This is often seen in cults who manipulate their adult victims and “brainwash” them so severely that they create “self states,” though they are not autonomous like in DID self states. If you read testimonies of adult cult survivors, they will often talk about how they “became a different person” when in the cult, and had a “cult version” of themselves and a “at home, non-cult” version of themselves that is completely disconnected from their cult self.

For both child and adult survivors, this immense coercion and controlling of thought patterns is emphasized via the BITE model. I highly recommend you read that link, as it explains each part of that acronym and how it is used to manipulate victims and survivors and conditions them (“mind controls”) them to do actions and have beliefs as the group requires.

To answer your question more succinctly, RAMCOA does not ONLY mean “mind control,” however the RA (ritual abuse) and OA (organized abuse) often all go hand in hand. You can experience OA without MC, and you can experience RA without OA. However, they’re often very interlinked because groups that do OA and RA want to keep their victims complicit and willing to do whatever they want, with extreme conditioning and coercion via threats of harm to self or others…AKA “mind control.”

Though folks in the community have been discussing replacing TBMC (“torture based mind control”) with ITBPC (“intentional trauma/torture based psychological conditioning”) or ITBC (“intentional torture based conditioning”) in order to demystify mind control and help non-survivors understand what MC really is—extreme intentional conditioning via torture. It can happen to adults, it can happen to children, and with groups who are aware of DID, if they figure out a child has started developing DID due to their abuse, they can learn to manipulate negative and positive triggers to get certain parts out and intentionally condition them to have certain beliefs or perform certain actions when cued/triggered out. It’s much less complicated than people realize. Our goal is to help non-survivors understand that this isn’t all that mystical, it’s not conspiratorial, and this really happens to people everywhere.

I hope this answered your question! I may have rambled a little bit, but I’m passionate about demystifying MC and helping people understand what it really is. Take care!

"Why are people so negative about this pack?", "If you don't want it just don't buy it.", "If you hate this game so much why do you still play it?"

I love this game. I have been playing sims 4 since 2017. I know for a fact a lot of you have played for FAR longer than I have and share these same feelings. I have spent over 1000 dollars on this game in terms of DLC. I cannot name you a single other fucking game with DLC that adds up to 4 digits like that, and that has somehow been normalized over the years because people keep indicating to EA that they want to keep spending like this. I stopped buying dlcs when they seemingly forgot Game Packs existed almost 3 years ago and just started going down the god forsaken Expansion/Kit route they're still going with to this day. Around that time I saw the quality of these packs go down, funnily enough. That being said, I look forward to these features! I love the tattoo shop, the candy shop, the at home businesses, we've been BEGGING for some of these features. Yes I'm excited!

But look me in the eyes and tell me this surface level amount of features is worth 60 canadian dollars. THAT is what I'm negative about. That is why I'm 'hating'. Some of you need to understand the difference between hating for the sake of hating something, and hating something based on the way EA has treated our love for this game in the last few years by delivering these dlcs for the price of a full game. Y'all say 'fuck EA' until a pack drops and you give them exactly what they want. I am convinced we haven't had a game pack in years now because they've noticed people just buy these game pack-sized expansions regardless.

If I genuinely hated this game so bad, I wouldn't be playing it at all and I'd have moved on by now. I am being 'hateful' because I love this game. I WANT to see it thrive, I want to see it have the charm it used to have, and for an accessible price for all. Critiquing something we enjoy is completely normal and I'm not sure where the opposite mindset stemmed from, how else are corporates and game devs supposed to learn about their audience's likes and dislikes??? Do you wanna hear critique from a guy who's not opened your game once, or from a guy who's now got 4000+ hours on it??? I was talking with my friend about this cause he joked about the fact that if you now want a cat café in the game, that's essentially 120 Canadian dollars, $180 if you consider Get Together's coffee mechanics. That, to me, as funny as it is, is also beyond ridiculous when put into that perspective, but its technically true. With that money I could go buy 5-6 indie games and have the trajectory of my life changed forever instead, which im debating now after writing all this LMAO.

🌈🌟 DID AWARENESS DAY 🌟🌈

I'm going to celebrate by dissociating

you use "parts" language? hey, that's awesome! it's not inherently dehumanizing. for some people, parts language actually makes them feel more close to their system and more human. that's beautiful!

you prefer to use the term "alters"? totally understandable and badass of you. it's a great word for a very unique experience! it also often makes for a good umbrella term, i've seen. "alter" is easy to apply to anyone ranging from a fragment to a fully fleshed out guy.

or how about if you use "headmates"? that's such a fun word. it's like roommates, but more personal. very great choice! it's a wonderful term to use and for many people, it's a perfect fit to describe their experience.

for those who prefer "facets" or "states", that's an awesome specific term for your experience, which is cool as hell! it's great to see language that isn't always considered as "mainstream", and you + your system belong in the community just as much as everyone else does.

let's come together today and appreciate all the different ways to refer to each other. what works for me may not work for you. that's why we have different terms, and this list is by no means all-inclusive. make sure to ask people what they prefer when referring to them, and don't belittle others for the terms they choose to use.

what language do you use? why? feel free to share!

You know, when I was in school for social work, in order to take the 3 classes on programming, cults, and treatment, I had to have a police check and go through three interviews with faculty. Each semester, this had to be redone. Three interviews, each semester.

There's a reason that a lot of the research and articles about this are hidden behind paywalls and found in specific journals by order to clinic only.

I do have sources, and several are available through Google with proper search terms, if you so desire.

I'm sorry, but I will not be linking any.

TW for the rest of this post. You can stop right here. There's zero reason to keep reading if you already agree.

This is the most I've ever said on this topic and it'll likely be the last.

Remember to mind your spoons and take care of yourselves.

Anyways, support organizations like NCMEC! Let's bring these children home!