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I hope you believe that you can still make a beautiful life for yourself even if you lost many years of it to grief, or darkness, depression, or a wound that wouldn't close.

some days i feel overwhelming grief for the fact that i never got to be a teenaged girl

You ever think about how weird it is that shitty parents are absolutely terrified of you telling anyone what they're really like behind closed doors, like they're honest to god scared of what would happen if you tell anyone you get abused at home, and then if you ever did build up the courage to tell another adult about it, absolutely nothing happens.

hey so did any other transfems get in trouble for crying as a kid? for example id get yelled at or in trouble for something and it would make me cry and then id get yelled at for crying about it, often with a "toughen up" or smth similar

oh yea the "stop that or ill really give you something to cry about" yea mhm yep ok fuck

if you're gonna reblog this please make it this version, if i have to see one more condescending comment about how all children go through this im gonna be on the news

I got tagged in this and I should note: Of all the chicken breeds I've met, these are the gentlest and friendliest. Also very somft. All three I've gotten to handle have wanted to cuddle, and they're very warm, like cats.

I think part of the reason TMEs hate TME/TMA so much is that "TMA" is a nigh unstigmatizable term. like good luck turning "person who is a target of transmisogyny" into like, a derogatory term or slur. the terms refer pretty directly to our oppression and I like that about them

I don't think calling someone "non-transfem" really has that kind of heft, you know? it's essentially a synonym of TME, but the "exempt" in TME refers pretty directly to privilege. and when I criticize some TME nonsense, it's the privilege and its associated behaviors and entitlements that I intend to criticize, not simply the fact a person is not transfem

It's the venting. In the USA, dryers have massive exhaust vents to the outside of the room/building that take the hot wet away and leave hot dry behind. In many other countries, dryers do not generally have external exhaust vents, and simply fill the room they are in with the hot wet, which may or may not be enough to actually remove the hot wet from the clothing depending on how well ventilated the room itself is.

for this reason 1) you generally can't leave the dryer open in winter without causing a draft and 2) sometimes when you're walking around outside in the US the world will suddenly smell of clean laundry because you're near someone's house and their dryer is running

And 3) Eventually your drier stops drying things so well and you have to hire somebody to bring a ladder up to the vent (either high up an exterior wall or on the literal roof) and clear out the accumulated lint and cruft blocking it

You ought to do this regularly even if the dryer efficiency remains the same, because dryer lint is fantastically competent at burning your damn house down if you let it catch fire.

I'm in Australia (no exhaust vents), and I've found that if your dryer starts making hot wet laundry, you first clean out the lint trap that you already know about and clean every time, and then you go looking for the second secret lint trap that nobody told you about and clean out the year's worth of lint in there that you were blissfully unaware of. The dryer will now mostly dry your laundry again, and give you either hot dry laundry or hot just-very-slightly-damp laundry.

This reminds me of the story about the couple who kept cleaning two different dryer vents and were confused why their so never cleaned the lint

That post was what first prompted me to go looking for a possible second lint trap

i am a firm believer that private property over animals allows for and even encourages extreme forms of animal abuse, and that it therefore should be abolished in favor of a collective responsibility model. however, it would also be irresponsible of me to now acknowledge that, under our current legal system, these are, indeed, my monkeys.

The thing about people discouraging transition is that it's all of these incremental little "compromises" inching you back closer to cisheteronormative gender roles. And it's vital you don't try to bargain with them because they will never be satisfied until you're completely cis gender conforming. It's a trap kill them

AAA video game publisher voice: "Look. The goose layed a golden egg, and that's nice! Everyone loved that egg. But keeping the golden goose means paying for bird feed and I don't want to, so I killed the goose."