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no more being polite about it fuck the USA

You’re years too late to be recognizing the threat of US government mass surveillance, bud.

This was always going to be the end result if "the war on terrorism."

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

none of us mean any malice nor harm onto other people, and most of us are trans or genderqueer in someway shape or form

He is the exact kind of person I'm complaining about in all my posts about this subject. I don't care that your little friend group is fine with him calling you all 'dude.' I care about all the trans women out there that he's misgendering by default. And his enrire shitty response to this whole thing proves to me he is the exact kind of person that makes so many of us have to just keep our mouths shut and quietly endure being constantly misgendered by him. Because the moment we ask him to stop he'll roll his eyes and say "ugh, I meant it gender neutrally!" And then just keep doing it "on accident." And thats the best case scenario.

Y'all fuckin' come onto my post claiming "dude is gender neutral" and act like you're these big great allies because you "stop calling someone 'dude' if they tell us to." But when I say "hey, you shouldn't make a trans woman have to tell you to not misgender her, and you should just stop defaulting to calling everyone 'dude'" Y'all fuckin start all this shit. You could have simply been like "yeah, you're right. Ill do better" and that would have been the end of it. But you are the exact kinf of transmisogynistic assholes that all my posts like this are about.

Anyone claiming this is a binary is being disingenuous or willfully ignorant, which is honestly the same thing.

So what definiton of "binary" matters in this discussion? I really want to understand this issue better to be able to react against transmisogyny and fight against my own biases.

Critics of TME/TMA language claim that it's "just reinventing the gender binary." That is what I was claiming is clearly false when I said this is not a binary. It is not a gender binary, it is not delineated by gender, because there are women and non-women is both categories. As well as the fact that it is only language meant to quickly describe who is subjected to transmisogyny and who isn't. These are not identity labels.

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

none of us mean any malice nor harm onto other people, and most of us are trans or genderqueer in someway shape or form

He is the exact kind of person I'm complaining about in all my posts about this subject. I don't care that your little friend group is fine with him calling you all 'dude.' I care about all the trans women out there that he's misgendering by default. And his enrire shitty response to this whole thing proves to me he is the exact kind of person that makes so many of us have to just keep our mouths shut and quietly endure being constantly misgendered by him. Because the moment we ask him to stop he'll roll his eyes and say "ugh, I meant it gender neutrally!" And then just keep doing it "on accident." And thats the best case scenario.

Y'all fuckin' come onto my post claiming "dude is gender neutral" and act like you're these big great allies because you "stop calling someone 'dude' if they tell us to." But when I say "hey, you shouldn't make a trans woman have to tell you to not misgender her, and you should just stop defaulting to calling everyone 'dude'" Y'all fuckin start all this shit. You could have simply been like "yeah, you're right. Ill do better" and that would have been the end of it. But you are the exact kinf of transmisogynistic assholes that all my posts like this are about.

Stop regarding men as the default, and stop misgendering women as the default. What the actual fuck is wrong with you? That's a rhetorical question. I know that the answer is (trans)misogyny.

I was hosting the event, they were in my space, and I was still too afraid to ask them to use the right name because I know how that will be interpreted by most people.

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

none of us mean any malice nor harm onto other people, and most of us are trans or genderqueer in someway shape or form

He is the exact kind of person I'm complaining about in all my posts about this subject. I don't care that your little friend group is fine with him calling you all 'dude.' I care about all the trans women out there that he's misgendering by default. And his enrire shitty response to this whole thing proves to me he is the exact kind of person that makes so many of us have to just keep our mouths shut and quietly endure being constantly misgendered by him. Because the moment we ask him to stop he'll roll his eyes and say "ugh, I meant it gender neutrally!" And then just keep doing it "on accident." And thats the best case scenario.

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

none of us mean any malice nor harm onto other people, and most of us are trans or genderqueer in someway shape or form

This isn't about your fucking friends, and you know that. This is about all the trans women you absolutely definitely are out there calling 'dude' by default. Which is just further stressed by your entire shitty toxic response to this.

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

none of us mean any malice nor harm onto other people, and most of us are trans or genderqueer in someway shape or form

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

none of us mean any malice nor harm onto other people, and most of us are trans or genderqueer in someway shape or form

And stop forcing women to make themselves vulnerable by asking you stop misgendering them. Just stop misgendering them in the first place!

I read exactly what you wrote, and that's why I responded with what I said. Are you fucking kidding?

these things have not been reckoned with

there is exactly one other explicitly transfeminized character in this series by King (the Bill Hodges/Holly Gibney series of detective novels). she appears in the climax of End of Watch (2016) as one victim in a montage of victims coerced into suicide by the antagonist. she is described very clearly as a trans girl, but is directly referred to by the text as a gay boy. i won't go into detail, but her on-page suicide (unlike the others in the montage) is a dark comedy beat, played for laughs

this isn't history or a settled issue, it's our current reality

The answer of course is transmisogyny.