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like. its pretty god damn hard not to draw a direct line between the way people have reacted to jax and callout culture and the unpersoning of "problematic" transfems. if you are upset that someone still reaches out to Jax, that she's still treated with human dignity, that her story was heard and her pain acknowledged, then it seems very very likely to me that once you decide that a real person- especially, say, a transfem- is An Abuser, that person does not deserve peace, friends, or dignity. that you are full throat willing to misgender a trans woman once your chest is filled with righteous indignation. the refusal to sympathise with a problematic tranny- the anger at being asked to! we see that. and we wonder how little it takes for you to turn that on us.
the amazing digital circus is a show about empathy and what it does to you if you go too long without a support system so the show starts with sympathizing with Pomni (the most empathetic person, easy), ep2 is empathizing with an NPC in a game (no flaws), ep3 is empathizing with a man who has dementia, ep4 is empathizing with someone who annoys you when they're unmasking, ep5 is asking you to empathize with a rich white woman and so on....
so it all works up to the empathy boss - a bush era edgelord millenial trans girl who thinks she's Max from Sam & Max and is inherently unworthy of love
and some people failed the empathy test
Exactly the show is not asking you to forgive her the show is asking to empathize with her those are different things
I see cis people are doing "why can't you be a feminine man" to fictional trans women now.
Straight and gay men regularly sexually abuse trans women because they only see us as body parts. It's not okay to joke about homo- and transphobic politicians secretly liking us. The dehumanization and rape of trans women is not a punchline.
It's also not a "gotcha" against them anyway.
When a man is openly misogynist and you find out that he has a girlfriend, do you shout "ha! So you are attracted to women!" That would be absurd, right? Of course he's attracted to women. In fact, misogynists pretty famously sexualize women. It's like a huge part of misogyny. It doesn't mean they value us or see us as people.
It's literally exactly the same thing when a transmisogynist is attracted to trans women. Their attraction is part of their transmisogyny. They see us not as people, but as sex objects.

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Straight and gay men regularly sexually abuse trans women because they only see us as body parts. It's not okay to joke about homo- and transphobic politicians secretly liking us. The dehumanization and rape of trans women is not a punchline.
One of the central contradictions of transmisogyny is that society and the state seem to put so much more energy into policing the boundaries of womanhood, an oppressed class, compared to manhood, a oppressor class. This seems to make no sense. Surely it should be easier to move into an oppressed class than out of one, no?
The explanation is that it is not "womanhood" whose boundaries are so harshly policed, but a smaller category of "women worth protecting". That is, trans women are treated as women (held to impossible beauty standards, sexualised, talked over, underpaid, etc etc) even while they are denied the protections that "women worth protecting" are able to access, protections that include the right to name your own oppression by calling yourself what you are: a woman.
It is actually very easy to become a woman (in the sense of the social class). All it takes is for an average cis man to sincerely wear "women's clothes" one time (i.e. not as part of a performance), and he will be experience a whole load of misogyny for an age thereafter. You have to be a cis man with an incredibly high social status to get away with this. It's correspondingly very hard to become a man (the social class) after you have been in the class of "woman", it will take many months and demonstations of his commitment to manhood for the man who wore "women's clothes" one time to fully return there.
Similarly, if a someone who is viewed as an average cis man suddenly comes out as a woman, she will find two things happen pretty much simultaneously. First, she immediately becomes a (particularly marginalised) woman: she will instantly be subject to sexually invasive questions, will instantly incur the scorn of people who had previously liked her, will have her clothing criticised, her work disparaged, etc etc. And second, as a consequence of now being a woman, she will find that her sincere statements about herself are immediately discredited and contradicted: "No, you're not a woman" will be a common response. She would've been taken more seriously if she had come out as being from Alpha Centauri, because she would then at least still be a man, and to be a woman who is not "worth protecting" is to be denied the right to speak on your own inner life. It is a great irony that the contradiction, "No, you're not a woman," is the very thing that demonstrates that you are one.
Black women, South Asian women, Arab women, fat women, autistic women, gay women, working-class women, sex workers, and many other groups of women have found themselves denied access to the category of "women worth protecting" in various cultures and at various times. Trans women happen to be on the frontline of this fight right now in much of Europe and North America.
If you believe that bathroom bans etc are the state "protecting women", you have to ask why the state is suddenly so interested in protecting an oppressed class, when a big part of being an oppressed class is being denied the state's protection. Could it be because the state is not protecting "women" but rather the slightly different class of "women worth protecting"? Which is to say, that the specific oppression of "women not worth protecting" is the whole point.
TME = cis men, cis women, trans men, transmasculine nonbinary people.
TMA = trans women, transfeminine nonbinary people.
Both categories include women and nonbinary people
Both categories include people with penises, and people with vaginas, and people with ambiguous genitals.
Both categories include intersex people.
TME includes cis and trans men.
Anyone claiming this is a binary is being disingenuous or willfully ignorant, which is honestly the same thing.
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This isn't an identity. Its a shorthand way of referring to who is subjected to transmisogyny and who is not. It's not something we are imposing on people, we're describing how this transmisogynistic society is imposing or nit imposing transmisogyny on people. It doesn't care if you don't identify with fem or masc, it only cares about what you were compulsarily assigned at birth. People who aren't transitioning away from being compulsorily assigned "male" at birth are simply not subject to transmisogyny by this society. If they are trans, they're still subjected to transphobia, but not transmisogyny.
The TMA/TME divide amongst enbies describes predominantly how two people, despite neither being femme or masc, are treated completely differently based on their assigned gender at birth.
Enbies who are TMA literally cannot attend the same events that enbies who are TME can, even if their presentation is functionally identical. They are banned in big bold letters on adverts, and if they're discovered, they get thrown out and called a rapist as the door slams shut behind them.
TMA enbies are never allowed to divorce themselves from their gender assignment in societies eyes, they're never allowed to "just" be enbies, take it from someone who presented as agender for many years. The only people who took that in good faith were one (1) TME and I was dating her. Everyone else treated me like an intruder while actively bending over backwards to accommodate TME enbies.
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My introduction to transfeminism came when my coworkers who had been talking a big game of supporting "trans people" asked me after I came out to them "I know you said your pronouns are she/her, and your name is 'Kayla', but can I use they/them and call you 'Kay?' It's just more comfortable to me."
It came when my parents rejected me after my older sister outed me to them, but then accepted my trans brother with open arms.
It came when just a few weeks later a man in Stevensville Montana threw rocks at me while screaming bible verses.
I didn't learn about transmisogyny from Whipping Girl, I learned about it before I knew its name. I learned about it by being transmisogynized.
People should really understand the is-ought distinction.
Basically, there are "is" statements, observations about the world. "The Atlantic Ocean contains water", "poverty exists", "the sun is made of cotton candy" (the latter being false, but its class of statement is observational).
And there are "ought" statements, which are about value systems. The way things should be, what we should aspire to, etc. "Poverty shouldn't exist", "we should evaporate all the water from the Atlantic Ocean", etc.
The statement "poverty exists" is not contradictory with "poverty shouldn't exist". They are different classes of statement.
Similarly, the philosophy behind TME/TMA as terms is descriptive (is), not prescriptive (ought). It exists to describe an actually-existing division in society with regards to how transmisogyny treats different people. Much of the opposition to the terminology seems to assume the inverse, that we are prescribing some ideal ordering or classification of people in society that we wish to attain.
something that's always stuck with me is Adorno's critique of liberal research on fascism - that liberal scientists believe you can approach fascism in good faith by simply asking Nazis what they think about the world and then writing it down. He argued that fascism is itself a bad faith ideology, and that Nazis will not usually answer the question "do you want to exterminate all minorities?" truthfully, especially not when asked by academics (who are all Marxists/Jews/etc plotting to destroy civilization). So in order to accurately capture fascist sentiment, you have to conceal your intentions and basically lie to them. And there are real moral imperatives for social scientists to do this, in the same way that journalists go undercover in white supremacist groups to report on their activities and beliefs. There's even that famous East German documentary where the directors lied to a Nazi military leader about being West German filmmakers, got him drunk, and then just filmed him saying Nazi shit lol. So like the conventions of science itself, the idea that good research is necessarily always transparent, is a political assumption that shapes how you conduct research and acquire knowledge
I know this might be wild news to TMEs who love weaponizing antiblackness to "disprove" transmisogyny, but Black cis women don't stop being cis because they're Black (and to believe otherwise is just misogynoir tbh).
Black cis women benefit from transmisogyny just as white trans women benefit from antiblackness. For people who love whining about "oppression olympics" these people sure do love viewing intersectionality as a ranked oppression leaderboard rather than in gradients.
They didn't forget about Black trans women. The intent is to erase us and treat us as a nebulous concept that cannot exist as our own people.
They want to erase our autonomy by claiming that transfeminists are "weaponizing" us, and that we as individuals cannot be transfeminist on our own

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People that benefit from imperialism really seem to be allergic to acknowledging that they benefit from imperialism. For a strange reason.
the estrogen changes women......
Whoever was in charge of hair for this movie needs to be shot

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Bro absolutely COOKED with this.
If you ever hear the phrase "fascism is aesthetics as politics," that's what this post is talking about.
It's not about being tough on crime, because the absolute toughest most brutal measure you could take against "crime" as a social problem is to alleviate poverty, and increase access to education, healthcare and social mobility.
It's about performing "tough on crime" as an aesthetic by enacting violence against a prop, i.e. minorities and the impoverished, who are fetishized and objectified to represent "crime." They are brutalized as punishment for crime, but never with the purpose of alleviating the problem of crime.
This is why a lot of conservatives and other right wingers can get straight up angry when you suggest things like reform or social measures to reduce crime. They don't want crime to be reduced, they want an eternal war against "crime" because it provides an arena for the righteous to demonstrate virtue by brutalizing their enemies.
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