#assertivecommunication

Thoroughly review and research

Deep dive into all of the facts and plot points/characters & timelines of your "case"/argument

Create a logical story arch based on fact, statistics, reason, and common sense with enough evidence to dispel the counterargument (the "defense")

Refine your argument to engage in compelling, convincing storytelling using words, factual-based arguments/interpretations, personal anecdotes, visuals, videos, etc.

When on occasion, whether socially, behaviorally, or aesthetically, take it as a form of flattery

If persistent, take the compliment that someone admires your taste and preferences in things or how you think/hold yourself in different situations, but consider distancing yourself from this person because they probably are jealous of you and your life. You don't want them to become obsessive, clingy, or try to sabotage you because they can't develop their own sense of self & personality

Hi love! Glad to hear my response was helpful <3

I would say in a circumstance like this, the best way to confront someone is to ask to have an open dialogue and proceed in the following manner:

Describe their behaviors without labeling them as personality traits (e.g. "I've noticed you do XYZ regarding or in response to XYZ situation/action/remark, etc." vs. "You act very rude and selfish towards me.")

Give them a chance to explain the "why"/intention behind their actions. Allow them to give themselves the benefit of the doubt/a chance for self-awareness before accusing them of intentional toxic behavior

If they seem to be remorseful or self-aware of how their behavior is negatively impacting you (empathy), share how you feel when they act/respond a certain way and bring forth a mutually beneficial solution/way to communicate and respond that allows you to strengthen/preserve your relationship

If they get aggressive and start accusing you of having bad intentions/qualities, remain as neutral as possible – detach emotionally and continue to silently distance yourself. There's only so much you can do to save someone from themselves

PS- if you have any advice on crying/feeling like you’re about to cry over nothing (or when you’re mad) it would be appreciated.

~xoxo

Hi love. Congratulations on acknowledging your needs and starting to set your boundaries in life! That's a huge accomplishment that I'm glad to see you're celebrating for yourself.

My best advice for building your emotional resilience when standing your ground is to keep the following mindset reframes in mind whenever you feel that you're about to lose your cool while asserting a boundary:

Remember that the only control we have over external situations is our reaction to the circumstances. We owe it to ourselves to act with integrity even when there's uncertainty and potential conflict in our presence.

Focus on the long-term results over your immediate reaction: Consider how much more being assertive will benefit you in the long term/improve your confidence vs. the temporal comfort that comes with letting your emotions out on the spot.

Remind yourself that remaining assertive and stating your boundaries clearly are promises to yourself. Every time you succumb to these long-standing urges, you're breaking a truce with yourself.

Remember that emotional resilience is a mental muscle, you need to use it to gain consistent strength and long-lasting positive results that maintain themselves on near autopilot if worked out enough – you use it or lose it.

And i really regret i didn’t stand up for myself even though it was before 5 months and i totally regret i didn’t reply to them. Why sometimes i don’t reply please any tips how to deal with this

Act dumb, and ask the person: "What did you mean by that?" or "I didn't quite catch that, can you repeat what you just said? I want to make sure I'm understanding you clearly."

These types of assertive communication usually make people backtrack and refrain from making comments like this in the future as they know you're not giving them the emotional reaction they desire at that moment (slash they know you're onto them).