And on the subject of arrogance, who asked for a ‘new’ flag? I didn’t. There’s nothing wrong with the flag that we already have. I’ve never had a problem with it, and I don’t know any other aces who have. I can’t speak for everyone, of course, but I think it’s arrogant and ignorant to come up with a redesign that nobody asked for, declare it the ‘new’ flag, and expect the entire internet to accept it without question, and treat it with equal weight as the existing flag. No.

but I just saw a post that mentioned people not wanting to see "mature content" as "clutching their pearls"

like can we please fucking acknowledge that having a dislike or repulsion from sex has nothing to do with a moral dilemma about it or it being how delicate and fragile we are and can't handle seeing anything sexual without fainting

some people just don't like

we don't want to see it

doesn't mean I'm a little bitch baby wimp about it

I don't care what people do or talk about or enjoy I just don't personally want to be a part of any of it

why is that so hard for people to understand

it's like Star Wars

a lot of people really like Star wars or enjoy it in some capacity

a lot of people don't

I, as a crazy hardcore Star Wars fan, am not going to criticize other people and call them prudes or babies for not being interested in seeing Star Wars content

that's their life choice I respect it

why can't we respect people for not being interested in seeing sexual content in the same way

it's just a personal thing whether or not people are into it or not

why does it have to be about how we're so weak and wimpy and little babies that can't handle it or some stuck up prude that feels morally superior for not talking about it

we just don't like it

This has been bothering me for days so I'm gonna scream into the void:

What really grinds my gears, is when I have to explain numerous times to my Dr. that I am not sexually active and they look at me like I'm lying.

Then they move onto, "Well it doesn't have to be sex, any contact is still active."

Like, bitch, did you hear the words coming out of my mouth??

Never have I fucking ever!

And then they still look at you with that look of "Yeah, I know you lying to me."

Actually, in a society that relentlessly sexualises everyone and everything, pushes compulsory sexuality onto everyone, portrays sexual attractiveness and level of sexual activity as a huge part of what determines someone’s ‘worth’, and portrays sexual relationships as one of the most important things there is, I think refusing to take part in any of that at all and completely rejecting it is really subversive and equally as valid. I thought the whole point of liberation was that everyone gets to be free to decide what they want- why is it such an issue for so many people in ‘progressive’ spaces, then, when the choice that a person makes is that they don’t wish to be sexualised or be sexual at all?

'asexual and aromantic are not inherently linked' and yet i haven't seen a single post about an aromantic character fucking all the time. and yet these posts are always talking about the end goal of every relationship every 'real' 'valid' 'fulfilled' relationship ending with marriage and a 2.5 kids. omfg!

get your evangelical puritan nonsense away from me PLEASE!

and it really is so many characters. i'd say every fandom i'm in plus some fandom-in-laws that i see because friends interact with them.

there are some characters who want marriage. there are some characters who want children. there are some characters who don't and that's fine! they're all fine!

but when the justification is 'the character has never expressed any want for a relationship so wouldn't it be cool--' no. 'they never explicitly said they'd hate it so--' so if a lesbian doesn't explicitly say that the idea of being with a man disgusts her you would use that as evidence for why she should marry a man and have a kid because 'she's so kind and caring and she would be a great mum' do you see why that feels wrong now?! why its creeping me the fuck out to see queer people talk about queer characters and giving them a heteronormitive, allonormative happily ever afters!?

and some examples of playing with labels in a queer way so i don't explode form hate and anger:

Aromantic hypersexual Bruce Wayne who has 4+ kids

Probably Asexual Aizawa Shouto who hasn't been particularly fussed to find a partner and prefers to just do his work saving people and helping foster the next generation of heroes

Dick Grayson who has a lot of mixed feelings about sexual relationship because he grew up with Brucie Wayne playboy extraordinaire as his father and has been sexually assaulted and harassed multiple times and no longer knows if he likes sex or if he's just doing it because he knows it's normal too.

Riz Gukgak who doesn't like anyone at school and people just assume he's asexual and it takes him a long time to come to terms with the fact that he does experience romantic and sexual attraction he just didn't fall for anyone until later in life and ostensibly has to come out..

Alec Hardison and Allison Parker who are in a committed relationship and love each other to the ends of the world and never feel the need to get married. they just are. and Elliot Spencer is here to in some queer platonic way, he's not their boyfriend but he is part of their dynamic. (oh wait redemption made that cannon... literally im rewatching redeption as im writing this and Parker literally asks if they're a polycule. i forgot this isn't just a headcannon anymore.)

HATE being told i just ‘haven’t met the right person’

everyone who has ever told me this ISN’T asexual, and DOESN’T even remotely understand what i’m going through or how uncomfortable touch/intimacy makes me feel. i fucking hate ignorance.

YOUR normal is not MY normal.