Interpretation is the medium…

the way ppl talk about shane and ilya's sex life on here is unbearable like i don't understand the need to sublimate all of ilya's desires under shane's when that's not even what either of them are attracted to. ilya isn't sitting around waiting for shane to tell him what to do or come up with crazy unbelievable kinks like spanking that somehow shock ilya. i understand that most people in fandom are women or afab and there is no denying that penetration can be a touchy or scary or violent thing for a lot of us like same but at a certain point you really do just need to contend w these hang ups about penetration and domination if you're going to engage this much with anal sex, and you have to be able to separate yourself from these sexual fictions. if you can't, which is fine, then find texts that don't require you to deal with a dominating penetrating man instead of this endless cycle of always erasing any individual or fulfilling sexual desire for canonically staunch tops. it's the same pattern every time where you guys talk about dom tops as if this is a carnal sin they need to atone for by making them little more than sentient dildos or sex robots with no sexual desire that the canonically staunch bottom doesn't encode onto them. it's boring! and it shows up everywhere. the walk him like a dog edit was cute and funny, but almost immediately it got reduced to an excuse to write ilya as if he can't have individual characterization or subjectivity if he "must" top shane. you need to contend with why you think that the penetrating person respecting liking and loving their partner means that they can't possibly enjoy sex for Themselves and must be a service top or submissive or lacking human free will. why does everyyyyyy sexual character and sexual relationship need to be flattened into nothing? ilya's sado-dominance is one of the most straightforward aspects of his characterization and the entire point, the sexual dynamic is the point! there reaches a certain point of self projection onto another creator's original characters where you should just write ur own ocs or an autobiography

and honestly tbh tbsfr to be completely truthful the "shane invents [literally any sexual thing] in his own crazy mind and doesnt have to self awareness or knowledge to know that [spanking? consent play? roleplay?] existed until it came to him in a dream" is getting a lot ableist and a likkle racialized. an autistic person having a hyperfixation doesn't mean that they don't know how to use the internet or have never like existed in society before. even if you ignore that ilya did in fact teach him everything he knows about sex and everything he likes about sex and shane's sexual development is always in conversation with and guided by ilya: EVEN if you ignore that--which most people do anyway--there is still a line between riffing off said sexual exploration and kinkiness versus what is increasingly just infantilization. he is not a child. under or unnegotiated doesn't mean that shane is never aware of what he's asking for or wants and he is not trying to have sex solely for himself or interested in doing something that isnt equally good for Ilya beyond fandom's reduction of their sex life to solely shane's orgasms. that is not the type of sex he's having or wants to have and just because he is learning this for the first time doesn't mean that he doesn't recognize himself as a sexual being. he's not stupid or a child! just because he doesn't have the exact word for it doesn't mean he isn't self aware and must be flabbergasted when ilya gives him what he asks for lol again there's a line between writing him as coy and bratty and writing him as if its his first day on earth when they're 29 and fucking since teens. shane did not sprout his dildos or butt plugs from thin air, he is an adult man with the wherewithal to google how long it's safe to drive with a plug in and how to prepare himself for anal sex. even when he had sex he hated with women, he still tried to at least be good at oral. he can be kinky and come up w crazy roleplay scenarios without this incessant demeaning of autistic people's self awareness and capacity for growth and Knowing More Than One Thing even if they don't care about those other things as much! which. doesn't even count here because being ilya's sub bottom is like. shane's final boss hyperfixation. he was not in fact born yesterday

May we never become so obsessed with representation that we forget the sanctity of privacy.

i don’t feel like debating that topic much farther bc truthfully if it comes down to “women will lose to men in every sport bc they don’t have as much testosterone!!!!!” my elite feminist response is honest to god “ok we will lose with honor as equals instead of having our own special Easy Mode Female category so we can win amongst ourselves” like i’m sorry i just can’t be persuaded. i’m a brick wall. i want co-ed sports

i bring a sort of “women can lose at some sports against men if it means being regarded as equals” vibe to the debate that “testosterone objectively increases performance” people don’t really like

So relationships between a man and a woman shouldn't be heteronormative either. Jot that one down.

i looooooooove how annoying shane and ilya must be as the two best hockey players in the world just both of them being able to see the game at such an elite level and notice things no one else does and theyre basically speaking their own language to one another and saying things like "i dont even count a hat trick if its on an empty net if the goalie isnt there its NOT a real goal i think they should not count these" "absolutely if theres no challenge it isnt real" "exactlyyyyy" and they will say things like this in front of players who have Zero career hat tricks

Reading my dinner with Hayden. Hayden says he’s got no problem with Shane being gay, but does it have to be Rozanov? Couldn’t Shane find someone else? Hayden doesn’t know this, but he just described why being queer is so difficult for people in your life to accept, and why coming out is still so difficult for people who need to come out. I get that you’re gay, but do you have to be gay in a way that challenges me? Can you please go back to living a ruse that left you anxious and lonely so that we can be comfortable again? Ilya, the rival, the chirping jerk, the inconvenient lover who doesn’t mince words, represents the inconvenience being queer causes your friends and families. We get that you’re gay, but do you have to do it so loudly?

everyone loves to hate terfs until they realise that it actually entails rejecting bioessentialism entirely and then suddenly you’re “taking things too seriously” and you “don’t have a sense of humour” like i’m sorry but saying protect the dolls doesn’t make you immune to terfism it has seeped into every corner of mainstream feminism and unless you’re actively searching it out and checking your own biases you will always be at risk of sharing a space with terfs

(tags absolutely NECESSARY via @penandinkprincess) #ilya being a very sweet partner and holding a cup up for shane because there's some blood in his mouth after changing the gauze out#and telling him to spit#and shane who is in OUTER SPACE just half-smirking and ilya knows what's coming even before shane slurs out a#'that's not what you usually-' 'SHANE. THE BLOOD. SPIT THE BLOOD OUT OF YOUR MOUTH.'#and there is no way for ilya to tell yuna and david to leave because their son is not audience aware rn#and really likes being bossed around in bed and is thus playing apples to apples in his head with instructions rn#ilya as shane's emotional support in this setting except man is fucking STRESSED#shane's straight chilling and feeling very pampered and safe with ilya#meanwhile ilya has the resting heartrate of someone being hunted for sport#yuna and david both <3 :) enjoying watching their son's partner prove he's a loving and supportive and gentle life partner#and meanwhile ilya is just fucking PRAYING that helping shane put gauze back in his mouth isn't making him think#about things he LIKES having in his mouth#(it is)#shane keeps spitting it back out because Texture Bad#and ilya (not thinking) is just 'stop doing this. i am going to get a bandana or something and you will look like a kidnapping victim.#is this what you want?'#and shane is just *big happy sparkly eyes* 'i mean i liked when you tied a belt ar-'#and ilya just 'NO'#thank GOD yuna and david were talking to the doctor at that moment#but now he can SEE shane thinking about it and being so happy in his memory#and ilya is sitting here listening to discharge instructions just thinking 'don't speak don't speak don't speak don't speak'#as hard as he can at shane

fucking DEAD imagining the visual contrast between ilya, who looks like he's been through a fucking WAR, versus shane, who is sparkly eyed and chipmunk cheeked and SO looking forward to his treat for being so SO good :)