this sadness will last forever

it’s so disturbing how many ppl think sexual positions are something to be deserved or bartered for. ‘he deserves to bottom’ why? why can’t he deserve the sexual position he only wants to do? why does an exclusive bottom deserve to top? why does he need to top to take care of his partner, why does the exclusive top need to bottom to be cared for? what is open minded and whimsical about asserting that a man w a penis is obligated to use it for penetration, as i saw someone aptly put it once? what makes it less misogynistic to say that the presence of a hole means it must inevitably be fucked? how do you delude yourself that this is the anti-heteronormative stance when it’s so obviously homophobic? I’ll never understand it. and it’s the exact same script for every ship that has strict canon dynamics and these ppl do it across any fandom they’re in, so I almost wonder how they think this is actually care for the character, but it’s frankly just homophobic and there’s no rational self awareness needed for that