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Private Equity: Pestilence (they are parasites that voraciously strip the value out of a healthy business until it withers and dies)

Workforce Optimization: Famine (cutting hours and employees until the business is starved of staff, barely functioning)

I had like one, maybe two friends who were all like FUCK YEAH YOU PAINT IT WHATEVER COLOR YOU WANT, PURPLE BEDROOMS ARE AWESOME.

But when they actualy saw the finished bedroom, every single one of them was like, “Oh yeah, that’s really pretty.” (Well, the ones who supported me from the beginning were more like WOOHOO.)

MEAN YOU HAVE TO ABANDON

WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.

When I bought my house, the kitchen was multiple shades of dingy white. It was dismal, but it was now mine! So went to the hardware store for paint (well, several trips, painted swatches on panel, etc — I’m very picky. But this was the final, ‘real’ trip). It was a busy day in the paint section. There were at least five people behind me in line.

Now, remember, latex paint is slightly lighter and brighter when wet than it is when dry. And I’d decided to paint my kitchen candy-apple red. The hardware store employee took my gallon off the Paint Jiggler and cracked it open to put a dab on the top, revealing the most incredibly deep pink, and behind me I hear the entire line of people say,

“Oh my god.”

…in perfect chorus.

This is the door to my garage. It used to be white. Live your best life.

Mischief the cat says “Who goes there?”

Every visiting friend says “This is so cool.”

my garage. It used to be

white. Live your best life.

not decorating trends; those have always existed. but the idea that color and decoration is inherently childish

this is the dining room at the Eustis Estate in Milton, Massachusetts, from 1878 (where I used to work, briefly). the walls are TEXTURED MICA SHIMMER on a green background. Adult Space For Adults!

A jewelry shop in Paris c. 1901. kids can’t buy jewelry!

who can forget the classic 1950s colorful bathroom? I’m not a huge fan, but still! adult space! bright colors; decorative designs!

So here’s two examples of traditional Norwegian farmhouse interiors. You know. The kinds of places peasants live in.

This type of painting is called “rosemaling” and today you usually find it on, like, carved wooden bowls and such that are only used for decoration. But back two centuries ago, it was very common to find the interiors of homes covered in it, in projects that were painted little by little over the decades. Because it’s beautiful to look at, paint is the cheapest way of decorating your house, and what else are you going to do on the long winter nights when it’s too dark and cold to work outdoors?

But mostly, they did it because it made them happy, and it was beautiful.

oh boy I seem to have touched a nerve

so, I agree with none of these assessments of Rochester except "liar." the internet seems to have forgotten this, but grooming means conditioning someone to accept (in this case) otherwise unwanted romantic and/or sexual advances.

is it weird that Jane is 18 and Rochester's 40? very much so! even within the text people comment on it! but their romance is definitely not grooming. they have some fairly normal conversations and then she's madly in love with him. (and if you mean grooming in the even move common internet sense exclusively implying child abuse, Jane is very much acting as an adult within her society, albeit a young one. there were average age gaps back then, but there were not the social barriers between New Adults and Older Adults that we have now. you were just Not An Adult and then An Adult, end of)

as for abuse, if you're talking about Bertha...taking the text at face value, he doesn't do wrong by her, IMO. she has Incurable Violent Psychosis of Never Coming Back From this Ever. medications are not a thing. therapy is not a thing. divorce can only be obtained in cases of infidelity, and if HE wanted to sue for divorce, he'd have to prove that SHE had been unfaithful. which she is seemingly incapable of doing because, again, she recognizes no-one and is not lucid

he has two options: keep her at home or send her to an asylum. now, an early 19th century asylum COULD be fine and try to help her, contrary to popular belief. but it could also be abusive. and one might not know just upon going to view the place as a prospective "client," because they'd try t put their best foot forward

so he engages her a nurse. he gives her comfortable rooms and good food. he locks her in, but she is amply proven to be a danger to others (and herself, since she eventually commits suicide during the fire), so that seems unfortunately prudent. and I don't really see how he could do better under the circumstances

now, how the text handles Bertha, Doylist-style, is HIGHLY open to criticism, through lenses of racism and ableism and more. Mr. Rochester and Bertha are not people; they are characters, and they reflect the author's deeply flawed ideas about race, mental illness, culpability in marriage to a spouse whose mental state deteriorates, and more. but again, taking it at face value, I don't think he does abuse her

obviously he lies. the guy tries to marry a woman without telling her he's already married. that's a pretty huge transgression. and before that he tries to make her jealous by pretending to be engaged to another woman. but it's a Gothic novel, so...par for the course

whereas St. John is actively shitty to Jane. you want to talk abuse? try "forces a woman to abandon her own wishes and plans and do what he wants, tells her she's not made to be loved, tries to use religious coercion to override her refusal of his marriage proposal, tells her she's going to hell if she doesn't marry him, at times straight-up says that yes she will marry him actually, and is generally such a stifling and controlling douchebag that she thinks marriage to him might actually kill her and his own sisters tell her not to do it."

'What has brought you home so early? I thought you were going to tea with that friend of Mr Bell's; that Mr Hale.'

'So I am, mother; I am come home to dress!'

'Dress! humph! When I was a girl, young men were satisfied with dressing once in a day. Why should you dress to go and take a cup of tea with an old parson?'

'Mr Hale is a gentleman, and his wife and daughter are ladies.'

[.....] 'Take care you don't get caught by a penniless girl, John.'

'I am not easily caught, mother, as I think you know. But I must not have Miss Hale spoken of in that way, which, you know, is offensive to me. I never was aware of any young lady trying to catch me yet, nor do I believe that any one has ever given themselves that useless trouble.

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