Bisexual John Danziger Evangelist

It's almost certainly benign and it is operable, we have a surgery booked in for a couple of weeks from now, but it's a miserable time and they've lost a lot of their mobility and can't do much for themselves any more

We also have reasonable health care so it's not like we're now hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, but the three adults took a week off work each, we spent a few hundred on a wheel chair, a couple hundred on a walker, a couple hundred on other mobility aids, a couple hundred on takeout because the hospital is a few hours from home, a couple hundred on fucking parking, and so on. And we have to do it all again in a couple of weeks.

Which adds up to a huge hole in our normally fairly stable budget

I want to be clear that we probably don't need help, we can probably call in enough favours, eat two minute noodles for a few days, maybe borrow money to make rent, we could survive. But it's just another wildly stressful thing that we don't need whilst trying to support our newly disabled child and help them through the worst few weeks of their life

So if you can help, if you want to help, we would really appreciate it

like i firmly believe people can change and grow, but the way that nonblacks are so quick to go "its not a big deal" to every instance of someone having a history of racism is frustrating. especially because they'll see it as a single instance, just petty drama, and never stop to think about how tiring it is to find out over and over with different people that someone you thought was a decent person had a phase where they thought your oppression was hilarious, exaggerated, or even deserved.

(and as a side note, a lot of you need to realize that racism isn't solely saying "i hate Black people!!!" overtly- its much more pervasive and seemingly innocuous than yall seem to think and people point this out over and over but it seems to be a brand new idea every time this rolls up again.)

and like, people always get to grow out of these phases and laugh about them like its a piece of silly trivia, meanwhile the people affected by these phases then and now are told to be quiet about even just being disappointed. and a lot of the times nonblacks will exaggerate a mild expression of disappointment as a violent "cancelling" or dramastarting.

"Told you i'd end you someday."

They’re both hopeless.

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There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively - they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.

It’s incredibly common! And it can be treated by physiotherapy.

I know this because I’m currently undergoing physio and although it can take months to recover, I’m already seeing improvement. A lot of the pelvic floor exercises are available online, but if you have these symptoms please TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR and see if you can get a physio referral (or investigation for underlying causes like endometriosis).

Also, my additions to posts never get reblogged so a note to my followers: this is SUPER IMPORTANT ISSUE that affects many people and is rarely talked about. Please reblog, and please share this info with as many people as possible.

Including, but not limited to! If you have experienced chronic muscle pain, nerve pain, hip injury, spinal cord injury (or lesions), difficult pelvic exams, hormonal changes- consider if this is something your doctors might be overlooking.

One of the only asexual activists is Yasmin Benoit, a Black woman. She has raised so much awareness for the community. She was the first asexual person to lead Pride in London, she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike movement and is THE leading voice for the community.

And you all will celebrate international asexuality day on April 6th but we wouldn't even have that if she hadn't cofounded it.

Edit: why are you all too scared to repost this. Cmon. Be vocal about being against racism

Edit 2: if you feel the need to announce in the comments that you're not reblogging for whatever reason just know that I genuinely do not care.

But also know that I will look through your account and if I notice that youre actively a racist or you just dont reblog stuff about that I will ridicule you in a reblog. Idc idc. Not reblogging is fine but if you feel the need ti announce it youre annoying asf.

Pet Foolery, #93