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yall are so fucking weird about gnc people. a woman wears a suit and she's "conforming to the patriarchy". a man wears a skirt and he's Secretly A Trans Egg. have you considered It's Fabric

gender essentialism is soooo funny bc it's like "this is what women are like" and you're like "I've met women and many of them, if not the majority, have not been like that" and it's like "well women SHOULD be like that" and you're like "why should women be like that" and its like "because that's what women are like"

Okay but like real talk this is why I'm struggling with gender kinda cus its like "am I genderqueer? or does my autism disconnect me from the typical gender experience allistic cis girls have?"

okay I'm going to let you in on something. there is no universal allistic cis girl experience either.

i wish there was more it/its positivity that wasn't just "hell yeah look at you go funky little goblins/otherwordly beings/freaks/objects"

[image ID: A screenshot that says "When ppl who aren't familiar with them encounter "it/its" pronouns, they usually assume diminutive Connotations. Little things are "it". Inferior things are "it". A rock is it. A pencil is it. They rarely consider that "it" may refer to a mountain or music or the sun or love"

happy pride to the lame queers. to the queer people who going to clubs isnt for them. to the ones who cant or dont engage with typical culture. to the ones who are scared. to the queer people who cant be proud becuase they are in households that are unsafe. To queers not even sure if they want to come out. To queers who wish they could engage in typical community things, but none of their friends want to. Happy pride to extremely introverted queers, socially anxious queers, or frequently, even in our own community, socially outcast queers. I see you, you are still queer.

How do you know you're not Asexual? Maybe you just haven't met the right nobody.

This "allosexuality" thing is just a phase. You just need to have really bad sex, and then maybe you'll change your mind.

May we never become so obsessed with representation that we forget the sanctity of privacy.

yall i swear to god if a bitch says her pronouns are she/her then her pronouns are she/her

my close friend from uni was a cis girl who had the audacity to wear pants and cut her hair short and like nobody at this school, a place OBSESSED with ‘respecting everyone’s gender identities,’ would call her ‘she.’ after MONTHS of this she started wearing a fucking pronoun pin to work and i dont even think that fixed it. me, im sorta androgynous; i have shaggy self-cut hair and go by a neutral name, but i always say my pronouns are she/her, and people ive worked with for months and have introduced myself in front of fifty times will STILL reflexively say ‘they’ for me. i respect the progressive circles i run in, but this IS evidence of misogyny. people’s definition of “woman” or “girl” is so narrow and high-maintenance that even the tiniest deviation from the norm gets you forcibly defeminized. but it’s a compliment, right? like who would wanna be a girl anyway?

replacing an inescapable gender binary with an equally-inescapable gender trinary is stupid 🩷

"The 'third sex', such as it is, is not a prescriptive category, but a dumping-ground, a landfill in which to deposit everyone that a society organized around the reproductive imperative considers extraneous and aberrant." - Talia Bhatt, "The Third Sex"

supporting my asexual friends and foes by rebbloging this

It’s 50 years this month since the first version of the Asexual Manifesto was written. Aces have been writing about our experiences under this name for at least half a century. We are not an internet fad.

some of you are not cis and the thing is that you don't even have to do anything about it. you can just be like "damn that's crazy" and move on with your life. you don't have to change your name. you don't have to change your pronouns. you don't have to choose which flavor of not-cis you are. you don't have to change your wardrobe. you don't have to come out or cut your hair or reinvent yourself. you can just be like "huh neato!" and let that be that. you don't owe anyone a performance of your queerness. not even other queer people. ok that's all thank you and goodbye

As an aroace person I actually never had that feeling of being broken. I thought everyone was the same way and some people were just dramatic 😭

As an aromantic individual it actually drives me insane when people measure the quality of queer rep based on whether or not that queer character has a relationship. Like we are actually whole people outside of our dating lives. Don't get me wrong I want to see the lesbians make out as much as the next one but I also don't measure that as the be all end all of gay characters.