My main was turning into nothing but aroace posts, so I figured why not just start putting all that stuff on a fun sideblog?
Any dividers or icons or anything like that I make, you can feel free to use without credit (unless otherwise stated, though credit is always appreciated), just please don't repost.
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Say what you want, but Grace adding, "people are hooking up" to the list of 'odd things to do at an already weird party' is the most Ace thing he could've said-
Online spaces have almost always been where asexual and aromantic people meet each other and organize. This is why the major online campaigns against us around ten years ago were so destructive.
It’s easy to say that cyber bullying doesn’t matter in the real world or whatever but targeted online bullying campaigns have the power to wreck entire communities and support networks.
It’s difficult to just turn off your computer when all the people who relate to this aspect of your life are in there.
I’ve definitely met other asexual and arospec people irl but it’s quite rare. And real life queer spaces are in fact often bars or kink spaces. And like bully for you if you like kink or alcohol or romance but when your entire identity is based around not feeling the feelings often associated with romance and/or sex that’s not always super fun.
And people got relentlessly mocked for bringing up this issue. Shut down. Called childish. Like okay. Fuck us for wanting a sober non sexual spot to meet other queers, right? So childish for wanting options.
I’ve been involved in the online asexual community and doing education about asexuality and aromanticism in both irl and online queer spaces for almost fourteen years now and that short period of time around 2016-2018 took a wrecking ball to my people that I feel like we’ve still barely recovered from and I’m still angry about it.
I think asexual pirates should come back. This time they’re here for your ass. And not sexually.
They killed our dragon and cake memes. The aro and ace dragon hoards are dead. But you know what? I survived and I’m the online version of a cockroach after a nuclear blast. I never forget.
I appreciate each and every one of you. You bring value to the universe just by existing, and you deserve to have that seen and respected. You are a joy. Oh and to allolove people: I love you.
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Another term for "a-spec" or "anattractional" using the amic suffix.
The umbrella term for all orientations using the "a" prefix. Can be used to describe having some kind nonspecific of lack of attraction.
Greyamic / Grayamic
The umbrella term for all orientations using the "gray" prefix. Can be used to describe having some nonspecific kind of gray attraction.
Demiamic
The umbrella term for all orientations using the "demi" prefix. Can be used to describe having some nonspecific kind of demi attraction.
Apothiamic
The umbrella term for all orientations using the "apothi" prefix. Can be used to describe having some nonspecific kind of aversion.
Lithoamic
The umbrella term for all orientations using the "litho" prefix. Can be used to describe having some nonspecific kind of litho attraction.
Reciproamic / Recipramic
The umbrella term for all orientations using the "recipro" prefix. Can be used to describe having some nonspecific kind of recipro attraction.
Fictoamic
The umbrella term for all orientations using the "ficto" prefix. Can be used to describe having some nonspecific kind of ficto attraction.
These are not to be confused with everal orientations that denote having every type of attraction. Amic orientations are intended to be umbrella terms and describe nonspecific attraction.
These can be considered synonyms for "-attraction" and "-attractional" orientations.
Thank you for talking about Grace! People are definitely getting hostile towards aroace folk about this. To be fair, some of us are getting pretty defensive about headcannoning Grace as aroace.
But still, I’m with the aroaces on this. I’m not even against the shipping, and definitely don’t support any mean behavior towards shippers!!
But yeah, we’re upset about phm content going from aroace rep to mostly shipping content. And yes, we’re whining about it.
First of all- most of our discussions are within aroace spaces (from what I’ve seen)!
I think we’re allowed to be upset in our own spaces as long as we’re not being mean about it!!
(The only media I can think of to recommend is my little pony )
Yeah I wish people would just not put the shipping stuff (especially the rose ships or treating-qpr-like-romance-lite ships) IN the aroace ryland grace and aroace tags. Like I know there's the spectrum and I know people want to explore that and it's fun, but as someone who is rose-repulsed, it makes it really tough.
Especially when people won't tag it properly so even though I have every single grace ship filtered and tags like #ship and #shipping filtered, I STILL see it, it's exhausting.
Also, appreciate the rec! MLP:FiM is one of the first things I considered the other day, but there's still too much romance stuff in there for me. Between Spike's crush on Rarity and so many of the characters having crushes/love interests, it was too much and I had to turn it off. Usually, MLP:FiM and Phineas and Ferb and Milo Murphy's Law are my comfort shows, and all of them had too much romance for the level of repulsion I was feeling the other day :/
hey heard ya lookin for recs, the bee and puppycat series on youtube is pretty good. Make sure its the youtube one and not the netflix one cuz that has like one romance subplot in it (the yt version has a relationship that is suggested to be a mild to littlw romance but i think can also be interpreted as a good friendship so also correct me if im wrong its been a hot minute since ive seem the show) its very wholesome and cozy :)
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im a fanfic author of three romantic fics and i am so sex repulsed that i purposely write smut scenes to go to sleep fast because my sheer disinterest makes me sleepy.
i have no idea if this is something other arose with insomnia do 🥹🥹🥹
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Okay, so I did something I haven't done before and might not do again and redesigned an Aspec flag, I'll get into why in a moment.
The Original Flag(s)
Ansexual and Anromantic respectively
Someone who lacks attraction and interest in sex or romance in any form and are repulsed by the concepts, regardless of whether or not it is related to them. This repulsion is typically strong enough to described as hatred.
Note: This hatred is directed towards the concepts of sex and romance, not the individuals themselves who partake in them, and it is very different from sex negativity.
The Redesigns
Version 1
Version 2
Ansexual, Anrose/Anaroace (added), and Anromantic (unchanged) respectively
Now I'm going to explain why I made these redesigns to begin with, as well as the reasonings behind each design, under the cut.
If you have any question, please read through in case it's already been answered before asking.
Why redesign the flags?
Simply enough, I found it strange that the Anromantic flag reflected the Aro flag while the Ansexual flag didn't. I also designed an Anrose/Anaroace flag, as I couldn't find one.
Why are there two versions?
In all honesty, I'm about as decisive as a toddler, so I just figured I'd post both and see which one people like better.
What is the meaning behind the designs?
Version 1 was made with the Original Ansexual flag in mind, I wanted to keep some of it if possible.
Version 2 was made based off of the Original Anromantic flag, I felt it felt a little more connected to the Aro community through the colors than the Ansexual one did to the Ace.
What is the meaning behind the colors?
I couldn't find any meaning by the original creators, so I interpreted the purple, blue, and green to be representive of community and varied experiences, and the reds as dislike and repulsion. The black feels representative of the hatred for the concepts.
I didn't create the original flags, so of course that's only my interpretation, and then one I made the redesigns with in mind.
In the case of Version 2, it's very similar, only the repulsion and dislike is also covered under the black stripe.
Your Version 2 Anromantic flag isn't a redesign
I'm aware, and that's because Version 2 was based off of the Original Anromantic flag rather than made with it in mind. I personally find it connects better with the Aro community than the Ansexual one does with the Ace one.
I like the originals more
That's perfectly alright! Use whichever looks or feels best to you! I only made these to throw more options on the table!
[Post to be updated should I come across any other questions]
