#selftrust

hey lovelies!! mindy here, back with another "no aesthetics post". so i've been thinking about this a lot lately (like, literally in the middle of the night when i should be sleeping but my brain won't shut up??) and i realized something that honestly changed everything for me. we're all obsessed with consuming advice, tips, strategies… but at some point we need to ask: is all this "help" actually helping?

i used to be that girl with 27 self-help books on her nightstand, 14 productivity podcasts in my queue, and approximately 10000 saved posts about "how to live your best life." i was drowning in good advice. and yet? i wasn't actually doing anything with it all.

here's the uncomfortable truth that i personally learned: collecting self-help is often just another form of procrastination. we trick ourselves into thinking we're making progress because we're "learning," but we're actually just avoiding the scary part, taking action when we don't feel ready.

✧ when you know it's become a problem:

you feel like you need to read "just one more" article before starting

you have notebooks filled with advice you've never implemented

you follow dozens of gurus but haven't committed to any single approach

you constantly switch systems hoping to find the "perfect" one

you know what to do but still feel paralyzed

you use phrases like "once i learn enough about x, then i'll start"

you feel overwhelmed by conflicting advice but keep seeking more

the most painful realization? all this consumption is actually making you less confident. every new piece of advice makes you question your instincts more. every contradicting tip makes you doubt your judgment. every perfect "before and after" makes you wonder what's wrong with you.

✧ why we get stuck in the advice loop:

consuming feels safe. implementing feels risky. reading about someone else's success story gives us the emotional satisfaction of achievement without any of the messy work or potential failure. it's like emotional junk food, momentarily satisfying but ultimately empty.

plus, there's something so alluring about the promise that the next book, the next course, the next system will finally be THE ONE that changes everything. we become collectors of solutions rather than solvers of problems.

✧ how to break free (ironic, i know… more advice):

declare an information fast. seriously. no new self-help for at least 30 days. it will feel uncomfortable, like an itch you can't scratch. that's how you know you need it.

pick ONE system or approach you've already learned and commit to it fully. not perfectly, just consistently. the magic isn't in finding the perfect system, it's in the consistent application of any decent one.

start before you feel ready. that knot in your stomach when you think about taking action? that's your growth edge. the discomfort isn't a sign to seek more knowledge, it's the signal that you're about to grow.

recognize that implementation creates wisdom that consumption never will. you'll learn more from a week of messy action than a year of perfect theory.

identify your "consumption triggers" do you reach for advice when you're afraid? uncertain? compare yourself to others? notice the emotional patterns.

create an "already know" document. write down everything you already know about your goal. you'll be shocked at how much wisdom you already possess.

trust that you are the expert on your own life. external advice can inform you, but it can never know the nuances of your specific situation like you do.

the truth is, you already know enough. you've probably known enough for a while now. the answers you're seeking outside yourself are usually already within you, buried under layers of doubt and other people's opinions.

what if the most radical act of self-improvement isn't finding new advice, but trusting the wisdom you already have? what if you already have everything you need?

so this is my gentle nudge to put down the self-help, close the tabs, unfollow the gurus (yes, even me if you need to), and start the messy, imperfect process of actually living instead of just learning about living.

because honestly, the world doesn't need more people who know all the right theories. it needs people brave enough to take imperfect action on what they already know.

xoxo, mindy 🤍

p.s. if you're wondering "but how will i know what to do without guidance?", that's exactly the point. you won't know for certain. and that uncertainty is where the real growth happens. trust yourself anyway.

I am learning every day to allow the space between where I am and where I want to be to inspire me and not terrify me.

Your feelings don’t need permission 💔

Here’s a breakdown of each authority and how they show up for every Human Design type.

Emotional Authority Generator/Manifesting Generator You’re not meant to make decisions in the heat of the moment. Your emotions are waves—sometimes powerful, sometimes calm. When you make decisions while in the middle of an emotional high or low, you’re not truly in your power. You’re reacting, not choosing. It feels like being caught in a current, swept away by what feels urgent. The truth is, emotional clarity only comes after the storm has passed. You need to give yourself time to ride through the waves. Waiting isn’t procrastination, it’s honoring the natural process that leads you to your true decisions. The biggest shift is learning to detach from the urgency to decide in the moment. When you stop and wait for emotional clarity, the decision becomes undeniable.

Sacral Authority Generator/Manifesting Generator Your gut response isn’t just an instinct—it’s your truth speaking directly to you. It's loud, it's visceral, and it doesn't need to be justified. The struggle comes when you ignore that immediate “yes” or “no,” trying to convince yourself to follow a path that doesn't resonate. If you’re not honoring your sacral, you end up exhausted, resentful, and stuck in situations that drain you. You might find yourself caught in the trap of “doing it for others” or because you think you should. The raw truth is that when you’re not aligned with your sacral authority, you live in a constant state of internal conflict, trying to meet external expectations, and it leaves you hollow. The key is learning to say no without explanation and trust that what your body responds to is your roadmap to fulfillment.

Splenic Authority Projector/Manifestor/Reflector Your splenic intuition is a quiet, immediate knowing that doesn’t need to be explained. It’s primal, and it doesn’t make sense to anyone, including yourself. It’s that fleeting gut feeling that tells you to go left or right, and if you don’t listen, the moment passes, and you’re left questioning, “Why didn’t I just follow my first instinct?” The darkness here is the fear of being wrong, the doubt that creeps in when you can’t explain why something feels right or wrong. When you don’t trust the splenic hit, you can end up spinning in overthinking, overanalyzing, and self-doubt. The gift here is that your splenic response is always accurate. The struggle is that it comes without words, without logic, and requires deep trust in something that feels intangible. Trust it, because when you do, everything falls into place with ease.

Ego Authority Manifestor/Projector This authority is about what you truly want—what your deepest desires are, not what others think you should want. Your ego is your source of power, your will to create and take action. The hardest part is learning that it’s okay to be selfish. In fact, it’s necessary. If you’re making decisions based on what others want, you’ll end up living their lives, not yours. It feels like a constant inner battle, a conflict between your desire to please and the raw truth that you must honor your own desires. The ego death here is the relinquishing of outside approval, the acceptance that your decisions are yours to make, and the courage to act from your own desires. The liberation comes when you no longer feel guilty for choosing what’s right for you.

Self-Projected Authority Projector Your decisions are made when you speak your truth aloud. It’s not about thinking things through or weighing the pros and cons in your mind—it’s about saying it out loud, hearing yourself, and feeling what resonates. The challenge here is that you can get lost in others’ feedback, in the need for someone else to guide you or validate your decisions. But your clarity is in your own voice, not in others’ opinions. You may have spent years waiting for others to tell you what to do, but the power comes from learning to trust your own voice. The deeper truth is that you already have the answers within you, but they only surface when you speak them into being. Your gift is the ability to articulate your truth, but the struggle is the uncertainty of having to trust yourself without someone else telling you what’s right.

Mental Projector Authority Mental Projector Your authority is not internal. You don’t make decisions from an inner place of clarity; you need others and the environment around you to help you process. Without the right environment and people, your mind becomes cloudy, uncertain, and chaotic. The darkness here is the temptation to isolate yourself and think your way through decisions. When you do that, you lose your grounding. You feel disconnected from your true self and everything seems out of reach. Your gift is that your clarity comes when you talk things through with the right people—when you’re in an environment that allows your mind to breathe. The struggle is that it’s hard to let go of the need to figure things out alone. But when you finally accept that your environment is essential, everything begins to make sense.

Environment Authority Reflector You’re not meant to make decisions quickly. You need time—28 days, to be precise. Your clarity comes from observing yourself in different environments, seeing how you react, and how you feel in various settings. The darkness here is impatience, the pressure to make decisions because the world tells you to. You may feel like you're falling behind, but the truth is that your wisdom unfolds over time. The struggle is in waiting, letting go of the need to force clarity. The beauty of your authority is that it’s not a rush; it’s a slow and steady process of reflection, observation, and integration. The key to your decision-making is patience: give yourself the full lunar cycle to see how the world reflects back to you what you need to know.

Follow your own advice.

Stop looking for validation.

Study. Read. Listen. Observe. Act.

Your reality is the consequence of your own actions.

And if the results don’t match your expectations? If things don’t turn out the way you wanted?

At least you were true to yourself.

At least you lived by your own choices, not someone else’s.

And sometimes—many times—what we want is not what we need.