a thousand times a day i have to stop myself from making yet another stupid post about how awful it is trying to make friends on this stupid site. the best you'll ever get from tagging posts is peer reviewed without your name attached, i don't think there's a single soul alive that likes non-mutuals adding things or comments to their posts, asks are the most grossly parasocial thing about this place, and you can post as much and as well as you want, it doesn't matter if no one sees it. the only way to get any visibility on your posts are to a) already be friends with people who are way more popular than you, i guess through discords you have to be invited to, or b) "unintentionally" seek out people being pieces of shit to clown on in the hopes it sparks enough outrage that the right people see it and decide they like your style. i don't know if that last one's real or not since i have gone 20 years doing everything i can not to start fights with assholes on the internet, but i'm just at my wits end. i didn't win the cool girl lottery or whatever and get to be popular with the other girls i guess, i get three people i cant even hold a conversation with because of how much i suck at this.