#didosdd

Restricting the definition of who a label/concept can be applied to falls under the same philosophy that the systems that oppress the disabled fall under.

That is to say - restricting access so that imagined invaders and "appropriators" won't get in.

The endo "invaders" are not oppressors in any fashion. Hating them because our oppressors "won't take us seriously because of them" is joining the war on the side of the oppressors. It's only fighting ableism until the oppressors call out a target that's easy enough to punch down on.

We, as a community, can be better, more compassionate than that. Is this truly what being "radical" is? Stop punching down. For your own sake, too. Is this really the "good fight" you want to win? To remove all the "weirdos who don't belong?"

To my friends who still feel hurt, I understand. But the people you are fighting do not want to hurt you. They just want to understand their own individual human experience. If they are angry at us, they are not in the wrong. You know that rage, too, at being told that what you are is not real, or is impossible to take seriously.

You have been taught to value an idea of a "real" experience based in science. But that science is so limited. The DSM-5 is not a bible, it is written with the intent of treating us, making us more palatable, "worth our place in society". It is not something we should be thumping to ward off "impure" things. We do not need purity. We do not need sanctity. We need safety and community, so we need to build it.

If we view endos, willos, or any type of system as a pest, we will choke ourselves with pesticide to eradicate them. This is not kindness. This is not acceptance. It is cruelty.

being plural means smiling and laughing at a joke one of your headmates made, or having witty banter with them as you make a meal that you'll both be able to enjoy

being plural means a headmate going "its okay, you don't have to do this, i can do it" and you thanking them because yeah, you cant do that, and thats okay

being plural means thinking about your headmates when buying new clothes, or seeing a shirt or pair of pants for sale and going "they'd love that !!"

being plural means making one of your headmate's simplyplural profile, and spending lots of time perfecting it so that it fits them to a T

being plural means knowing you aren't alone

being plural means knowing that your headmates, your friends, your family, are always there for you

being plural means love.

functional multiplicity AND final fusion are both perfectly healthy and valid ways to heal.

This is like, half serious stuff, half silly goofy stuff so if ur using this ofc answer questions at ur own discretion. Also the use of the word "you" can be the collective or individual "you"! Answer how you want

👁 Was discovery a sudden or gradual thing for you? (eg. did it feel like everything came to light all at once, or did you slowly but surely notice and piece things together?)

🌕 Did you have any awareness of other alters before discovery? if so, how did you view them (e.g. "moods", ocs, imaginary friends, etc.)

🫧 Who fronts the most in day-to-day life? Do you have a host, a "main cast", everyone switching/fronting equally, etc.?

🍎 Does anyone have any very passionate/specific food/drink preferences (love or hate)?

☂️ Are you more overt or covert? Are there any alters who break this norm (are exceptionally good/bad at masking)?

🎭 What term(s) do you use for alters? (eg. alters, parts, identities, people, headmates, etc.) Feel free to share reasoning!

🎊 Is there a prominent gender among alters? How do you present your gender(s)?

🍃 How frequently do you switch? Is this frequency comfortable/manageable for you?

☁️ Do you have day-to-day amnesia? If yes, what does that feel/look like for you?

🌈 Any happy/"success" stories from opening up to people/reaching out for support you'd like to share?

🎲 Do you have any collective hobbies (activities everybody/almost everybody enjoys doing)?

💥 Do you have any physical symptoms related to dissociation/switching/etc.?

☄️ What symptom/aspect of the disorder is hardest to deal with in day-to-day life/something that's more irritating/difficult/complicated for you?

🌼 What symptom/aspect of this disorder actually doesn't bother you/is actually helpful/you're grateful for?

💡 What's one thing that you do to help ground yourself?

⭐️ Are you usually aware of who's fronting? How do you figure out who's fronting when you don't know/can't tell?

🦉 Is there anything you wish you could make everybody instantly know/understand about CDD's?

👓 Are there any characters you feel really "seen" by (whether they're meant to be a representation of a CDD or not)?

🎸 Are there any songs/albums/artists that you feel "seen" by (whether they're meant to be a representation of a CDD or not)?