#caedoromantic

the prefix caed- or caedo- in caedromantic indicates that the person was alloromantic at some point, but traumatic experiences resulted in the person developing aromanticism. while the traumatic experiences can [and usually do] involve unhealthy romantic relationships, any form of trauma can result in a caedo- identity

for some reason caedos are really frowned upon? because to allos its like "ohh you just havent found the right person yet!" or "just go to therapy, itll fix that!" as if there was something to fix but when interacting in queer spaces its all "you have to be BORN aromantic to count" and "youre pushing stereotypes of us!!!"

while i do understand that aspec identities are often chalked off as mental illness or the person being "broken", caedromantics arent trying to perpetuate any stereotypes. caedromantic people just. exist. and it doesnt make us any less aromantic as someone who was born aromantic, or someone who developed aromanticism overtime, or any type of aromantic out there. i was so afraid of coming to terms with the fact that my aromanricism stemmed from trauma because i thought i was "proving arophobes right", and i hated myself for it for almost a year.

a good friend of mine once said genuine experiences cant feed into stereotypes because people live and experience the world in unique ways, and it coincidentally aligning with a stereotype in some way is simply unfortunate. and its true. to any caedoromantics out there, the source of your lack of attraction doesnt make it any less respectable or 'valid' [i dont like using that word but im out of ideas]

so yeah. the exclusion and injustice caedromantics face is arophobia.

this is arophobia

happy pride month to caedoromatics!

happy pride month to caedogenders!

happy pride to caedaroaces!

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caedoromantic | caedorose | caedosexual

icon-friendly versions of some caedo- flags for anon! colors are from the originals.

PT: Lingerromantic /end PT

Lingerromantic: an aromantic label where one experiences little to no romantic attraction but desires it to be in a romantic relationship, but due to trauma, religion, stories, or simply a "gut-feeling" causing an unconditional fear of going into a romantic relationship. Yet they seek a romantic relationship with someone who they know they could trust, and could take a long period of time for someone who uses lingerromantic to feel comfortable enough to engage in other romantic attraction labels due to past trauma or stress. It can be considered a subtype of caedoromantic.

Not all lingerromantic are required to have dealt with stress or trauma to label themselves as it, but do need some form of event or feeling that has temporarily halted the individual in getting into contact with someone romantically.

Counterpart of lingerromantic is: lingersexual (link).