#caedgender

“Well, if trauma can actually change genders, then conversion therapy would work because you could traumatize someone into becoming cis! So by trying to talk about this gender, you’re supporting conversion therapy!”

First off, that is literally not how it works. Someone having a specific personal experience doesn’t mean that that experience can be extrapolated to anyone else who’s even remotely like them. Second off, the fact that conversion therapy doesn’t actually work isn’t the real reason it shouldn’t be done. That’s just an added bonus. It’s wrong because you’re literally giving someone trauma in an attempt to change something completely harmless. That’s why it’s wrong.

I just, I feel like this is really frustrating.

This is transphobia.

It frustrates me so much how people treat caed- identities. No, it's not saying that conversion therapy works. It's saying that some people personally detach from their gender due to trauma, just like how trauma can cause people to detach from pretty much anything.

That doesn't mean conversion therapy works - if anything, a person who goes through conversion therapy 90% of the time won't end up with a caed- identity, and when they DO end up with a caed- identity, that doesn't mean they were "turned nonqueer", it means that they went from one queer identity to another. Because caed- identities ARE queer.

Caed- identities aren't in support of conversion therapy. Quite the opposite, they don't want anyone else to end up traumatized.

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caed(o)neurogender: a neurogender identity/roingender which has been ‘cut away’ by a traumatic event; a neurogender identity/roingender that was once felt, but has been damaged or lost due to trauma

[pt: caed(o)neurogender: a neurogender identity/roingender which has been ‘cut away’ by a traumatic event; a neurogender identity/roingender that was once felt, but has been damaged or lost due to traumas. end pt]

a caedogender of neurogender for anon!

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Shout out to erasgender, erassexual, erasromantic, erasplatonic, erasfamilial, erasaesthetic, erasensual, erasqueerplatonic, erasalterous, eraswaveric, and any other eras- people.

You are not broken. You are not wrong or a traitor. You are not "spreading misinformation/stereotypes" about queerness being a choice or an event that happens later in life.

It is okay to feel as though you have lost your gender or attraction or whatever else due to trauma.

It is okay to feel as though your gender or attraction or whatever else has faded with time or spontaneously disappeared.

You are real. You are welcome here. You are beloved. You belong in the queer community.

happy pride month to caedoromatics!

happy pride month to caedogenders!

happy pride to caedaroaces!

Thomas from ^_^ is caedgender!

☔️ to those who lost their gender due to transphobia, by being denied their feelings as their gender so much that the feeling of gender and enjoyment their gender used to bring them at all has been taken from them.

⛓️‍💥 to those who lost their gender due to spending so much time masking as [a] different gender(s) that their true gender is missing or only remains as a void.

🔐 to those who lost their gender due to the way their systemhood/multiplicity/plurality affects their gender disconnect.

🐦‍⬛ to those who lost their gender due to disorders and/or neurodivergencies that include having an unstable sense of identity (like dissociation and BPD) and the struggles and/or traumas associated with lack of a consistent selfhood.

🩶 to those who grieve and mourn the feelings of euphoria and joy their gender has at one point brought to them.

🫥 to those who’s lack of gender affects their other identities, like how they experience attraction.

⛈️ to those who’s experiences being intersex affect their ability to be connected to their gender in a typical or “correct” way.

💫 to those who -dream or -regress as a way to cope with their loss of gender identity, wether voluntarily or not.

🎶 to those who embrace their disconnect in their gender, to those who are indifferent about their gender and the way it feels to them.

❔ to those who collect/hoard genders in an attempt to regain control of their identity despite not feeling connected to any of them.

🧣 to those who pick and choose gender identities that match more with their aesthetic or other identities (like special interests).

🔥 to those who feel their connection to gender is atypical, or that they link/stel/etc. their gender, or otherwise feel that their alterhumanity/otheredness affects their disconnect from their gender identity.

🫶🏻 to those who feel disconnected from the community, to those who feel “wrong” or “incomplete” due to their gender experience(s).

🫂 to those who i& haven’t mentioned in this post.

The caed- prefix refers to one’s identity (romantic, sexual, gender, or something else) which has been damaged, stripped, or cut away due to past trauma. These folks may have identified with other genders, sexualities, or romantic orientations before going through a traumatic event, but due to trauma their identities have been compromised or changed in major ways. This post is for all those who are on the caed- spectrum, regardless of how that manifests for them!

🌲 Shoutout to those whose genders, sexualities, and romantic orientations feel lost, empty, lifeless, or numb!

🌤 Shoutout to systems whose caed- identities have caused them to feel or identify as queer or become part of the queer community!

🌈 Shoutout to traumagenic systems whose trauma histories influenced both their system formation and their caed- identities!

🌲 Shoutout to individual headmates who are caedsexual, caedromantic, or caedgender even if the rest of their system isn’t!

🌤 Shoutout to systems who used to have rich, fulfilling, and intricate relationships with their gender, sexuality, or romantic orientation, but don’t anymore due to trauma!

🌈 Shoutout to systems who are caedgenic, or consider their origins a xeno origin aligned with the caed- prefix!

🌲 Shoutout to systems whose genders, sexualities, and romantic orientations are tangled up with trauma responses, negative flashbacks, and potentially harmful coping mechanisms!

🌤 Shoutout to systems who remember and miss their lives before trauma interfered and caused them to identify with a caed- label!

🌈 Shoutout to systems who are embracing their lifestyles and their labels of choice, even if their identities stem from trauma!

🌲 Shoutout to systems whose plurality was already developed when they were traumatized and ultimately adopted a caed- label!

🌤 Shoutout to systems who are questioning a caed- label for themselves or their system!

Remember that the spectrums of gender, sexuality, and romantic orientation are vast, and each individual label serves an important purpose for those who identify with them! For those who find themselves identifying with a caed- label, we truly hope that you can find peace, healing, comfort, and recovery in your future!

Know that we really are wishing you the very best. If you are taking steps to recover from your trauma, we wish you a smooth process that is as painless as it can be. If you’re trying to live with your trauma and make peace with it, we genuinely hope that you will be able to achieve this one day. Please do your best to take care of yourself and your system! And if possible, try to have a lovely day!

I kind of know that I am non-binary and I was feeling this since I was 11. But my genderlessness feels different now. I have been through quite the amount of trauma and that has made me feel like everything is void like or empty or hard to express. This includes my gender.

I feel like I was already not my assigned birth gender but now it feels completely void like.

Is there any word for that kind of gender? Sorry if this is too much to ask lol

Caedogender, or caedgender, is a gender that has been "cut away" or damaged by trauma. At one point one may have experienced a certain gender at one point, but one feels that their connection to that gender has been damaged, altered, or completely cut away after a traumatic event. This is typically associated with sufferers of PTSD or other trauma and stressor related disorders. Caedogender can be combined with other relevant genders such as caedogirl, caedoboy, caedononbinary, etc. It can also be used as an identity on its own for those who feel like they have been cut away from the concept of gender in general.