"She had freely given her fully informed consent from the begging, and in her opinion, that made it all fine. It put her in control"
This, and how misogyny after the 1990s has been leaning a lot more into the illusion of free will, and how it has done it so well that most people even call it feminism.
Yes, I want to be overexplored and never feel 100% comfortable at my workplace, I chose a "male field" career after all!
Yes, I'd actually love to stay home and not have to work and provide. In that case, it's fine that I have no real financial independence or alternatives if this relationship goes to shit, I want to take the risk and live the dream!
Yes, of course it's ok I'm on my knees for a man and dreaming about someone that is so much stronger and faster than me, it's even revolutionary, really, because I chose to be here, you don't understand!
I could keep going, really, this emphasis on the individual and on the individual choices and this effort to convice that we are all the same and therefore our choices are all our own when we're actually raised in a society who feeds and structures itself on such a noxious binary pattern never ceases to amuse me.
That's one of the things I love the most about Kuang, she's always so on point.
