Sometimes

“Despite being permanently paralyzed, her one goal since her accident has been to walk across the stage for graduation. The whole crowd gave her a standing ovation and broke into tears when she dragged her paralyzed legs across the stage with the help of leg braces and a walker to collect her diploma, after which she immediately sat back down in her wheelchair, which she will use to move around for the rest of her life.”

They’re toxic in an even greater way because as a disabled person, I didn’t realise till I was reading this how much I had internalised that. I genuinely have had feelings of fear and shame about using a chair or a walker if I get married. And why? Because I’m constantly seeing “heartwarming” stories about disabled people who shed their mobility aids for that moment. Why the hell am I afraid of using them to get married? Anyone who marries me or attends the wedding will know I need them and love me regardless.

here are some beautiful brides in chairs with dresses they ROCK. I know a lot of disabled ppl with internalized ableism think they “won’t look good” if they use their chair, but here’s some literally gorgeous gals for ur consideration

I made my addition to this post in June 2019. Its now January 2020 and I no longer feel guilty about the idea of going down the aisle one day with mobility aids.

Disabled people should be able to make whatever decision they want without the media turning it into this grand inspirational story.

Couldn’t pass up the opportunity to add my disabled joy to this post. Look at this love!

Taking the opportunity to add these photos of Jessica Kellgren-Fozard and her wife Claudia, from this twitter post. Jessica also has a youtube channel that’s primarily about disability and chronic illness and LGBT stuff (it’s amazing!) 

I would also like to personally share, Annika Victoria who ALSO has a youtube channel. This photo was taken from her instagram - she made her wedding dress dress herself, BY HAND. Her youtube channel is mostly DIY fashion and sewing tutorials. I love her so much, she’s so unapologetically herself and informative

I also wanna add these pictures of Ade Adepitan fucking rocking this badass suit at his wedding! Give my fellow disabled mascs some love too

Grace wearing Eridian Jewelry 💫

And how to dress like a bin chicken….

"You hear that? They're saying The Odyssey doesn't even have nobody!"

If you all will allow me a moment to analyze the competition as it exists, there's something interesting going on with the numbers.

i looked through the notes to see what this was (it’s cyber city oedo 808) and ended up crying laughing at the wikipedia article for it

every so often people start liking and reblogging this post from me, and every time i forget how funny it is until i watch it again. hey bentn. don’t crap ya paants if ya see a vampire out deeah. get lost. you wouldn’t recognize a gaddam vampire if one jumped up and bit you on the end of your fucken dick. So just get off my back.